seems like every woman i've met has either been raped or was abused as a child

[heatherrae]

well than elaborate heather, tell us why you talk about your Ex hubby beating your ass coming home drunk to everyone but you won't go to the police if you got raped?


i'm sure everyone here can figure that out

It's "well then elaborate." Jesus Christ, can't you form one correct sentence, man?

One has nothing to do with the other. He wasn't my ex-hubby. My ex-hubby was a saint and is a very dear friend of mine. My ex-bf was a psycho, and I talked about it. Had I been a man talking about a psycho ex, I'm sure you would have high fived about it.

I'm not sure why you think one has anything to do with the other? If I got raped I may not report it as things are today. I don't need the added hassle. Does that mean I would never speak of it? No, I never said that.

Really, there is nothing I could say to you that you would not attack. It really isn't any skin off my back. I know why you attack, and I find you very sad and pathetic.

 

[H_T_]

I think HT gets it because he has walked a mile in those shoes.

yeah. but not molestered. or raped. what happened with me has a certain bravado to it, i'm sure some fools aspire to it. the others have a lot of self appointed shame. which, makes me understand why the sentences for commiting those crimes can be life....

 

[notanalter]

It's

Really, there is nothing I could say to you that you would not attack. It really isn't any skin off my back. I know why you attack, and I find you very sad and pathetic.

lol...... please elaborate on this......

 

[heatherrae]

yeah. but not molestered. or raped. what happened with me has a certain bravado to it, i'm sure some fools aspire to it. the others have a lot of self appointed shame. which, makes me understand why the sentences for commiting those crimes can be life....

Yeah, you get it. You are good deep down in that big tough exterior of yours. Very good.

 

[Island Son]

I didn't say I advocate non-reporting. I said that as things stand in my life right now, I probably would not report because it isn't worth what a victim has to go through.

What if it was multiple times? And the person is also likely to assault others.
It could be like pringles, once they pop they can't stop.

 

[heatherrae]

What if it was multiple times? And the person is also likely to assault others.
It could be like pringles, once they pop they can't stop.

true. which weighs in favor of reporting...

I'm just stating how i feel about it from an emotional standpoint. I just would not feel like going through any more crap.

 

[blueta2]

true. which weighs in favor of reporting...

I'm just stating how i feel about it from an emotional standpoint. I just would not feel like going through any more crap.

if it was rape, it would be wise to report it though so the rapist does not do this to another woman!

 

[notanalter]

if it was rape, it would be wise to report it though so the rapist does not do this to another woman!

exactly

 

[heatherrae]

if it was rape, it would be wise to report it though so the rapist does not do this to another woman!

Well, if the prosecutor dismisses it because it is he said/she said after you have been drug through the mud for 6 months and asked a million questions, nothing is going to happen to them, anyway, and they will be free to do it again and again. That shit happens all the time. The only one who suffers is the victim. They are the ones hassled by it.

 

[blueta2]

Well, if the prosecutor dismisses it because it is he said/she said after you have been drug through the mud for 6 months and asked a million questions, nothing is going to happen to them, anyway, and they will be free to do it again and again. That shit happens all the time. The only one who suffers is the victim. They are the ones hassled by it.

possibly, but ya still have to try. You owe it to the other women.
It's not about "you" at that point, it's about the next 12 yr old he may do it to.
It would suck to be dragged through the mud when u are suffering from rape, but the regret of not trying certainly would outweigh the suffering of fighting for your rights?!