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scorpiogirl
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Nelms - thank you so much. I guess because I've known him for so long and I understand WHY he says stupid shit, that's why I've stayed with him. I have constantly put my own feelings aside while making excuses as to why he acts the way he does. I've known that was wrong of me for years now, but I always just "felt bad" for him when I would leave.
He's now telling me he'll do anything to fix the situation, counseling or whatever (which we've done in the past and look how well it worked). But I've been down this road with him about 7 times. It just doesn't get better and I'm left mentally exhausted.
When I found this website, it was a turning point for me. I found people who I could relate to who found some value in my accomplishments. That's all I wanted, just to feel like my life is worth something to someone - including myself. Everytime I come to work, I feel great knowing I've got a good thing here. I'm always confident. Everytime I go home, I'm on the defense explaining why I did this or how I felt I needed to do that. It's just not worth it. I've lost myself.
I'm a strong woman - that's why he liked me to begin with....but he also doesn't like me because of it and I'm being held down when I should be enouraged to do what makes me happy. In a relationship, if your partner is NOT enouraging and supportive, there's a problem.
I'm putting myself out there, but if I can help one person with my misery - that makes it worth it to me. I don't wish this crap on anyone. I'm totally uprooting my household. It's a HUGE inconvenience - and scary....but I have one goal in sight and nothing's going to stop me now. ....
GG - thank you for your support (feel like Bartles & James-lol). Thank you all for your support. You have NO idea how much it means to me!
He's now telling me he'll do anything to fix the situation, counseling or whatever (which we've done in the past and look how well it worked). But I've been down this road with him about 7 times. It just doesn't get better and I'm left mentally exhausted.
When I found this website, it was a turning point for me. I found people who I could relate to who found some value in my accomplishments. That's all I wanted, just to feel like my life is worth something to someone - including myself. Everytime I come to work, I feel great knowing I've got a good thing here. I'm always confident. Everytime I go home, I'm on the defense explaining why I did this or how I felt I needed to do that. It's just not worth it. I've lost myself.
I'm a strong woman - that's why he liked me to begin with....but he also doesn't like me because of it and I'm being held down when I should be enouraged to do what makes me happy. In a relationship, if your partner is NOT enouraging and supportive, there's a problem.
I'm putting myself out there, but if I can help one person with my misery - that makes it worth it to me. I don't wish this crap on anyone. I'm totally uprooting my household. It's a HUGE inconvenience - and scary....but I have one goal in sight and nothing's going to stop me now. ....
GG - thank you for your support (feel like Bartles & James-lol). Thank you all for your support. You have NO idea how much it means to me!
momsgettinfit
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scorpiogirl said:Nelms - thank you so much. I guess because I've known him for so long and I understand WHY he says stupid shit, that's why I've stayed with him. I have constantly put my own feelings aside while making excuses as to why he acts the way he does. I've known that was wrong of me for years now, but I always just "felt bad" for him when I would leave.
He's now telling me he'll do anything to fix the situation, counseling or whatever (which we've done in the past and look how well it worked). But I've been down this road with him about 7 times. It just doesn't get better and I'm left mentally exhausted.
When I found this website, it was a turning point for me. I found people who I could relate to who found some value in my accomplishments. That's all I wanted, just to feel like my life is worth something to someone - including myself. Everytime I come to work, I feel great knowing I've got a good thing here. I'm always confident. Everytime I go home, I'm on the defense explaining why I did this or how I felt I needed to do that. It's just not worth it. I've lost myself.
I'm a strong woman - that's why he liked me to begin with....but he also doesn't like me because of it and I'm being held down when I should be enouraged to do what makes me happy. In a relationship, if your partner is NOT enouraging and supportive, there's a problem.
I'm putting myself out there, but if I can help one person with my misery - that makes it worth it to me. I don't wish this crap on anyone. I'm totally uprooting my household. It's a HUGE inconvenience - and scary....but I have one goal in sight and nothing's going to stop me now. ....
