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Austin316

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Ok so its my Birthday today, Im extremly hungover and wanna die, but here's the problem. My GF of 18 months whom I would have had a child with this last week had we not lost it at 6 months has not even bothered to call me since friday night. She knows its my bday today, but yet havn't heard a word from her, if she does not call and at least wish me a simple happy bday by midnight, what would you all do?
 
You sure shes ok?
 
Austin316 said:
Ok so its my Birthday today, Im extremly hungover and wanna die, but here's the problem. My GF of 18 months whom I would have had a child with this last week had we not lost it at 6 months has not even bothered to call me since friday night. She knows its my bday today, but yet havn't heard a word from her, if she does not call and at least wish me a simple happy bday by midnight, what would you all do?
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1) Relax, its just a bday.
2) Heppy BDay!
3) Do you want to marry this chick? If yes, then call her tomorrow and ask what's up? If no, then who cares?
 
Austin316 said:
Ok so its my Birthday today, Im extremly hungover and wanna die, but here's the problem. My GF of 18 months whom I would have had a child with this last week had we not lost it at 6 months has not even bothered to call me since friday night. She knows its my bday today, but yet havn't heard a word from her, if she does not call and at least wish me a simple happy bday by midnight, what would you all do?
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well how is your relationship with her. Are you two on speaking terms, still friends??....etc.

RADAR


Happy Birthday bro! :bday: :arty: :beer:
 
Oh yeah, Happy Bday maing
 
Sorry to hear that.

It's your Bday so you should enjoy it regardless but your girl could be going through a wide range of emotions so don't do anything rash and try to be understanding.
 
I know its just a bday, I don't expect a gift or anything from her, but shouldn't you be able to expect your SO to at least acknowledge you?

ANd I dunno where this is going, at this point Im weighing every little thing she does and she is aware of this bc Im not sure anymore, a simple happy bday would at least show I count for something to her woulnd't it?
 
Austin316 said:
I know its just a bday, I don't expect a gift or anything from her, but shouldn't you be able to expect your SO to at least acknowledge you?

ANd I dunno where this is going, at this point Im weighing every little thing she does and she is aware of this bc Im not sure anymore, a simple happy bday would at least show I count for something to her woulnd't it?
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"Weighing ever little thing she does..." WTF? Don't over think it. If it's causing you to do that...then drop it like its hawt.
 
Austin316 said:
well obviously if something happened Ill take that into consideration, but if not then what?
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LOL

Forgive me, Im 37


But why exactly havent you called her to see if shes ok since she hasnt called you in two days?

How long do you guys normally go without talking to each other?
 
yea thing is, this is the same girl who was pissed off at me bc I called her at 2am not midnight when it was her bday........ Ive told her lately Ive been having probs with this whole relationship bc I feel like she doesn't put anything into it and expects me to do everything. She doesn't wanna break up, she got upset, blah blah and then she may go and pull this kinda thing? I dunno I guess Im just irritated
 
U 2 R still together and she didnt acknowledge your birthday? That is odd... But then again, is she the type to not make a big deal about things like that. Common guy characteristic, but still it could be her style.

Dont stress. Life is too short to stress.
 
Austin316 said:
yea thing is, this is the same girl who was pissed off at me bc I called her at 2am not midnight when it was her bday........ Ive told her lately Ive been having probs with this whole relationship bc I feel like she doesn't put anything into it and expects me to do everything. She doesn't wanna break up, she got upset, blah blah and then she may go and pull this kinda thing? I dunno I guess Im just irritated
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lol...you called her at 2am to wish her a heppy bday? were you fucked or someting?

If you want to drop it, then drop it. Sheesh.
 
Patterns of behavior in a relationship are recognized within a few months to a year. Ask youself is this just the kind of person you are dating? Or is something out of the ordinary and you need to bring it up to her? Probably should go with your gut since youre the one whos been dating her for a year and a half.
 
Austin316 said:
yea thing is, this is the same girl who was pissed off at me bc I called her at 2am not midnight when it was her bday........ Ive told her lately Ive been having probs with this whole relationship bc I feel like she doesn't put anything into it and expects me to do everything. She doesn't wanna break up, she got upset, blah blah and then she may go and pull this kinda thing? I dunno I guess Im just irritated
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You may not want to hear this... but sounds to me like you need to take a breather from this thing. I mean, the relationship. Often times a new clarity comes from taking a big step back and pursuing life without the other person in it.

