serious contemplating..

[satchboogie]

scenario:

you've been goin out with your partner for a few years or longer when you find out something about their past that you dont like.

something, that if you had known on the first date, you wouldnt make a second date.

now, you're in love and years into a relationship.

how do you handle such situation?

 

[WarriorPL]

dude just say it... youre gay.

 

[hondacbrfi]

you can't have a future if you live in the past. How many people did he kill?

 

[Devastation]

what do you think. why does this past event change who she is today?

 

[Paulos]

Depends on what happened. Be more specific man.

 

[Seashell]

I think it depends what that "something" is...

..if it's bodies in the backyard.. I'd definately still have a problem with it, 2 years later..

..if it's that they had only JUST broken up with their ex 3 days before meeting you... that would have bothered me at the time, but not after 2 years anymore..

 

[PoyeBoy]

its hard man, I found out 6 years after the fact that my girlfriend kissed a guy, we had only been going out for about a month at that time, I can GUARANTEE that we would not be going out now if I would have found out at the time, im sure there would actually be 2 people in the hospital and one person in juvinile detention for a while, but thats besides the point

any way, if its done its done, no use dwelling over the past if it really cant affect the future or present, especially now since I know my girl wouldnt do that to me again, and people do stupid shit that they regret, if they dont acknowlage the fact that they fucked up would make it much worse by 10 folds

 

[alien amp pharm]

Well if it's something you should've known and he/she knew this, then I'd be more upset that he/she kept this from you all this time. i.e. lied.

What is it anyways? Perhaps you are over stressing it.

 

[magman1]

yeah, it depends what it is...few bodies, no biggie! but think about how different of a person you probably were six years ago!

 

[satchboogie]

actually, this is a total hypothetical question..

i mean, lets say you go out with somebody and down the line you found out that they used to strip?