GG - thank you for your support (feel like Bartles & James-lol). Thank you all for your support. You have NO idea how much it means to me!
Girl do I ever know where you comming from. If ya need an ear pm me anytime.
Whooaaaa girl I just got a hold of this! You kidding me! What an ass! I told you that last week. Girl from your pictures you are beautiful (well the back of you 
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He's scared of losing you and he should feel that way by the way he treats you. From what you said he constantly is talking you down, lowering your self-esteem to make you feel like a piece of crap. I bet it's actually him that has the low self-esteem, he's jealous that you have friends, jealous that you look good, jealous that you are working out dieting, running a business, and everything else you do.
What state are you in again? Besides confusion....
I know you are in Michigan, or Illinos, Indiana?... I'm sorry I get this all messed up.
If you were close enough I have a spare room till you figure out what you want to do.
I'm pissed!
That's why I got a divorce, and I quit the dating thing and focused on me. Once I set myself up then I found the other issue of guys who now are intimdated by me, my job, my self-esteem, my goals, commitment to working out and eating, and of all stupid things my house. I'm like it's not about money, it's not about material things, it's all about happiness and following your dreams!
I'm 100% backing you on the move and what you want!
)He's scared of losing you and he should feel that way by the way he treats you. From what you said he constantly is talking you down, lowering your self-esteem to make you feel like a piece of crap. I bet it's actually him that has the low self-esteem, he's jealous that you have friends, jealous that you look good, jealous that you are working out dieting, running a business, and everything else you do.
What state are you in again? Besides confusion....
I know you are in Michigan, or Illinos, Indiana?... I'm sorry I get this all messed up.
If you were close enough I have a spare room till you figure out what you want to do.
I'm pissed!
That's why I got a divorce, and I quit the dating thing and focused on me. Once I set myself up then I found the other issue of guys who now are intimdated by me, my job, my self-esteem, my goals, commitment to working out and eating, and of all stupid things my house. I'm like it's not about money, it's not about material things, it's all about happiness and following your dreams!
I'm 100% backing you on the move and what you want!
Roonytunes
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SG, just wanted to let you know that you have my 100% support in whatever you decide to do. Your happiness is #1.
To me, you are an amazingly strong, kind and determined person. I saw you reach your cutting goal despite whatever life brought your way. You showed such generousity and kindness by being the first one to step up to send IP and Nelms a care package. I see you being a loving and caring mother to your daughter (loved how you accompanied her and her bf for V-day and sat at another table). Not to mention, you are a successful business owner and it seems like you are very independant and know how to take care of yourself. You have nothing to worry about...you will come out of all of this just fine!! 
To me, you are an amazingly strong, kind and determined person.
I saw you reach your cutting goal despite whatever life brought your way. You showed such generousity and kindness by being the first one to step up to send IP and Nelms a care package. I see you being a loving and caring mother to your daughter (loved how you accompanied her and her bf for V-day and sat at another table). Not to mention, you are a successful business owner and it seems like you are very independant and know how to take care of yourself. You have nothing to worry about...you will come out of all of this just fine!!
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Thanks, MGF! I just may do that!!!
Treil, my goal is to make it all about me again. I'm not interested in dating AT ALL. I just want to be alone and do my own thing. I'm in NE Indiana - Acutally only about an hour South of Coldwater.
I've got 5 properties I'm interested in, the mortgage company has already ran my credit and I've got the realtor looking for more properties for me. I told them I need immediate occupancy - like yesterday! She called me and said "I hear your hair's on fire" - lol - I said YES, AND I'M RUNNING DOWN THE STREET! Need to hurry! lol
I'm joining a gym today. As soon as my daughter gets out of the tanning bed I'm leaving to go over there.
Treil, my goal is to make it all about me again. I'm not interested in dating AT ALL. I just want to be alone and do my own thing. I'm in NE Indiana - Acutally only about an hour South of Coldwater.
