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serendipitygirl
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I would, but recent research from people smarter than me have said that this can extremely slow the healing process. Oh well!
Need Some Honest, Genuine, and Neutral EF'er Opinons (and soon if possible)!
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I would, but recent research from people smarter than me have said that this can extremely slow the healing process. Oh well!
captainahole
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Personally if you feel you are ready to date again then that's fine.
However I would be totally surprised if you don't get a backlash from some close to you or that were close to your husband. I would be very discrete for the time being.
Many believe you shouldn't date until at least a year after.
If you just need some numby numbs go for it.
I hope it goes well for you and I am sorry for your loss.
However I would be totally surprised if you don't get a backlash from some close to you or that were close to your husband. I would be very discrete for the time being.
Many believe you shouldn't date until at least a year after.
If you just need some numby numbs go for it.
I hope it goes well for you and I am sorry for your loss.
digimon7068
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If you're ready, then who cares? Me, I wouldn't be ready if my wife died for a long time; but that's just me.
my wife and i have had "what-if" conversations before and i always tell her that i'd be eyeing up broads at the wake LOL...we have a wonderful relationship and i HATE sleeping by myself!
truth-be-told, if my children were still pretty young, it would probably take me a long time to develop a level of trust that would allow me to enter into another relationship...they (my kids) would be my first consideration...i know way too many people that got mentally fucked up when their mother or father remarried after the death of their spouse and the whole "step-parent" thing didn't work out so well.
redshirt27se
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I think if you have to ask for others opinions, you aren't ready. You'll know when you are comfortable, doesn't seem like you are yet. Your husband died 3 months ago, and while you might feel ready to date, I think that opinion might change once you actually go out on one. Hey, I might be completely wrong here, but figured I'd offer perspective.
I gotta go with Red here...three months is very soon in my opinion (please dont be mad....you asked for honest so thats what I am giving you). I mean that is the same as most states have for a mandatory waiting period for divorce with children. If it was a sudden death I wouldnt think an average mentally healthy adult would be ready to "date" again. I just think that you are still grieving you just dont realize it. I recommend maybe talking with a professional, not because I think your crazy but because in this situation they can really help. I also agree with the other post in that his family will def give you some flack. If my brother passed away and his wife was dating within 3 months...damn I would be pissed. Sorry if its not the answer you wanted to hear.
calveless wonder
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good point
I always figured that I would never date again. I would use cats to keep me company and hookers for other services.