Let it go.


(PS - Happy Birthday)
 
Relationship is a long term thing.
If she calls, just casually mention how your birthday was.
See how she responds.
Make it an issue only when you are sure IT IS an issue.
If you want to marry her, try to work it out. I would mention that you are not sure about her and you tried to have a baby with her.
Otherwise, just forget about her and move on.
 
THe point with the whole calling her 2 hours late (in her mind) and her being pissed off at me, was just to demonstrate how double standarish she can be. How can you flip out on someone for not calling you the moment the clock strikes midnight and your bday starts, and then not even call you on your own? As of the last couple of months Ive stopped tolerating the whole double standard thing, so she knows if she wants to stay with me she has to put more into this relationship and she can't be controlling. GOing through last year, I dunno just told myself Im nto gonna let myself be upset over anything small and that Im not going to put up with BS, things have been fine since I told her all this, but here she goes and does this kinda thing, yea maybe I sound like Im thinking too much into this, but I dunno maybe Im just getting myself to a point of being real pissed off to make dumping her easier if she fails to call me or doens't have a good excuse
 
Beached Whale said:
You may not want to hear this... but sounds to me like you need to take a breather from this thing. I mean, the relationship. Often times a new clarity comes from taking a big step back and pursuing life without the other person in it.

Let it go.


(PS - Happy Birthday)
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I will provide warmth, caring, and nurturing for this single post and pray that it blossoms and multiplies into more of the same.
 
Happy bday bro, and I hope everything works out for ya. I gotta admit, unless she is at work or can physically not get to a phone I'd be pissed. I sure as hell know she would be.

no threadjacking intended, but what part of MN you in and what kinda snowfall you get this last round? I'm in Plymouth and we only got around 2 " or so.
 
Im not crying, Im just trying to figure out if I wanna be with someone who would wanna kill me if the situation was reversed
 
happy b-day
 
She may still be dealing with all the feelings from losing the baby and since you say it was last week the baby was to be born she could be reacting in ways towards you due to the pain of the loss- the baby connects her to you and each way around but she is still hurt obviously.
There are so many ways that poeple react even later down the road after the incident has passed. It could be her inadvertent way of being sad and holding guilt towards you. I know some couples that have lost a baby early on and they had their own ways of reacting even after they grieved and thought the feelings were somewhat healed and they could continue.

Not sure if i worded all of that correctly but i tried.
Of course i could be wrong and she could have her own reason.
I wouldnt get too upset until you talk to her.
I hope things get better for you though and want to wish you a good birthday.
 
The problem with me is that if someone doesn't call me for a while (at least certain people), I think I've done something wrong, they're mad at me, or whatever.

Basically, you just don't know unless you call them. She may have completely forgotten about your birthday. I've forgotten a couple of people's birthdays that I truly love and felt terrible about it after I found out a couple of days later (or a week later). Sometimes there's just so many things going on but you have every intention of doing something, but your mind just forgets - even things that you really wanted to remember.

None of us can tell you what she's thinking - you just have to call her. Perhaps she's wondering why you haven't called her . . .
 
superdave said:
Patterns of behavior in a relationship are recognized within a few months to a year. .
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The "Frequency of Blowjob" pattern tho is a tricky one. I think the frequency falls off once they get you to sign the contract.

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I'd call her to find out if she's OK, and assuming she is, she'd better have a real good REAL good reason why she didnt call you.

That kind of passive-aggressive behavior only gets worse as the relationship progresses btw if she's so inclined.
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bro i didnt read anything after the first couple of replies because really, the only opinion taht ever matters on this site is mine ;)

anyway, after a traumatic event like losing a baby etc, theres a decent chance that some feelings ahve come up and she is having a little trouble dealing with things. instead of turning this into a test, which is likely to cause more problems later on if she doesnt call, take the first step and say hello.

and try to have a happy birthday :D
 
She's been off lately hasn't she? She's sure not putting in the effort she used to. The least she can do is call.
 
Raina said:
She's been off lately hasn't she? She's sure not putting in the effort she used to. The least she can do is call.
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It's his birthday

My least she could do would involve at least head ;)
 
Spend some quality time browsing Raina's gallery to reaffirm your faith in the human race... then call her.

Sheesh.. if you had a bigger box of 'What If's' you could use them for squats.
 
patsfan1379 said:
I like the "maybe" boxes. Much heavier.
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so that's what box squats are...
 
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