Question for people that have quit drinking...

[jnevin]

Exactly how long does it take for people to stop acting like you're a goddamn leper when you say you don't wanta drink when you go to a party, bbq, boating, etc? It's no big deal if you don't want a cigarette, to smoke weed or do any other drugs. God forbid someone asks if you want a beer and you say no. "Why? Are you ok?" Three people all of a sudden care that you're not going to drink. These aren't people I used to hang out with when I drank, just newer acquaintences. I'm annoyed. I'm going wakeboarding today and am already thinking about this shit.

 

[chefbone]

Are you on the wagon...If so, good for you. It's not easy but it's an honorable thing. I was a big drinker but now only once a week. It's 6 days a week less than what I used to drink.

 

[jenscats5]

Exactly how long does it take for people to stop acting like you're a goddamn leper when you say you don't wanta drink when you go to a party, bbq, boating, etc? It's no big deal if you don't want a cigarette, to smoke weed or do any other drugs. God forbid someone asks if you want a beer and you say no. "Why? Are you ok?" Three people all of a sudden care that you're not going to drink. These aren't people I used to hang out with when I drank, just newer acquaintences. I'm annoyed. I'm going wakeboarding today and am already thinking about this shit.

I really don't know the answer to this, but it is very annoying.....sad that people can only enjoy themselves when they are drinking.....

 

[jnevin]

Are you on the wagon...If so, good for you. It's not easy but it's an honorable thing. I was a big drinker but now only once a week. It's 6 days a week less than what I used to drink.

I am and thanks. I've pretty much been clean for 5+ months with a 3 day fuckup a few weeks ago. It just confirmed that I'm doing the right thing. It's just funny/ annoying to me that grown ass professionals are peer pressuring me about drinking. Fucking bugs me. I might run one over today if they fall when I'm towing them.

 

[needtogetaas]

I really don't know the answer to this, but it is very annoying.....sad that people can only enjoy themselves when they are drinking.....

I know wtf lets go have a drink girl.

 

[KillahBee]

It NEVER stops. EVER. EVER.
































EVER

But that's a good thing. Cause it means you can stop hoping for it to end and start figuring out ways to deal with it, short of sticking a Philips head screwdriver into someone's cornea. Some tactics I have used:

- Best one - make a joke out of it. think up good one-liners that end up embarrassing the person who is ripping on you.
- Think of some real weird responses. Like, when someone asks you why you're not drinking and gives you that look, say, "Cause i don't want to mess with my coke high", etc. Or tell them you are scared and have never drank before, then take a sip of their beer and start screaming and spit it all over them. "NO!!! I have tasted sin!!!!!"
- Tell people you are training for something - marathon, triathlon, Nathan's Hot Dog Eating contest.

 

[Mercere]

I can't really understand why alcohol is this big of a deal in America. Unless someone is suffering from alcoholism, why make any conscious and forced effort to avoid alcohol?
Same with "not drinking." If a person doesn't want to drink, why is this so weird?

 

[Huckster]

The answer to your original question is FOREVER.Unless they are wagoning it themselves,they will always look at you like you are some sort of monk with a crucifix.In my dry times,I just avoid putting myself in those environments all together.

 

[KillahBee]

I can't really understand why alcohol is this big of a deal in America. Unless someone is suffering from alcoholism, why make any conscious and forced effort to avoid alcohol?
Same with "not drinking." If a person doesn't want to drink, why is this so weird?

Well, first off we didn't grow up with it like many Europeans. So it's a different game over here.

Second, people have different reasons to avoid it. It is a drug, you know...and it has a LOT of negative side effects (mental and physical). So...yeah.

 

[jnevin]

I can't really understand why alcohol is this big of a deal in America. Unless someone is suffering from alcoholism, why make any conscious and forced effort to avoid alcohol?
Same with "not drinking." If a person doesn't want to drink, why is this so weird?

My family is Irish, I'm the first one born here. Booze killed both of my grandfathers, my grandmother, dad, and brother are drunks, and the rest of the family drinks too much. I do suffer. I'm not a good drinker. Edit: I'm a fucking awesome drinker, but I'll die from it if I keep going the way I did. I just don't get why people care. I know the same people would think I was fucked in the head if I started a cycle and asked them If they'd like a shot.

