Open Relationships

[Bobber]

Last night I went out with this girl that works with my mom at the hospital. i had never seen her before but my mom spoke very highly of her plus she gave me $100 to go out with her so I did. She refused to have me pick her up or go out to dinner. She just wanted to go out and drink. When we met I was pleasently surprised..she was pretty attractive. We were hanging out drinking and it seemed like we were hitiing it off prtty well when she told me she had something she had to tell me. I asked what and she said that she was kind of seeing some one but that it was ok because it was an open relationship. immediately things turned south.

Is that shit for real? I mean it just seems like you wopuld be begging for disease.

 

[The Shadow]

er....


no

 

[NJjuice22]

what a slut.









i luv it!

 

[silverbackn]

Could be bad news

 

[NJjuice22]

yes they are right. I mean I would have hit it that same night for sure if given the chance but there wouldnt be any future there.

 

[BrothaBill]

I wouldve just got up and walked out, I went out with a girl that broke up with her bf but still lived with him. Just stupid shit waste of time

 

[GoldenDelicious]

if youre in the right phase in your life, go for it. whats the difference between dating a girl in an 'open relationship' compared to a random one month stand/fuck buddy. if anything its less drama because she isnt going to fall for you, and is just in it for the physical. imo, big deal.

 

[Bobber]

Could be bad news

Not for me bro. We had made all these plans for the upcomming week before she dropped that on me and after I told her she is breeding ground for disease and it was time for me to take her to her car she asked if we were still going to go out and I said no. She then asked if we could be friends and I told her I do not associate with people like her.

What made it more weird was on the car ride home she was trying to bring drama into the the fact that I wasn't into the whole open relationship thing. Too bad cause I would deffineltly have hung out with her again...after all she is in med school

 

[chewyxrage]

Not for me bro. We had made all these plans for the upcomming week before she dropped that on me and after I told her she is breeding ground for disease and it was time for me to take her to her car she asked if we were still going to go out and I said no. She then asked if we could be friends and I told her I do not associate with people like her.

What made it more weird was on the car ride home she was trying to bring drama into the the fact that I wasn't into the whole open relationship thing. Too bad cause I would deffineltly have hung out with her again...after all she is in med school

wait didn't you have threads about getting fucked up and fuckin all kinds of women?

 

[biteme]

Different stokes for different folks. After what I experienced last night, I need to be in a committed relationship I think. The Fu** buddy thing just leaves me empty inside. No matter how much sex I get, it's never enough.

 

[GoldenDelicious]

She then asked if we could be friends and I told her I do not associate with people like her.

what, when you were out with your buddies drunk and looking to score, you were any better?

"people like her" pft.

 

[chewyxrage]

How do you know she doesn't practice safe sex? How is you bangin' bar sluts w/ a condom any different?

 

[Bobber]

wait didn't you have threads about getting fucked up and fuckin all kinds of women?

That was while i was in college bro. I graduated and the way I see it is if I got out of San Marcos Texas with out any life long STD's I am sure as hell going to do all in my power not get one now. Who knows how many chicks her bf bangs and then comes home to bang her? No longer my cup of tea.

 

[silverbackn]

It sounds like you averted any kind of circus that could have transpired. It just comes down to knowing what you want. Some wouldn't mind it, I would. No way I would hang out with a chick like that.

 

[chewyxrage]

That was while i was in college bro. I graduated and the way I see it is if I got out of San Marcos Texas with out any life long STD's I am sure as hell going to do all in my power not get one now. Who knows how many chicks her bf bangs and then comes home to bang her? No longer my cup of tea.

Understandable to be paranoid. Seems like you were looking at this girl as possible serious relationship material and when she made it clear you would have to share you bailed. I'd do the same.

 

[justinjones1963]

Why not go for it? You know where you stand. I doubt she will play games either - she knows the deal.

 

[Bobber]

Understandable to be paranoid. Seems like you were looking at this girl as possible serious relationship material and when she made it clear you would have to share you bailed. I'd do the same.

I couldn't have said it better myself bro.

Silver -It has been my experience that if there is more than one guy involved shit is ALWAYS going to go down....it's just a matter of time and I now have way too much to lose to sink to that level.

How common are these open relationships these days?

 

[silverbackn]

I completely agree. I have had girls do the same thing and I did the same thing you did, except I didn't say anything negative towards them. I just left the situation. A girl with 2 guys around will always cause drama. Don't need more of that.

 

[tiger88]

being A-sexual would be the best thing all around

 

[chewyxrage]

being A-sexual would be the best thing all around

dude that would suck. you would never get horny

 

[tiger88]

dude that would suck. you would never get horny

save alot of time, hassle,money, stress Diseases, drama,

all for 7 second orgasm?

i would go some time being a-sexual..hell i spend all day thinking about pussy and i spend at least 1-2 hours a day masterbating

 

[chewyxrage]

save alot of time, hassle,money, stress Diseases, drama,

all for 7 second orgasm?

i would go some time being a-sexual..hell i spend all day thinking about pussy and i spend at least 1-2 hours a day masterbating

orgasms are like free drugs maing. I'd prolly be a heroin addict if I couldn't get that feeling

 

[awittyusername]

1. Atleast, the chick admited she was in an open relationship.

2. Almost every girl I ever met was in a relationship...just denied it, or said he was a loser etc.

3.I would guess that a med student who is honest about being in an open relationship would be more likely to be STD free...than the typical girl who plays miss innocent.

