Rude comments about child's development

[gorillahung]

Why do people have to point out that their baby was more developed than my nephew at the same age? He's a year old and people will say things like "my child could walk at that age" or "he could say a few words at that age" etc. My sister gets comments like that all the time. My nephew nearly died from a ruptured colon when he was 5 days old. He's been through two major surgeries and he spent the first 6 weeks of his life in the intensive care unit. I think that may have set back his development a little bit. He doesn't have any brain problems but he spent those 6 weeks unable to move with a bunch of wires connected to him.

Regardless of what anyone else says, I love the little guy. Our entire family loves him. He's one good looking baby and he's so happy most of the time despite what he went through. He will learn to do things at his own pace. My face lights up with joy when I talk about him.

 

[OMEGA]

They Thought I was retarded or "slow" in Catholic School fyi

I was not Catholic of course so they treated me even worst

true story


if your his uncle he already has a huge advantage since your obviously care

 

[ortiz34]

My daughter has minor physical development issues (she get's better everyday though), don't even get me started.

 

[Smurfy]

Why do people have to point out that their baby was more developed than my nephew at the same age? He's a year old and people will say things like "my child could walk at that age" or "he could say a few words at that age" etc. My sister gets comments like that all the time. My nephew nearly died from a ruptured colon when he was 5 days old. He's been through two major surgeries and he spent the first 6 weeks of his life in the intensive care unit. I think that may have set back his development a little bit. He doesn't have any brain problems but he spent those 6 weeks unable to move with a bunch of wires connected to him.

Regardless of what anyone else says, I love the little guy. Our entire family loves him. He's one good looking baby and he's so happy most of the time despite what he went through. He will learn to do things at his own pace. My face lights up with joy when I talk about him.

those are just people who are ignorant. how fucking rude of theme

 

[75th]

Shoot them next time.

Seriously.

 

[RottenWillow]

those are just people who are ignorant.

Exactly. Just thoughtless knuckleheads.

 

[ceo]

They may not know the child's history though, and it is natural for people to want to brag about their own kids.

It doesn't really matter, even perfectly healthy, "normal" children will develop at different rates. Some develop faster physically, some develop faster mentally. Sometimes kids who don't have much of a vocabulary, and seem "behind the curve" will suddenly start stringing together complex sentences (for that age range). Some kids seem to just sit back and take it all in, then when they're ready, they just go.

Try not to worry about it, and just keep enjoying that little guy. He will grow up fast enough.

 

[iggy]

Every kid learns and develops differently.
your nephew could be the next president gorilla....
you never know.

As for people who try to talk to you like that, just tell them you're nephew can already surf (or something bogus) to make fun of them.

 

[binö]

as a child that was extremely jacked and tan i was always uncomfortable when
people made rude and jealous comments.

 

[puddlemonkey]

just tell them you're nephew can already surf (or something bogus) to make fun of them.

Or tell them he already knows how to properly use your/you're.

 

[mrplunkey]

They may not know the child's history though, and it is natural for people to want to brag about their own kids.

It doesn't really matter, even perfectly healthy, "normal" children will develop at different rates. Some develop faster physically, some develop faster mentally. Sometimes kids who don't have much of a vocabulary, and seem "behind the curve" will suddenly start stringing together complex sentences (for that age range). Some kids seem to just sit back and take it all in, then when they're ready, they just go.

Try not to worry about it, and just keep enjoying that little guy. He will grow up fast enough.

^^^ this.

Trying to measure a kid's development via a few spot-checks is a terrible idea. They often develop skills in spurts.

 

[lander2312]

Even though all of us have been hurt by insensitive or cruel words we still forget to be careful when we speak. I have noticed that some who are quick to point out how great their kids are, are the ones who sucked when they were kids. An example of this a guy i went to school with as a kid brags on how good of an athlete his kid is now and he is just like him...lol. The problem with that is I never remember him playing any type of ball when we were young and I played every sport. SOme try to live thru there kids since they sucked when they were little. Like everone else has said....screw what they say and enjoy the little man for what he is...and that perfect to you.

 

[jackangel]

they should have focused on you instead. fertile ground.