And KB... LMAO. I may have to use a couple of those.

 

[KillahBee]

My family is Irish, I'm the first one born here. Booze killed both of my grandfathers, my grandmother, dad, and brother are drunks, and the rest of the family drinks too much. I do suffer. I'm not a good drinker. Edit: I'm a fucking awesome drinker, but I'll die from it if I keep going the way I did. I just don't get why people care. I know the same people would think I was fucked in the head if I started a cycle and asked them If they'd like a shot.

And KB... LMAO. I may have to use a couple of those.

People are intimindated by strong, independent people. And not drinking in social situations in this country typically goes against the group mentality, and that takes balls, strength and some will power. They all intimidate people.

Seriously, try some of ym suggestions out. I think the principles are spot on -turn an annoying situation into something entertaining, all while you look good in front of other people at the way you dealt with it.

 

[KillahBee]

Now, if we could only figure out a way to make people stop making fun of you male pattern baldness...

 

[jnevin]

Now, if we could only figure out a way to make people stop making fun of you male pattern baldness...

My good shaped head keeps me from getting too much shit about that, maddafagga. It's the skinhead questions that crack me up. Because, yeah... a bunch of skinheads go to work in Joseph Abboud, Hugo Boss, etc. But I guess the fact that I have a Dobie clinches it.

 

[FISHTALES]

Exactly how long does it take for people to stop acting like you're a goddamn leper when you say you don't wanta drink when you go to a party, bbq, boating, etc? It's no big deal if you don't want a cigarette, to smoke weed or do any other drugs. God forbid someone asks if you want a beer and you say no. "Why? Are you ok?" Three people all of a sudden care that you're not going to drink. These aren't people I used to hang out with when I drank, just newer acquaintences. I'm annoyed. I'm going wakeboarding today and am already thinking about this shit.

for ever

 

[musclemom]

God I went through this not too long ago, went out for the stepdaughters graduation and I was drinking bottled water, I've just realized a) I'm drinking WAY too much and b) I really want to lose some excess BF. I got enough questions that made me feel like I had to justify my not drinking ...

IMO, I kind of think it's a guilt thing, as in the people who are drinking feel guilty ... it's like smoking, it's so much easier to light up whenever there is someone else is around to smoke with.

Even my husband is stressed out over having an occasional drink around me, and he admits he feels bad that he's drinking while I'm not drinking. I have no idea why, I've never been bothered by drinking when he wasn't.

BTW, in addition to the suggestions above for reasons why you're not drinking you could say:

a) you're on antibiotics;
b) you suffer from migraine headaches and one of your big triggers is alcohol.
c) you don't think the way alcohol makes you feel is worth the way it leaves you feeling the next day.
d) Or -- my own personal favorite -- be really ballsy, look them right in the eye and say, "I'm an alcoholic, will you please stop fucking with my recovery?"

 

[KillahBee]

d) Or -- my own personal favorite -- be really ballsy, look them right in the eye and say, "I'm an alcoholic, will you please stop fucking with my recovery?"

i was going to suggest that one as well, but I think it should only be used when dealing with someone you do not care about and have no association with (and who has no association with your circle of friends). Basically, a fucking asshole. I say this b/c it would just create such an uncomfortable vibe that it may hurt you in the end, if this is in a social situation

 

[Sub-Zero]

Exactly how long does it take for people to stop acting like you're a goddamn leper when you say you don't wanta drink when you go to a party, bbq, boating, etc? It's no big deal if you don't want a cigarette, to smoke weed or do any other drugs. God forbid someone asks if you want a beer and you say no. "Why? Are you ok?" Three people all of a sudden care that you're not going to drink. These aren't people I used to hang out with when I drank, just newer acquaintences. I'm annoyed. I'm going wakeboarding today and am already thinking about this shit.

i just say

"i dont drink because its poison"

they are like fag

im like "fuck u" shove them and then they never ask again.

half the time everyone thinks im wasted anyway...

someone asked me for a ride and this other kid goes "are u kidding me, hes fucking wasted ull die"

im like "yes, i am" but only cause i didnt wanna give the ride.

but i wasnt

i like pot

 

[Sub-Zero]

It NEVER stops. EVER. EVER.





