Need Some Honest, Genuine, and Neutral EF'er Opinons (and soon if possible)!

[serendipitygirl]

Eh, honestly, I feel kind of weird asking this but not really something I wanna ask my family and friends cause they don't really like to talk about his passing as it is.

Some of you know my husband (who I met from chatting on Elite Fitness in 2004) of 5 years passed away in May of this year unexpectedly. Not to re-hash all that and be EF's official Debbie Downer, but in your honest opinion, is it innapropriate and/or too soon to accept an offer to go out after work for a Happy Hour Date with a guy that I know through a work connection or am I making a big deal out of nothing? I have went out to happy hours and even dancing since his passing, but it was only with friends and never as a romantic thing but this however would definitely be a real "date" and I know he likes me.

It's kinda weird, cuz it doesn't seem disrespectful for some reason to say post a sexy avatar pic of me up on EF, but this whole "going out on a date" thing has me unsure.

My mantra in life has always been to keep smiling and living life to the fullest with joy no matter WHAT but still, I am conflicted. Opinions??????? (and THANK YOU! )

 

[-SD-]

If its ok with you then who cares? I dont remember there being an official minimum wait time to start dating again. It really doesnt matter when you do it, someones going to get offended so get it over with right now.

 

[75th]

If its ok with you then who cares?

This x 1,000.

This is your call. As long as you feel ready and comfortable then theres no reason why you shouldnt.

 

[serendipitygirl]

SuperDave and 75th: That is kind of what I needed to hear and I agree. I actually think I am ok with it. Maybe more nervous than anything to date again, but I know my heart is in the right place. Thanks!

 

[ricco561]

Don't go.
Save yourself for me.
J/K

 

[Sub-Zero]

the only person (other than you of course) whose opinion that matters on the subject is dead.

and im willing to bet he would want more than anything for you to be happy and have an amazing life...

do what your comfortable doing.

 

[ortiz34]

Sorry to hear about your husband, truly.
I think you are just nervous and it's only natural, in the end I think your husband would just want you to be happy.

 

[bigpokey]

i think u should just post a bunch of nood pics on here and see how that works out for ya for a while.... baby steps

 

[serendipitygirl]

Thank you all, truly! I needed a little encouragement on this!

 

[digimon7068]

absolutely NOTHING wrong with dating again!! did you love being in the relationship that you had with your husband? if so, the best tribute you can pay to that person (when you feel comfortable enough to do so) is to try and put yourself back into that position again.

i love my wife, i love being married, i love our relationship and, if anything happened to her it would break my heart but, i would move on with my life and try to find someone else to have that kind of fulfilling relationship with...that is EXACTLY what she would want me to do. however, if the shoe were on the other foot, i would want her to be alone for the rest of her life...mourning my passing...and whiling away the hours until we meet again at the pearly gates...








































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