 

[javaguru]

Because the world is about competition....Honestly, stop the fucking participation award! I'll quote me some Shakespeare as I proclaim," Let the boy earn his spurs."
I was raised in a high achievement environment and I rose to the occasion. Had my parents not expected me to achieve high grades and go to college things might have been different. Likewise, the encouragement of my father, for my achievements in sports inspired me to live up to my potential.

 

[Strongbow]

People are fucking idiots. Be thankful he is alive and making progress, and don't worry so much about what other fuckers say and think.

 

[Underwraps]

People are thoughtless like that. My son has moderate Autism, but at the mild end ("high functioning") end of the spectrum are Asperger's Syndrome kids/people. Examples? Bill Gates and every character in Napolean Dynamite and some of the staff of The Office, maybe Forrest Gump, Oh, and the guy who invented the exploding guitars for KISS. They can be endearing and also just blunt idiots. IF they have this as an excuse they can be like that- thoughtlessly blunt. So, when people stare at my kid b/c he's crazy running around all over the place and makes me look like a horrible mom, and people say stuff. I just think..."Aaaah, undiagnosed Aspergerian. I feel for you." If they're normal and still brag and say stuff like that I think "Oh how sad that you have no excuse to be an insensitive IDIOT."

I want to buy a T-Shirt for my son that says "I have Autism. What's your excuse?"

 

[gorillahung]

Because the world is about competition....Honestly, stop the fucking participation award! I'll quote me some Shakespeare as I proclaim," Let the boy earn his spurs."
I was raised in a high achievement environment and I rose to the occasion. Had my parents not expected me to achieve high grades and go to college things might have been different. Likewise, the encouragement of my father, for my achievements in sports inspired me to live up to my potential.

I'm talking about a 12 month old baby. A very cute, funny, and happy baby. The doctors said his early health problems did not cause any type of brain problems. I was a little worried that it would because he had a lot of blood loss at one point but they managed to get him a transfusion in time. The little guy just got a late start in development.

 

[gorillahung]

Here's a picture of my best buddy in the world:

http://a05-b05.mypicturetown.com:80/P2PwebCmdController/cache/KJJxpLa4IRytOdK-Ix%26mVo%25l*oMadfus9k01uInP-W2_Rjd2wCN16BLUn1n-h5Y/item.jpg?rot=1

I think he's perfect. He's the only baby in our family so he's the first grandchild for my parents and the only nephew for me (I have two step nieces and a step nephew but they are adults).

 

[ceo]

what a cute boy! Looks like a happy kid to me.

 

[javaguru]

I'm talking about a 12 month old baby. A very cute, funny, and happy baby. The doctors said his early health problems did not cause any type of brain problems. I was a little worried that it would because he had a lot of blood loss at one point but they managed to get him a transfusion in time. The little guy just got a late start in development.

That's my point...don't expect less from him or hold him to a lower standard based on what he has already overcome, he's a fighter. When I was doing my assessment for kindergarten I was very uncoordinated and deemed underdeveloped...My first grade teacher wanted to hold me back because I was several months behind in school work, which I made up in my free time when threatened with being held back, and I was placed in a remedial reading class in second grade. By the time I hit high school I could use the jump rope like an artist plays an instrument and I went on to achieve multiple college degrees; I consider myself successful.

 

[jnevin]

They Thought I was retarded or "slow" in Catholic School fyi

I was not Catholic of course so they treated me even worst

true story


if your his uncle he already has a huge advantage since your obviously care

For lolz.

 

[ortiz34]

For lolz.

lol! I missed that. Guess I'm petarded too

 

[trex74]

That's a cute kid.
"Development" doesn't mean shit. I walked at 10 months, read National Geographic when i was two, recited Shakespeare by 7, was placed in gifted programs at 8, competed against people ten years older than me in equestrian competitions at ten, was deemed advanced and perfect in every single way-mentally & physically by parents, authorities, schools and tests, and i turned out to be one backwards ass person in terms of emotional development...couldn't make it through the day without being on some kind of drug for 20 years, and only now realize that I am not special, no one is special, we're all just the same, and we all want the same things in life, and can get them if we just work hard with what we've got.
so no need to worry, I am sure the little guy is just fine. those people are dumbasses and really don't know any better and have no sense of tact.
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