Problem. Help a bro out.

[marvelous54]

My lil cuz, who lives with me and is more like a lil bro, has got the opportunity of a lifetime. He has met this chick, who is a pure slut, and he is absolutely crazy over her. Shes told him she doesn't want to date him but she always calls when she needs something and it's getting to the point where he's blowing off his responsibilities to help her out and it's starting to catch up with him. BTW - the "slut" thing is not just my opinion, many others have said so as well. Is their anything I can do to make him see the truth without getting him pissed off?

 

[FISHTALES]

man its tough, Pussy can be blinding, especially bad pussy. you just gotta tell it like it is

 

[Johnny Cakes]

salt peter

 

[FISHTALES]

salt peter

or this

 

[H_T_]

man, is there a tougher endeavor than trying to convince a young lad that pussy is over-rated? it's the same as trying to convince him that fighting isn't worth it. he's got to learn to pick his battles, as well as his sexual conquests. that's what seperates man from dirt bag. the quality. maybe if you challenged him to attain a better quality woman?

 

[FISHTALES]

man, is there a tougher endeavor than trying to convince a young lad that pussy is over-rated? it's the same as trying to convince him that fighting isn't worth it. he's got to learn to pick his battles, as well as his sexual conquests. that's what seperate man for dirt bag. the quality. maybe if you challenged him to attain a better quality woman?

I like your thinking HT

 

[H_T_]

I like your thinking HT

i hate seeing a young bro getting his wires crossed over a Lolita. most girls like that have several years of practice under their belts when they get ahold of a fella that age. he's so damn eager to prove his value and she knows it.

 

[marvelous54]

Hell I could use some help with the "picking your battles" part. My temper is ridiculous. I have got to get it under control. Thats how this post came about tonight I almost blew up on him and her and a good bro of mine just happened to be there and knew I was pissed. He got me calmed down and I just decided to com on home.

 

[H_T_]

Hell I could use some help with the "picking your battles" part. My temper is ridiculous. I have got to get it under control. Thats how this how post came about tonight I almost blew up on him and her and a good bro of mine just happened to be there and knew I was pissed. He got me calmed down and I just decided to com on home.

it comes with age and being dragged into court and jail cells. women, especially trashy women, aren't worth it. aren't worth anything, actually. but a good woman, even a good woman isn't worth dying over. killing for, maybe. smae with guys and fighting. Iron Mike in your av knows whats up. he was invincible until the wrong woman got in his head.....you're bro needs you, maing. just like Mike needed Cus & Kevin Rooney.

 

[OMEGA]

tell him there is nothing worse for a good man then a bad woman who essentially wants to destroy him through use and abuse.

tell him if she is not actively concerned about his well being and success she is not a friend, no lover, no nothing................she is enemy.

I went through this with 3 bros and I held the vigil and won the case against each evil wench.......

all three bros were upset by my challenge but all saw I was right.....

I maintained firm patience when they snapped back at me.

 

[Sassy69]

The real easy answer is similar to what moms let happen to them when they put other people's demands in front of their own needs - if you let yourself & your responsibilities go in favor of someone else, you become no good to anyone else - eventually it catches up to you and you start to lose ground in the things that make you a good, solid & reliable person. This girl does not sound like she'd be there for him if he needed her and further, she doesn't seem to respect him enough to let him take care of his responsibilities. If she isn't already, she will completely take him for granted and expect him to come runnign every time she calls, yet he'll never feel the sense of satisfaction or gratitude that any reasonable & self-respecting person would want to feel from putting themselves out to help someone else. Basically he'll just keep getting played if he lets her do that. Its not helpign anyone and least of all himself.

 

[H_T_]

The real easy answer is similar to what moms let happen to them when they put other people's demands in front of their own needs - if you let yourself & your responsibilities go in favor of someone else, you become no good to anyone else - eventually it catches up to you and you start to lose ground in the things that make you a good, solid & reliable person. This girl does not sound like she'd be there for him if he needed her and further, she doesn't seem to respect him enough to let him take care of his responsibilities. If she isn't already, she will completely take him for granted and expect him to come runnign every time she calls, yet he'll never feel the sense of satisfaction or gratitude that any reasonable & self-respecting person would want to feel from putting themselves out to help someone else. Basically he'll just keep getting played if he lets her do that. Its not helpign anyone and least of all himself.

trying thinking within this century. you think you'll reach a young guy, or any guy talking like that? you couldn't hold his attention for a nanosecond.

 

[marvelous54]

You guys are just seeing the tip of the iceberg as to how bad this really is though. I've been gone for 3 months and he met her shortly after I had left so it's been buiding awhile. He took her to a pro-baseball game the other day then they went out to the club after that. The bitch was tryin to kiss on her ex-boyfriend and hook up with him. My boy still brought her home and put her in the bed. He bitched about her doing it but the next morning said, ah man I cant be mad her I just like her too much. He has a very good position with a high-end sports program and can get free tickets to the games. She actually asked him if he could get one for one of her ex's the other day. I mean this shit is deep. He is in deep and I have no idea how to start to tell him without getting him pissed at me. I've seen this scenario way too many times and I know how it works but I have no idea what to do about it.

 

[Sassy69]

I was rather hoping that approach might take things out of the context of "shes' screwing you but you are in love w/ her" and "all bitches are bitches" and what not.

