WhistleBritches said:
I cant stand the psychology of it
it hurts me
yeah, one way to get a girl to like you is to be counterintuitive and do things like that. It works, i've done it. i don't enjoy it. it's not me
however, being genuine and authentic works well too.
when you're genuine and authentic, you reward a girl based on her unique self. Basically, you're warm and open but you don't give her credit until she shows you something unique outside her of looks.
the one thing each approach has to have in common is that you don't reward a girl for "just being". Just being pretty, just being present.
that's what everyone else does. It's a disingenious vibe. it objectifies her.
a good looking girl has had that done since she was 13. it gets old.
The other thing they have in common is that you're different from every other guy.i think as long as you don't do what everyone else does, you're usually in good shape.
I look back to my most dominant days of women...and i was never really a jerk. yeah, sometimes i was for comedy sake. I was just really warm, and real. And i never was intimidated by beauty or anything similar. it took me awhile to figure that out after i became single again the past year. That not only what works best for me but also within my ethical framework. If you use this though, you have to understand how to escalate things on a sexual level and show your intent right off the bat. the guys on here bust my balls sometimes(despite the fact i still bang hotter girls than them)...and its because while i'd take this approach, i often didnt make my intent 100% clear. then it all just "clicked" again. and it was like "oh yeah"
just remember, t here's no "one" way. i've seen guys who are super serious be total players...guys who are complete goofballs, nice guys, etc. But they all have some of the similar traits i discussed above