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My Wife Wants a Maid And She Don't Work...
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pitbullstl
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Gymgurl said:
Why?? No clutter here. The point is not that the house is too big to clean, but too large for my wife to keep after and be a full time mom, the way she and I both want her to be. If you have the money, I see nothing wrong with having cleaning people, landscapers etc... Curling's wife, and my wife are seemingly nothing alike. My wife loves to clean, cook, etc... I would just prefer she have help, this allows more time for our kids, and ME.
pitbullstl said:Why?? No clutter here. The point is not that the house is too big to clean, but too large for my wife to keep after and be a full time mom, the way she and I both want her to be. If you have the money, I see nothing wrong with having cleaning people, landscapers etc... Curling's wife, and my wife are seemingly nothing alike. My wife loves to clean, cook, etc... I would just prefer she have help, this allows more time for our kids, and ME.
I agree, and if I had enough money, I would do the same. Just because you CAN do something, does`nt mean you HAVE to do it.
I love mowing my lawn and taking care of it, but if I could piss away money, I would have someone else do it. Shit, I would pay someone to wash my dishes if I could...and I have a dishwasher machine!
I actually got someone to pull out my weeds the other week. It took 17 Home Depot type garbage bags to fill, and the guy finished in about 4 hours. Payed him in cash and he AND I were both happy. $40
This used to hit kinda close to home. Before I actually moved in with my ex-gf I half-jokingly said if I made $100K she could stay home and not work. At the time I was still living in Atlanta where you can live like a king on that amount. Fast forward 3 yrs later I'd moved to L.A. (where $100K just means you can afford to pay attention) and over 3 jobs gone from $31K to $55K to $79K. She's now thinking my next job will put her on easy street and she reminded me of it EVERY SINGLE FUCKING DAY. Mind you, we had an 1100 square foot 2BR apt, no kids (and none planned)....wtf do you need to stay home and do anyway? Unfortunately the dotcom bubble burst and my next job found me making $43K. She actually had the nerve to say I took a lower paying job so she wouldn't get to stay home....yea bitch, that extra $35K was making my damn wallet too heavy. Even without staying home she still managed to slap on 60 lbs after I moved in...gives me the chills to think what woulda happened if I had gotten that $100K job....
Dial_tone said:
HOLY SHIT! Glad she`s your ex bro. Good story.
curling said:
She gave you an interesting argument.
If your money is your "family money" and you choose to spend some of the family money on your hobbies (suh as motorcycles and stuff) that makes you happy then she should be able to choose to spend family money on things that make her happy as well. So if having extra time for herself that would made by hiring someone else to do some of her chores were to be considered her hobby than she would have right to it.
That said, somehow I don't think your wife is a lazy person that sits on her ass all day eating snackwells and pretends to be busy when you get to the door.
Ask yourself how your life would change if she retired as housewife and started her own career with a new title and a new not at home to do everything for everyone schedule.
Forge
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Ask yourself this, Curling: if you refuse her the maid (or anything else she wants for that matter) and she divorces you and moves out, who will clean your house then? Who will pick up after you then, do the dishes and clean the laundry? Will you clean your own house and start putting things away, or will you hire a maid when she is gone?
It sounds like she doesn't really need a maid, but it also sounds like you take her for granted to the nth level. Start putting more effort into your marriage or you will be faced with the scenario in the above paragraph. And note that I am NOT saying you should hire a maid, just be more considerate towards your wife.
It sounds like she doesn't really need a maid, but it also sounds like you take her for granted to the nth level. Start putting more effort into your marriage or you will be faced with the scenario in the above paragraph. And note that I am NOT saying you should hire a maid, just be more considerate towards your wife.
Curling I think your right but it was just the way you put it that was a little harsh. Does your wife do a lot of charity work or something like that? Is there something that is actually important cutting into her cleaning time?
canadianhitman
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I agree with you, Curling....with kids that age, there isn't a whole lot of parenting to be done. Cooking and cleaning are her job....if she's not doing that, then what exactly is her contribution? Don't let no Peg Bundy loaf around your house eating bon-bons while a maid does the work.