I've got 5 properties I'm interested in, the mortgage company has already ran my credit and I've got the realtor looking for more properties for me. I told them I need immediate occupancy - like yesterday! She called me and said "I hear your hair's on fire" - lol - I said YES, AND I'M RUNNING DOWN THE STREET! Need to hurry! lol
I'm joining a gym today. As soon as my daughter gets out of the tanning bed I'm leaving to go over there.
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scorpiogirl
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All of you are so amazing! I couldn't ask for a better group to share with! - even though it is sometimes embarassing!!Roonytunes said:SG, just wanted to let you know that you have my 100% support in whatever you decide to do. Your happiness is #1.
To me, you are an amazingly strong, kind and determined person.
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scorpiogirl said:
-KEEP THIS IN YOUR HEAD AT ALL TIMES!!!! Do not forget what matters most...and that is YOU!!! Also, I would say that you are VERY much LOVED by everyone here!!!!!!! A great girl like you deserves the best and you will have it as soon as you get rid of the extra weight on your back....and that is the jerk you gave 7 years of your LIFE...only to find out that the whole time he was manipulating you to get you where he wants you. Well, the time has come to FINALLY be your self again.....Hang in there
-Lost of hugs and lots of love,
*Aries
You are not alone about the issues you have brought up ... many of us probably have experienced something similar in the past... but about the EF thing ...
How can you trust people you've never met? never seen? never even spoke to on the phone? How can you call these people your friends? How do you know they aren't lying? That's not really the same girl before & after ... So were you on EF all day again??
You're nuts ... You trust too easily ... Get off the computer ...
blah blah blah, friends, family, significant others ... can jump to conclusions, assume things, think they 'know' what's going on ... I can't really explain what the friendships I've formed on here mean to my life or why I choose to spend countless hours on here answering anything & everything I can ... which makes it extremely difficult trying to explain anything of the like to my loved ones... so I just don't anymore. Mr B finally understands but at first he was being overprotective & concerned. Now at least he 'gets' it ... but does want his time as well, when I often find myself drawn to EF to check on my girls, posts, questions etc. For me, that part is never easy to explain or is it easily accepted once it's out there.
I agree with Roony 110% ... 200% ...
And I just Treil b/c that's the type of lady she is ...
SG I'm sorry honey
I wish there was something I could do.
How can you trust people you've never met? never seen? never even spoke to on the phone? How can you call these people your friends? How do you know they aren't lying? That's not really the same girl before & after ... So were you on EF all day again??
You're nuts ... You trust too easily ... Get off the computer ...
blah blah blah, friends, family, significant others ... can jump to conclusions, assume things, think they 'know' what's going on ... I can't really explain what the friendships I've formed on here mean to my life or why I choose to spend countless hours on here answering anything & everything I can ... which makes it extremely difficult trying to explain anything of the like to my loved ones... so I just don't anymore. Mr B finally understands but at first he was being overprotective & concerned. Now at least he 'gets' it ... but does want his time as well, when I often find myself drawn to EF to check on my girls, posts, questions etc. For me, that part is never easy to explain or is it easily accepted once it's out there.
I agree with Roony 110% ... 200% ...
And I just
Treil b/c that's the type of lady she is ... SG I'm sorry honey
I wish there was something I could do.
WOW SG I didn't realize what you have been going through.
It's terrible that he can't see what a beauitful person (and when I say this I mean both inside and out) he has right in front of him, and that he's pushing her away because of his insecurities.
I hope life gives you all the happiness you deserve, and just wanted to show my support to a fabulous woman!!!
It's terrible that he can't see what a beauitful person (and when I say this I mean both inside and out) he has right in front of him, and that he's pushing her away because of his insecurities.
I hope life gives you all the happiness you deserve, and just wanted to show my support to a fabulous woman!!!
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