But that's a good thing. Cause it means you can stop hoping for it to end and start figuring out ways to deal with it, short of sticking a Philips head screwdriver into someone's cornea. Some tactics I have used:

- Best one - make a joke out of it. think up good one-liners that end up embarrassing the person who is ripping on you.
- Think of some real weird responses. Like, when someone asks you why you're not drinking and gives you that look, say, "Cause i don't want to mess with my coke high", etc. Or tell them you are scared and have never drank before, then take a sip of their beer and start screaming and spit it all over them. "NO!!! I have tasted sin!!!!!"
- Tell people you are training for something - marathon, triathlon, Nathan's Hot Dog Eating contest.

lol@ how fucking weak everyone in this thread is.

or you can be like "because i dont fucking want to, why the fuck do u fucking give a fuck u fucking piece of shit" and then just stair at them with a deathstair untill they apologize.

i did that to some kid on friday, he pissed me off so like every 10 minutes if he said somthing to me i looked at him like i was gunna kill him, and hed be like "im not gunna apologize this time..... waht did i do....i cant tell if ur kididng for real man ur scaring me.... im sorry"

then id laugh and point and be like no problem i forgive u man.


GROW SOME BALLS

u dont wanna drink because its unhealthy, u dont want to, it makes u feel bad, u dont need to,

or just tell them their wife doesnt likeit when u drink

 

[KillahBee]

lol@ how fucking weak everyone in this thread is.

or you can be like "because i dont fucking want to, why the fuck do u fucking give a fuck u fucking piece of shit" and then just stair at them with a deathstair untill they apologize.

i did that to some kid on friday, he pissed me off so like every 10 minutes if he said somthing to me i looked at him like i was gunna kill him, and hed be like "im not gunna apologize this time..... waht did i do....i cant tell if ur kididng for real man ur scaring me.... im sorry"

then id laugh and point and be like no problem i forgive u man.


GROW SOME BALLS

u dont wanna drink because its unhealthy, u dont want to, it makes u feel bad, u dont need to,

or just tell them their wife doesnt likeit when u drink

Life sort of changes a bit once you grow pubic hair and move out of Mommy's.

You'll see.

 

[Sub-Zero]

Life sort of changes a bit once you grow pubic hair and move out of Mommy's.

You'll see.

you mean you become too scared to be honest with your friends and have to make up excuses and justify not poisoning yourself?

 

[motodawg]

Good for you they wish they could say no or they don't understand that some people have a problem with feeling changing substances. Anyway you'll always have people say ya sure you don't want one......

 

[musclemom]

i was going to suggest that one as well, but I think it should only be used when dealing with someone you do not care about and have no association with (and who has no association with your circle of friends). Basically, a fucking asshole. I say this b/c it would just create such an uncomfortable vibe that it may hurt you in the end, if this is in a social situation

True, but it also CAN be said sardonically and come off as a really dark joke.

Most of the people who hang with me in real life consider me a bit of a bitch anyway, kind of part of the package

I lost custody of the friends in the divorce, I don't have a circle of friends anymore ... more like the barest handful

 

[Spartacus]

I quit for almost 9 years
I'm going to quit again
one of these days

 

[Spartacus]

I drink to make other people interesting

 

[big4life]

Your "real friends" will respect and understand your choices. As for other people, who cares what they think? Look them in the eyes and tell them, "I choose not to drink." Most people will back off at that, unless they are drunk, or complete idiots. In either case turn your back on them, because you don't need either in your life.

 

[caligirl]

I'm not a drinker, neither is my husband and we often had to go to functions and events where the booze is flowing. Our remedy was to have sparkling water with a lime in a bucket glass... works every time, they don't know whats in there and they usually don't ask unless they want to buy you a drink then tell them you need to slow down, and ask for a Peligrino....
After awhile your real friends will get used to the idea of you not drinking and will eventually let up. Takes time.

