Watch the movie "What the bleep do we know" for more of an understanding of what I'm getting at. Consciously of course you don't seek this out, doesn't mean your sub-conscious plays by the same rules. Everyone is essentially addicted to emotions, hence you do things that will repeatedly bring about the same things. Either way, check that out, it blew my mind open and sent me down a path of "enlightenment" so to speak over the last year or so. You just need to work on your "observing ego" and you'll find your no longer partaking in train wrecks. I know I probably come off as preachy, but just trying to help. I don't believe in fate, or luck, or anything like that. I make my own reality