Need help guys, moral delema

[MommaKin]

First of all, do you nkow every single guy she has slept with?
On one hand I say tell the guys you know that have fucked her...but, on the other hand, did she know she had HIV when she fucked all these guys? At any rate, if these guys have HIV, there is nothing you can do to help them now, once they've got it, that's it, no turning back....2ndly, no matter what, how when or why, nobody deserves to have HIV, period. She;s gonna have it rough as it is, if they know they got it from her, they might make her life more miserable then it already is going to be....3rdly, if these guys do have HIV, wtf knows where they could of gotten it from....it doesn't neccesarily mean it was from her....

 

[strengthmonster]

Actually thinking about it, she could have got it from one of them. Either way it is best they know. Sure, if they have it there's nothing they can do but it could stop them from giving it anyone else.

 

[Maximum Intensity]

Take a long hard look in the mirror -- you will find all the answers you need within yourself. We all know that you will do the right thing. My first step would be to sit down with the young lady and TRY to make her understand the consequences of her actions. This is a very difficult situation that you are in my friend, I do not envy you. However, there is a reason that this situation has been revealed to you -- you as an individual. Don't compromise yourself or your values -- do the right thing. Nothing good can come out of keeping this secret. On other hand, you could be saving lives by bringing this to the surface in one fashion or another. We are all here with you.

 

[The Shadow]

Tough call....

...the fact that the guys shit on you is not important at this point. The fact that you gave your word does not matter either.

The ONLY thing that matters is the fact that she knowingly exposing people to the AIDS virus. She is the judge, jury and executioner. The guys have a right to know. YOU have an obligation to tell them...

 

[Rotten]

I've known what I needed to do from the beginning. I have told two people. One is a ex-girlfriend of the guy the stripper is "seeing/pimped out by", and she is one of the nicest people I'll ever meet and one of my best friends. I know now he cheated with the stripper while they were dating. She got tested yesterday. The second was my best friend who's brother has AIDS. He knows the situation I'm in with this too and told me its going to be one of the hardest things I've ever done.

I'm meeting with her (the stripper) at lunch today. I left at least 20 messages all over her hangouts yesterday. She finally called me back about 10 minues ago. I said we need to talk about something, and she knew exactly what I was talking about and said she wanted to meet me too. I know she got my message last night, she just didn't want to face me I guess. That makes me sad, cause I'll stand next to her the whole way. The fact that these guys have shit on me doesn't matter, this is life and death. The "delema" I spoke of was the fact that I promised this girl I wouldn't tell. I think your word is your bond, and if you can't keep it your not worth a shit. I've always been the guy everyone goes to, because everyone knows I will keep my mouth shut and just be there to help. That's why this is a delema to me, my word to another person meant that much to me. I guess my word won't mean anything after today, because if she doesn't tell everyone after we have lunch then I will when I get off work at 5.

This girl is so scared that nobody will be her friend after it gets out, and with the "group" she is totally right. I told her I would always be there for her but I'm just one person. A whole group of people are going to shit on her and a whole lot of peoples lives are going to change from what I know in my head. It's fucking sad. I feel that if I don't tell then I am just as wrong as she is, and I am a murderer too. Fuck, this is alot on a person. Now I know why she was so scared to say anything and maybe she needed someone to be strong for her. Why did it have to be me, I have enough going on as it is?

As far as my wife...she still won't talk to me. Won't even look at me and that is truely breaking my heart. I thought we were so strong, and now I question our whole marriage. My wife is not a bad person, she's just really bitter about the way I have been there for these guys time after time, and seen them lie to my face and shit all over me.

Thank you all for reinforcing my decision. I just think I needed someone in my corner for some inner strength. Thanks for your help.

-Rot

 

[The Shadow]

Good man...

...Rot - my grandfather used to tell me that when you are faced with making choice A or choice B - go with the one that is the hardest to do. That is always the correct one.

As far as the wife goes - understand that she is only looking out for you. It seems that she has your best interest at heart and doesn't want to see you get hurt by your "friends" again.

She'll come around and be there for ya. Give her a little time.

 

[Ferrus]

tough spot to be in

you're doing the right thing...meet with her and tell her that if she doesn't reveal to the guys she has fuckked that she is +, you will...not telling those guys is tantamount to attempted murder...assault with a deadly weapon...whether you are on good terms with them or not, they all need to be checked out

 

[AGENT SHAGWELL]

rotten with a moral delemia.....thats weird enough.....but if all these guys are fucking this girl and they know she's fucking every other guy out there, then they should know if she doesn't have something, the other numerous guys might, and they should be smart enough to protect themselves.

If they are dumb fucks....then perhaphs slipping a few..."dude fucking her is like sticking you dick in all of NY city....you could get anything" . But honestly, how can a guy be dumb enough to go fucking a stripper with a track recod unprotected and expect to come out clean? Please....

 

[1bigpitbull]

Dude tell them now .I don't even see what your waiting for!If you saw A stranger getting killed would you not step in to help.This is A crime this womans commiting.You can get put up on murder chargers for this.I'm not A lawyer but I think it's true.I would think your wife would be most understanding of this.And what's this bitch telling you this shit for.She probably wants to get caught either that or shes just fuckin with you either way look at all the stress it's cuasing you.Bust her ass man!!!!

 

[Cleaner]

Hey Bro ----

This truely is a problem but not yours.
You have inside info but your not an actor.
The damage was done before you knew.
It a matter of damage control at this point.
Don't sweat this one --- slide thru.
Get the girl under control and prevent the future.
Don't let yourself lose sleep over other lack of humanity.
Everyone should know the risks of sex these days!!