TC2 said:
Please explain to me what a "housewife" is then.
I'm all for 50/50 in a relationship. But if a woman doesnt want to be a housewife and do the "womanly stuff", then get a fuckin job.
Maybe I'm jaded or blinded since I've seen so many lazy house wives who basicly look at marrige as a perment paid vacation.
Marriage=man works/brings home the money,cleans,cooks,does the yardwork??????
Seems pretty simple to me.
House wife = do ALL of the house wife duites
career wife= do HALF of the house hold duties.
Same goes for men.
Bottom line is the same question. If a house wife doesn't do the housewife duties, what does she contribute to the realtionship?? What is her purpose??
Believe me I’m right there with you, you think I don’t know girls that go from having daddy paying all the bills to finding hubby to pay all the bills? You don’t think that pisses me off when I work 40-60 hours a week and I’m too brain fried to go out and I have to hear them whine to me that, “oh I have no one to go out with, come shopping with me, come get my nails done with me, ME MEMEMEMME”. These are the very same girls that would lecture me that starting a business would be easy – what are you waiting for? When they don’t understand the concept that the house, car, food, clothes, insurance all cost $$$ and no workie/ no jobs no $$$ - no house, car, clothes, food and certainly no bar tab and pretty nails.
Back to Curling:
If you recall Curling said in of his posts that HE did not want his wife to work and then to add that she “got no skills” and that the crap money would not be worth it. (Maybe he should have chosen someone he respected more to marry.) HAHHAHA That negative thought about his wife’s abilities seems to be he a part of the problem too.
Curling said:
Earlier I didn't want her to work but now I don't care but she can't make nothing has no skills also she doesn't like to get up early. Which would mean that she would have to get an evening job and for the crap money they would pay her to do that it isn't worth it.
I should hope that a housewife has greater purpose to her husband than being the chef, nanny, laundress, cleaning lady and sex slave. LOL It might be cheaper to hire the help than marry the help in that case.
I don't disagree with you and if you refer to my initial statement you will see that I said that she gave Curling and interesting argument and my comments are specifically for Curling’s situation as he has portrayed it. He wants to spend money his hobbies and she wants to spend money of a cleaning lady. It's good argument based on spending money to make ourselves happy.
It would be interesting to know what Mrs. Curling will be doing with her free time, if it is something constructive or positive I would be supportive, if it were just to hang around and watch the grass grow between Oprah and Dr. Phil I would not be supportive.
Bottom line, it is always about money and if the man is the sole bread winner and the wife decides that she want to spend their money to avoid doing her "side" of the work to be done there should be good reason (did we ever find out the reason?) in the bread winner's eyes. There are some men that just want their pretty little wife to come home to and pay attention to them, even if they have to pay for the house work to be done, the cooking and the parenting but that is a lesser of typical situations.
I think the concept of “housewife” is dated and if I might be frank I think all women should have the opportunity to work and make their own living because it’s good for one’s character and self-esteem. The problem sets in when a woman gets married and gives up her right to work to take care of the family she loses her identity, confidence and usefulness beyond parenting and playing the role “the help”. Then, if a woman is away from working so long it becomes more difficult to get a job or continue on a career path already started.
What should really piss off people is when a non working mother has a nanny for each kid, a maid and in some case a chef or driver and they still can’t function. My ex- boss’s daughter had a career in finance before she married, quit to get pregnant, got pregnant the 2nd time and had 2 nannies (one for each kid) and a maid to clean the house, yet her life was all about “woe’s me, I have no life boo hoo, no time, no freedom, sob sob sob, mother you have no idea how “hard” my life is, whine whine”.
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