I'm going to have to agree with calvless, you have to be yourself, if you try to be mr. player and play bunch of games your just going to attract bunch of supperficial biches instead of the quality women that would click for your personality.
I never put on sharades, just be myself, if a girl likes it then good, if not who gives a shit.
Plus not giving yourself to women unless there completly in love with you spells insecurity, you have to experiment in life, everything can't be perfect all the time.
Everyone gets hurt at some point, but you move on and find the reall jems that way too.