4. What give you the right to say the things you did to her when she was atleast honest and upfront...When, 6 months ago you were going out, fighting, and banging randoms

5. You may think you are done having sex with girls if you are not in a relationship, because you are out of college now...but, you are most likely not (most guys aren't)

 

[velvett]

Well, at least she told you.

Would it have been better that she let you shower her with time, affection and other gentlemen like behavior and tell you a few months later when you started to suspect something?

 

[Bobber]

I do agree that it was deffinetly great of her to let me know, but if she is going to be that upfront about it she should have let me know right at the beginning and not tried all night to extract so much personal information which I did not want to nor did relinquish to her. It just pissed me off that all night she kept asking me why I wouldn't open up to her when she was indeed exactly what I was trying to avoid. That is why I said what i did, even though it may have been a little brash.

I find it messed up that people that do not know you at all try to get so personal with you so quick.

Witty - People change, I am different now and don't want any aspect of my old life in my new one.

 

[awittyusername]

I do agree that it was deffinetly great of her to let me know, but if she is going to be that upfront about it she should have let me know right at the beginning and not tried all night to extract so much personal information which I did not want to nor did relinquish to her. It just pissed me off that all night she kept asking me why I wouldn't open up to her when she was indeed exactly what I was trying to avoid. That is why I said what i did, even though it may have been a little brash.

I find it messed up that people that do not know you at all try to get so personal with you so quick.

Witty - People change, I am different now and don't want any aspect of my old life in my new one.

I can understand about sitting through a whole date, and then finding out

Oh, I give you props for that. I am just saying we don't mature as soon as we get out of college. Alot of my friends settled down soon after...then find out they were not done being young. (scoring poon)

 

[velvett]

I do agree that it was deffinetly great of her to let me know, but if she is going to be that upfront about it she should have let me know right at the beginning and not tried all night to extract so much personal information which I did not want to nor did relinquish to her. It just pissed me off that all night she kept asking me why I wouldn't open up to her when she was indeed exactly what I was trying to avoid. That is why I said what i did, even though it may have been a little brash.

I find it messed up that people that do not know you at all try to get so personal with you so quick.

Witty - People change, I am different now and don't want any aspect of my old life in my new one.

I think you both did the right thing.
She does what she does and she has to respect how you feel about it - that simple.

 

[nycgirl]

On another note, how are you doing in Maryland? Are you enjoying the D.C. area a bit better?

Did you ever get your boxer?

 

[Bobber]

On another note, how are you doing in Maryland? Are you enjoying the D.C. area a bit better?

Did you ever get your boxer?

I was wondering where you were!

Well, all I do is work. I work about 60 hours a week, including Saturdays, so that pretty much leaves me with Saturday nights to go out which honestly I don't really even do that at the moment. "The Real World" is quite different from what I had imagined but I do not mind it at all. I have a couple friends now, a couple other trainers from my part time job at Bally's. As for the boxer I did get one for a week. She was a great dog but just too young and full of energy. Plus I think Titan was actually more depressed when she was around than being alone so that project has been scrapped.

I am so freakin happy it is FINALLY getting warm hee! All that cold weather makes you depressed! I look forward to getting out more in these upcomming weeks. Any suggestions?

 

[Kakdiesel]

Have fun, be safe, but dont invest emotionally into it at all. youll just end up getting hurt.

i've never had an "open" relationship, nor have I dated more than one girl at a time.

too many problems, too many feelings hurt on both side.

be smart about it man.

also, good to see ya bobber

 

[nycgirl]

I was wondering where you were!
Well, all I do is work. I work about 60 hours a week, including Saturdays, so that pretty much leaves me with Saturday nights to go out which honestly I don't really even do that at the moment. "The Real World" is quite different from what I had imagined but I do not mind it at all. I have a couple friends now, a couple other trainers from my part time job at Bally's. As for the boxer I did get one for a week. She was a great dog but just too young and full of energy. Plus I think Titan was actually more depressed when she was around than being alone so that project has been scrapped.
I am so freakin happy it is FINALLY getting warm hee! All that cold weather makes you depressed! I look forward to getting out more in these upcomming weeks. Any suggestions?

Actually, this winter was the mildest winter since I've been here.

I start a new job next week and now that I get 2.5 hours of my day back (my commute goes from 3hrs to 30 minutes) and I'm no longer working in North Bethesda, I will be doing a lot more.

There are a few places, five, 1223, etc. along Connecticut Avenue. There's H20, which is on the waterfront (Fri. night is the best night, more diverse crowd) There's the outdoor club, called Aria at the Regan National Building.

Check out this link: http://www.dcnites.com/

 

[javaguru]

Dated a woman, hit it off, would have been great together but she wanted to be a swinger.....I've never seen it work and I certainly wouldn't want that type of relationship.