serious contemplating..

[Buffy Beffy]

I know exactly how you feel, except in reverse. I've pondered this question myself....
If only ---- knew this, they wouldn't be around, despite the length of the rel. or friendship.
That's a tough one.
It is in the past and they have, in some way, grown from it. Everything about us makes us who we are...every circumstance we endure. But also, they should have told you. Maybe they weren't ready. I sure don't know.
The best thing to do right now in this situation is talk about it together. Find out everything. Why they didn't tell you long ago. Discuss how this effects a major factor in your relationship: trust. And after everything is 100% clear, contemplate the best solution for handling the situation.
I would say if it is REAL love....not this fake shit that is spreadin' around....then it will make it through this speed bump, despite the size. But as I say again, I don't know the situation.

 

[Seashell]

The thing I dislike the most about this type of situation is that it makes you wonder "...what ELSE has this person not told me.."

 

[satchboogie]

again this is a total hypothetical situation..

but everybody has a dark side, and in a marriage i'm sure that darkside is revealed at some point.

 

[sh4dowf4lcon]

need more details, like seashell said, it would depend...

 

[Burning_Inside]

hey satch..... Hypotheically hehe...I know a girl..Well I met her online about 4 years ago thru the AOL free personals. Hot as hell. Lived in the same state, but 6 hrs. away. We have tons of shit in common. I've talked to her on the phone a couple times, have seen her on webcam (while ont he phone with her) so I know this chick is real.

I can say that this is the only girl who I've known this long that I have never ever argued with, and one of the very very select few women who I've met online or in person in the past few years that I ENJOY interacting with online, or talking to. She's going to school in LA right now for makup/special effects for movies. She actually personally knows a few popular singers/bandmembers such as Maynard from Tool, a few guys from Static x, and Manson.
She has her act together, moreso than I can say about myself.

the punchline: She was/is a lapdancer at strip clubs.

 

[Becoming]

The thing I dislike the most about this type of situation is that it makes you wonder "...what ELSE has this person not told me.."

yeah, like how many tricks did she turn WHILE she was a stripper...

hypothetical questions suck, the don't have the requisite details... you can only give real answers to real questions, hypothetical questions can only have hypothetical answers...

 

[satchboogie]

hey satch..... Hypotheically hehe...I know a girl..Well I met her online about 4 years ago thru the AOL free personals. Hot as hell. Lived in the same state, but 6 hrs. away. We have tons of shit in common. I've talked to her on the phone a couple times, have seen her on webcam (while ont he phone with her) so I know this chick is real.



the punchline: She was/is a lapdancer at strip clubs.

thats tough bro.

i mean.. stripping isnt exactly a very 'normal' job.. spreadin pussy in front of total strangers.

no disrespect bro but i'm just a littel hesitant to have anything to do with girls into modeling/porn/acting/stripping.

 

[sh4dowf4lcon]

thats tough bro.
i mean.. stripping isnt exactly a very 'normal' job.. spreadin pussy in front of total strangers.
no disrespect bro but i'm just a littel hesitant to have anything to do with girls into modeling/porn/acting/stripping.

Okay, I see your point...if something happened to call in question the Character of someone you cared about...how to respond??

All you can do is talk to the person about how you feel...you cant change things...
you can only express that you feel betrayed or confused or whatever it is that you feel...If you had been with this person for a few years then you should give them the benefit of the doubt. -IMO
If talking and time doesnt bring back the trust, then you move on...
In a relationship the following applies 100% of the time: WITHOUT TRUST YOU HAVE NOTHING

 

[Bullit]

Satch, broly, ignore these jokesters
They don't respect threads like this.

I kinda know what you are talking about, and I'd like to help.

So first thing's first.... I need some info about your partner.
Like, whats his name?

 

[biteme]

scenario:

you've been goin out with your partner for a few years or longer when you find out something about their past that you dont like.

something, that if you had known on the first date, you wouldnt make a second date.

now, you're in love and years into a relationship.

how do you handle such situation?

Kill them and collect the insurance money.