My situation with a certain woman.

[SynergyJim]

There is this girl I met over the summer at my job. We will call her Liz. Liz is absolutely beautiful and at the time I was in love with some other girl that we call Vicki. Well as the summer progressed I realized how sweet and kind Liz was. She did the impossible and made me get over Vicki. SO after the summer I went back to college (I go FAAAAR AWAY 15 hours from where I live) and we kept in contact on IM. She immed me all the time and when she lost a parent in the WTC attacks I was always there to help her and confort her. I sent her flowers to expres my sorrow for her loss etc etc. Anyways she then stopped Imming me. Then I found out she got a bf. Now the questionis this: even though she got a bf why did she stop talking to me? It really hurt me. I thought she and I were beginning to establish something special but apparently not. I always said I was going to see her during my Xmas break when i come home but now I dont think so. I mean during this tiem I have still talked to other women etc but I still think about her becuase she is so great. What advice would u give?

 

[satanic goatslayer]

Ahhh yes, with matters of the heart, there are no easy answers.

Through years of heartbreak and pain, I have found that simply travelling to the offending woman's house, locking her in and burning the house down while smoking crack is the best coping method.

This method can vary, according to taste.

Good luck my confused friend.

 

[SynergyJim]

HAHAHHAAH.

 

[HighIntensity]

SynergyJim you sound like a good guy bro, but to her you were a friend. Now this could be for any variety of reasons, distance being one in particular. Im not excusing her sudden blowing you off, but when she was single you were a gap buddy. Now she has a man, and he probley fufills all her needs, including your role.

Plus new Boyfriends tend to not like other guys, and I can tell you wanted it to be more than just friends. Don't sweat it, and if you really must know call her.

 

[SynergyJim]

Oh yeah Im not denying my feelings. Originally i was like yeah "Hey Liz is madd cool!" then with time i knew I was falling for her and I was like "Oh damn...here we go!"

 

[SynergyJim]

bump

 

[SynergyJim]

anyone else wanna put in there .02?

 

[HighIntensity]

perhaps this constant nagging is why she won't write you back...

im sorry you walked right into it...

 

[big4life]

Try telling her how you feel.

If she thought you were just being friends, she might not
know how much you care.

Sometimes people have a hard time seeing how those closest to them actually feel.

 

[rnch]

"you CANNOT apply logic and common sense to the female mind".............a quote from my dad.


as much as it hurts, dude, face the truth.........she's moved on and found someone new. the distance problem killed any chance you had. she needed somone to be physically close to her as well as emotionally. you were to far away, so she found someone locally.

as i know from bitter personal experience, being a "nice guy" blows up in your face sometimes.


time for YOU to move on and find someone locally.


not trying to flame you, just saying what i see and my experiences in the same situation.