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javaguru
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Sometimes people just need a re-affirmation of what they already know.
Need Some Honest, Genuine, and Neutral EF'er Opinons (and soon if possible)!
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Sometimes people just need a re-affirmation of what they already know.
jaimejame78
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When I was a teenager my father passed away suddenly. My mom was 42 with 4 kids and went through the same thing. What it comes down to is your happiness. There is no time limit for your grief because no matter how much time goes by you will always grieve for the person you lost. But most importantly you must rebuild your life. In my experience I say the sooner the better because the more time you spend "waiting" for the "appropriate" time to pass is only time you can't get back. I spent years making it difficult for my mother because I was young and didn't understand. As a grown adult I have major regret for that because my mom was trying her best to go on not only for us but for herself. Your husband would want you to be happy and all around you know this, but due to their grief it often comes off as unsupportive. These people often still go to bed at night with their significant other and have no idea what it is like for you. If these people give you a hard time they (and I hate to say this but) eventually will have to go, as in no longer be a part of your life. Trust me on that!!! If going on this date makes you feel makes you feel recharged in anyway no matter how small, GO! It is a small step in the direction you need to be heading!!!
Best of luck to you!!!
Best of luck to you!!!
serendipitygirl
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Again, thanks for all the comments on this. I gotta say, it has been really neat to read all the different perspectives posted here and think over them.
Cindy, thank you as well. Not that tragedy should ever be "best suited" to someone, but for what it is worth, I think being a generally super positive and happy go lucky girl has really been a big factor in me returning to work quickly and "moving on with life". Before his passing, we were struggling with some problems in our marriage and trying to work through it. When the policeman called me at work and told me he was gone, I wouldn't have been able to tell you one fight or issue I had with him if I had even tried. I literally had total amnesia and still do in many ways regarding anything"negative" I may have felt he had done in our relationship. I just simply wanted him back. I say all that to make the point that, in fact his passing has only served to reinforce my life mantra that the negative stuff doesn't simply doesn't matter anyway when they are gone so why even bother with it....just live, love, and laugh with respect of course.
And we will now return to our special Hallmark Movie Premier Presentation.....
Cindy, thank you as well. Not that tragedy should ever be "best suited" to someone, but for what it is worth, I think being a generally super positive and happy go lucky girl has really been a big factor in me returning to work quickly and "moving on with life". Before his passing, we were struggling with some problems in our marriage and trying to work through it. When the policeman called me at work and told me he was gone, I wouldn't have been able to tell you one fight or issue I had with him if I had even tried. I literally had total amnesia and still do in many ways regarding anything"negative" I may have felt he had done in our relationship. I just simply wanted him back. I say all that to make the point that, in fact his passing has only served to reinforce my life mantra that the negative stuff doesn't simply doesn't matter anyway when they are gone so why even bother with it....just live, love, and laugh with respect of course.
And we will now return to our special Hallmark Movie Premier Presentation.....
Again, thanks for all the comments on this. I gotta say, it has been really neat to read all the different perspectives posted here and think over them.
Cindy, thank you as well. Not that tragedy should ever be "best suited" to someone, but for what it is worth, I think being a generally super positive and happy go lucky girl has really been a big factor in me returning to work quickly and "moving on with life". Before his passing, we were struggling with some problems in our marriage and trying to work through it. When the policeman called me at work and told me he was gone, I wouldn't have been able to tell you one fight or issue I had with him if I had even tried. I literally had total amnesia and still do in many ways regarding anything"negative" I may have felt he had done in our relationship. I just simply wanted him back. I say all that to make the point that, in fact his passing has only served to reinforce my life mantra that the negative stuff doesn't simply doesn't matter anyway when they are gone so why even bother with it....just live, love, and laugh with respect of course.
And we will now return to our special Hallmark Movie Premier Presentation.....
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