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Please Read. Its long but I really need some good advice. Horrible Situation.

Primo200

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Two years ago my Mom told my Dad she wanted a divorce. After 25 years of marriage, one night, out of nowhere, she wanted a divorce. Four days later she moved out. My Dad would have done anything to save the marriage, but she wouldnt make any effort to work things out, go to counseling, nothing.

She said she was unhappy. That was her reason. She was unhappy, and she was divorcing my Dad, and that was final. She swore to both of us for an entire year there was nobody else. Every time I talked to her I asked her if there was anyone else and she said no.

She would point out things she didnt like about my Dad and generally talk bad about him to try to explain herself. My Dad may have not been the most physically affectionate husband ever, but he supported our family, provided anything we wanted, and would do absolutely anything for us.

The only thing he said to me about her was that she was my Mother and he did not want their divorce to hurt my relationship with her. After all she was putting us through, he never said a bad thing about her to me. He almost felt like it was his fault for my relationship with my Mom changing so negativly.

He never spoke about the details of the divorce with me until tonight. Up until the end, my Dad thought he had driven my Mom away and made her unhappy. When it came to spliting up total assets, which was approx $1 million, he gave her more than half, much more than he was required to because HE STILL LOVED HER AND WANTED TO TAKE CARE OF HER since she was going to be on her own.

Two weeks after the divorce was final, my Mom told me she had been seeing an old family "friend" from where we used to live, she loved him and they were getting married. Four months later, she moved to Wa. state and they got married.

Her new husband was a good friend of ours when I was young and he got divorced several years ago. He is well off, as much as my Dad, and by all means financially secure.

My Mom didnt need any money at all. She could have lived with him like she lived with my Dad. Instead, she exploited my Dad's love and trust to get as much money as possible. And my Dad feels like a sucker for believing her.

I just learned about the financial seperation tonight. I knew she had been lying to my Dad and I, but I didnt know she was that evil.

I dont know how to feel or what to do. I dont know if I even want her as a part of my life at all anymore. She never be a signifigant part of my life. Part of me wants to buy a plane ticket, fly across the country and bash the shit out of everything her piece of shit husband owns.

I'll get that half mil of my Pops money back from that decietful bitch one way or another. That is something you do not do to people.

Honesltly I think its one of me evilist things I heard of, excluding murder, rape, etc.

I am still in shock to know my Mother is like that.
 
I feel for you.... we like to think that our parents are perfect..but if what you say is true than it just goes to show your mothers true colors....... for her to put your father through that type of pain is inexcusable...... keep a close eye on your father as he may be suicidal..and spend a lot of time with him and make sure he knows how much he means to you and how much you love him............
 
thefantom1 said:
I feel for you.... we like to think that our parents are perfect..but if what you say is true than it just goes to show your mothers true colors....... for her to put your father through that type of pain is inexcusable...... keep a close eye on your father as he may be suicidal..and spend a lot of time with him and make sure he knows how much he means to you and how much you love him............

Thanks for the concern. My Dad is remarried now to a fantastic woman. I couldnt be happier for him. Back when the split was going on, I did spend as much time as possible with him. I made sure he knew how I felt, that I loved him, that in no way was it his fault.

Our lives are great now. I like my stepmothers family and most importantly, I know my Dad is happy. But for a while it was pretty bad.

Seeing how my Dad handled the entire situation showed me an entirely new level of maturity, benevolence, and taught me how to be a man.

The whole divorce was eventually beneficial to my Dad and I.

It is a perfect example of why suicide is not an answer to anything. As bad as things were, my Dad persevered, and now we are both happy again.
 
Man, that's just wrong.

I'm sure your father has a decent lawyer, now time to use him.
If he can show that she was seeing this guy before the divorce (which doesn't sound like it's gonna be too difficult) he should be able to void the settlement on the basis of bad faith and possibly even get interest on the money as well.

As for her, take the advice of an older, wiser person who has been through all sorts of shit both good and bad...
Let it go. There is a thing called karma and it ain't the stuff given out here on EF. What comes around goes around and the cosmos will find a way to properly "reward" her. If your dad can't get it back legally, just let it go...life is too short and although you feel this moral outrage right now, it really is his problem, not yours and if he can live with it then why shouldn't you? Neither of you will be able to move on until you let this go and, truth be told, life will continue to pass you by until you do.

Good luck, buddy...

thebabydoc
 
I would call your mom and simply ask her why she fucked your dad over like that.

Just call her one day and in conversation, ask her why she fucked your dad over like that.

You may think she won't answer the question.

If you're going to explain that if she wants a relationship with her son, but don't think it'd be possible if she were as evil as it seems her actions were... an explanation (shitty or otherwise) will be given.

Sucks man... sorry to hear about the divorce, and hope all goes well.
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Sorry, posted while you were posting...

See? Everything happens for a reason, that is what age teaches you. By keeping on the moral high ground, both you and your father have come out way on top.

Where is she now? Do you care? She may have gained some money, but she lost a son and what sounds like a great man. Who really lost?
 
Primo

Sounds like your father has really been put through the ringers only to come out on the other side in better shape. Trust me, what goes around...comes around! One day your mother will realize how much she has screwed up but it will be too late for forgiveness. We reap what we sow! I hope everything goes well for you and your father and the new family. Don't dwell on what your mother has done although painful, I'm sure. Move on with your life and never let her know how much she hurt you and your family. That will probably drive her more insane than anything. Good luck and best wishes.
 
WOW!

Add that to my list of why I generally dislike fucking women!!! Goddamn!!! ONLY a woman could be that fucking decietful, I bet she blames your dad for the whole thing too and justifies the stolen money as 'fair payback' for the lack of love she supposedly suffered....
 
Man I feel for you. Karma is definately real. Your Mothers actions put you and your father in so much pain and hurt you so bad that it has driven you away from her.

By losing the relationship with her son, as well as respect and love, she will experience the pain she caused your and your father.

Karma.
 
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