 

[newbie210]

I tell ppl that I'm cutting or I would get a coke and drink that, usually no one questioned if there was booze it in, especially if you bring someone else a drink at hte same time. If that all sounds like too much work tell them to piss off. I had to change my friends it got so bad and for some ppl it will never end they think they can help you rediscover your old ways.

 

[sublime35]

you mean you become too scared to be honest with your friends and have to make up excuses and justify not poisoning yourself?

LOL that's fucking funny. KB i took you as a more rational person than that. I mean trying to say that lying is needed more as you get older, compared to younger people is ignorant.

I don't like to drink because I don't like the feeling of being drunk. I'd rather smoke weed instead. Not that it's any better for my body and I don't do that on a regular basis either, because i'm crazy enough as it is. People probably think i'm always on something.

People ask me if I want a beer, I just say no thanks, i'm good. If they ask why, i just tell them i don't like drinking.

I have a father that's slowly turning in to an alcoholic. When he drinks he's a fucking idiot and he seems to have no self control. When i was 15 i was taking shots of Tequila during the day because I was bored.

I don't want to turn in to my father in that aspect. So no thanks I'll pass.

 

[KillahBee]

LOL that's fucking funny. KB i took you as a more rational person than that. I mean trying to say that lying is needed more as you get older, compared to younger people is ignorant.

Seeing "lying" in my post is all you, not anyone else.

I am rational, which means I take things for what they are. If you believe that honesty is the best policy in every situation, then you will lead a tough life and will likely not get a lot of things you need. Furthermore, please point out where I advocated lying?! lol, it ain't there.

Taking the time to explain why you don't drink at these types of functions is boring and it gets old quick. I simply told jnevin to have some fun with it.

Seems pretty rational to me.

 

[blueta2]

Exactly how long does it take for people to stop acting like you're a goddamn leper when you say you don't wanta drink when you go to a party, bbq, boating, etc? It's no big deal if you don't want a cigarette, to smoke weed or do any other drugs. God forbid someone asks if you want a beer and you say no. "Why? Are you ok?" Three people all of a sudden care that you're not going to drink. These aren't people I used to hang out with when I drank, just newer acquaintences. I'm annoyed. I'm going wakeboarding today and am already thinking about this shit.

If your friends are saying stuff like this to you, then you need to change friends.
Not cool that they would say this knowing u are sober.
People will stop saying this when you just ignore them or when you hang with mature ppl.

 

[sublime35]

Seeing "lying" in my post is all you, not anyone else.

I am rational, which means I take things for what they are. If you believe that honesty is the best policy in every situation, then you will lead a tough life and will likely not get a lot of things you need. Furthermore, please point out where I advocated lying?! lol, it ain't there.

Taking the time to explain why you don't drink at these types of functions is boring and it gets old quick. I simply told jnevin to have some fun with it.

Seems pretty rational to me.

I certainly don't believe honesty is always the best policy. LOL.
I think lying wasn't the right word, and i re-read all the posts and see what you're saying about having a little fun with it. I was more/less going off SubZ's post about him saying "grow some balls and tell the truth" and you said that things change once you get older. Maybe you were joking, idk.

I agree that explaining is dumb, i certainly find that unnessecary and if it gets past me saying "no thanks i dont want a drink" my answer is just "because I don't". I don't need to explain myself to anyone and would make it clear, pretty quickly that I'm not about to answer a questionaire about why i dont.

So i take back what I said about lying and I guess having some fun with it is cool and I may have to give that "coke" line a try if the situation comes up.

 

[KillahBee]

never listen to SubZM.

he has testicle issues

 

[sublime35]

never listen to SubZM.

he has testicle issues

lol

 

[Rabid_Goose]

The parties I goto have a "No Pressure Rule." If someone request you stop asking them you must abide by it, no matter what it is, unless the request is their car keys for them drinking too much.

And besides, I've seen it already posted but it needs to he said a great deal more. If they are your friends, they will understand. If they aren't, throw the keys into the toilet you just took a dump in. Fuck 'em.