How often do you see people let themselves be driven by other people and somehow that's "ok" and makes them feel "useful" or some shit. Its about being able to say "No" and identifying when someone is just using you and removing them as a "power" in how you choose to spend your time, effort and resources.

What's the short answer then? Fuck her. She's using you. Grow a set & move on. There are more useful people in the world to spend your time on.

 

[Nathan]

I'd try to get him pumped up for something better. If you can ease him into a detachment - i.e. him thinking of her like a piece of meat - then it might work. They only problem is getting him not to be a prick to other girls afterwards.

If he feels like a lady killer he'll be much more open-minded to being able to do better and see her for what she is. That's my guess anyways. I put like 2 whole minutes of thought into too so I think it counts for something. Say $10 maybe. Maybe not though as well. I could go either way. So in conclusion, this post was either worth $10, or was entirely useless. Use your distrection (hint: it's probably the useless one).

 

[H_T_]

if he gets her pregnant, dude......

 

[Sassy69]

This is pretty much my point - he's getting played. How do you tell a guy he's getting played and make him find the kahonies to just move on? Its not his job to be her door mat. He needs to learn to weigh the value of people - if he lets it keep happening, he's just going to be more & more taken for granted. What does he want out of it? Probably more than he's getting now. Is it worth it to him? There are lots of other people in the world who will appreciate him more & he will haver more satisfying relationships with.

But my previous point was that if he lets her impact his life to the extent that it starts to really cost something other than just his feelings, he'll either let it continue until he's far down enough that he is losing ground on his own goals or else he'll start to lay blame in places where it doesn't belong and develop some sort of weird attitude about "bitches" when he does finally get dumped to his face or whatever. Just tryign to say the guy needs to find & be comfortable in his own self-worth. If he doesnt' he will continue to attract people who will use him to his own detriment.

 

[marvelous54]

he'll either let it continue until he's far down enough that he is losing ground on his own goals or else he'll start to lay blame in places where it doesn't belong; Just tryign to say the guy needs to find & be comfortable in his own self-worth. If he doesnt' he will continue to attract people who will use him to his own detriment.

- Sassy69

I agree Sas. I feel like he would start to say that the admin is expecting too much out of him, that it's just too demanding, blah, blah, blah. If I just come out and say dude, she's a whore and she's using you, it's just gonna hurt his feelings, he'll have a long talk with her about it and likely convince him that I'm jealous or some stupid shit like that, and then he's gonna be pissed at me. Guess that's a chance I'll have to take!

 

[marvelous54]

K - to all of ya!

 

[Sassy69]

M - my point is don't let him lose himself to this girl. When you let other people become your priorities at your own expense you are establishing a habit of broadcasting that you are a doormat & there for people to wipe their feet on you. YOu can help people & like particular people but ALWAYS weigh the value of that person in YOUR life vs your value in THEIR life. That's a lesson it took me years to be consistent with and I was only happy in that I could afford (emotionally & financially) to help certain people who used me, but in the end I couldn't get them to a better place because they never caught on to the fact that they need to be responsible for themselves. One day some sucker won't step up & be responsible for them and then they are fucked. Confidence in yourself and being able to give of yourself but not compromise yourself is exactly the feature that attracts good and constructive people into your life. That's just the way it is.

If he doesn't see that its a losing battle now, its not like its going to get better.

 

[Sub-Zero]

You guys are just seeing the tip of the iceberg as to how bad this really is though. I've been gone for 3 months and he met her shortly after I had left so it's been buiding awhile. He took her to a pro-baseball game the other day then they went out to the club after that. The bitch was tryin to kiss on her ex-boyfriend and hook up with him. My boy still brought her home and put her in the bed. He bitched about her doing it but the next morning said, ah man I cant be mad her I just like her too much. He has a very good position with a high-end sports program and can get free tickets to the games. She actually asked him if he could get one for one of her ex's the other day. I mean this shit is deep. He is in deep and I have no idea how to start to tell him without getting him pissed at me. I've seen this scenario way too many times and I know how it works but I have no idea what to do about it.

wtf? scare him with aids and shit bro....cant be mad at her? id fucking rip her teeth out through her fucking vag...

is he dumb? jesus smack him

 

[a creed]

My lil cuz, who lives with me and is more like a lil bro, has got the opportunity of a lifetime. He has met this chick, who is a pure slut, and he is absolutely crazy over her. Shes told him she doesn't want to date him but she always calls when she needs something and it's getting to the point where he's blowing off his responsibilities to help her out and it's starting to catch up with him. BTW - the "slut" thing is not just my opinion, many others have said so as well. Is their anything I can do to make him see the truth without getting him pissed off?

Are you sure you should be the one to give advice on girls, - you know - with your "boner" and all?

IMHO you should get someone who can actually "help"............

 

[marvelous54]

On proviron, test and aifm - thats enough to make Elton John pop wood while huggin a chick.

 

[needtogetaas]

My lil cuz, who lives with me and is more like a lil bro, has got the opportunity of a lifetime. He has met this chick, who is a pure slut, and he is absolutely crazy over her. Shes told him she doesn't want to date him but she always calls when she needs something and it's getting to the point where he's blowing off his responsibilities to help her out and it's starting to catch up with him. BTW - the "slut" thing is not just my opinion, many others have said so as well. Is their anything I can do to make him see the truth without getting him pissed off?

ask him if he has even goten close to hitting it.if not then just tell him thats all he needs to think about.if he ant got it yet he ant never getting it.