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polarpixie
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db, i think we all have a tendencey to remember the good things about someone we used to love. Believe me, i understand exactly what you are talking about. You were engaged to be married, I was practically on my way there too. So when you said you still feel a connection or a bond, I think that is something that will always be there because you were so in love with this person. But that connection, it is just what happens after you get really close to someone. Then when it's over, you see things that are constant reminders no matter where you are, and you feel like you might never have that closeness with someone else. I know that is how I feel. But that bond doesn't necessarily mean shit if something happened to keep you apart for two years. That bond is just a feeling of comfort and security that you eventually felt around this person, and it is shared feelings and memories that has been acquired over time. It doesn't always mean you are 'meant to be together'.
It sounds like you're ready to forget about the fights and the moodiness, but what about the part where she slept with someone else? I miss my old boyfriend alot, I think about how he respected, loved, and cherished me, and then I make myself remember all the bad fights we had, and how he disrespected me and made me feel like crap. I know if I ever gave it another go, the feelings of anger for the past would always resurface and be a constant presence.
Maybe. But if her mom liked you so much, she might just have called you on her own because she would like to see you get back together.
Hope this helped. But sometimes you just have to go with your own gut feeling hon.
It sounds like you're ready to forget about the fights and the moodiness, but what about the part where she slept with someone else? I miss my old boyfriend alot, I think about how he respected, loved, and cherished me, and then I make myself remember all the bad fights we had, and how he disrespected me and made me feel like crap. I know if I ever gave it another go, the feelings of anger for the past would always resurface and be a constant presence.
dballer said:
Maybe. But if her mom liked you so much, she might just have called you on her own because she would like to see you get back together.
Hope this helped. But sometimes you just have to go with your own gut feeling hon.
