My dad is dying...

[jerseyrugger76]

I feel for you, you and your family will be in my prayers.
What will make it easier for him is if the Dr. can Rx him good pain meds, or have him on a morphine drip via machine @ home. This will do alot to min. any pain or worries for him, and enjoy your time with him. Remember the good times, and talk to him about things that are on your mind, or say whatever it is you wanted to say... So you don't regret not saying them, or not having that talk with him you wished you did.

Remember death is only on part of life... embrace the others. He will always live on in you. My best to you and your family.

+1 You and your family are in my prayers.

 

[Raptorex]

My prayers are with your Dad and your family at this time, I'm so sorry to hear this.

 

[BNG]

Sorry to hear it. There never seems to be the "right" things to say. May your faith be a comfort to you and your family. Please say the things to him that you need to, when he's passed you should have no regrets, but great memories and cherish those.

 

[xrsist]

sorry to hear bro

 

[blackhat]

Thank you all for your support, thoughts, and prayers. Today my dad is going to meet with another doctor for a final word. Since it is in all his major organs and most likely in his brain I do not image it will be positive. I still have hope that some miracle will occur, but he has been degrading in health ever since he was first diagnosed 3 years ago and we thought the chemo had killed it.

I dont know what to say or do... my mother is torn apart. My dad did everything for her, she has no idea how much money is in the bank or anything... she doesnt even know how to pump gas, he did all that for her.

I'm really messed up right now. All I want to do is crawl into a bottle, but I know that's not what he wants and its not right. I am terrified about the future. I do not want to see him suffer and die in a hospital bed..

man i dont know what to do

 

[billfred]

Thank you all for your support, thoughts, and prayers. Today my dad is going to meet with another doctor for a final word. Since it is in all his major organs and most likely in his brain I do not image it will be positive. I still have hope that some miracle will occur, but he has been degrading in health ever since he was first diagnosed 3 years ago and we thought the chemo had killed it.

I dont know what to say or do... my mother is torn apart. My dad did everything for her, she has no idea how much money is in the bank or anything... she doesnt even know how to pump gas, he did all that for her.

I'm really messed up right now. All I want to do is crawl into a bottle, but I know that's not what he wants and its not right. I am terrified about the future. I do not want to see him suffer and die in a hospital bed..

man i dont know what to do

Black - so sorry to hear about this. Please remember to take the time to check yourself often as well.

 

[blackhat]

dabuffguy, my condolences for your uncle... my uncle also had a severe stroke just a month ago and the future may not be so great for him either. I will pray for you and your family

plowboy, my heart goes out to you. I hope that your mother goes on to make a full recovery by the grace of God. If you need someone to talk to , I will be here.

and again, thank you everyone for your thoughts and input. I hope to share as much time with him as possible, but at the same time I am afraid to do so because I dont want to treat him like a dying man. He is still trying to go to work and do normal things, but it is getting harder for him minute by minute it seems. His birthday is next week, I want to do something special for him but he told me that he "would rather watch it pass by". He has spent his life working multiple jobs to provide for our family and others. As long as I've known him all he has done is work.. once he has to stop it will devastate him. He is a man who cannot be idle, but does not like to travel or do very active things (he cant anymore anyway). I wish it were all a huge dream, but as said before this is reality...yet I cannot grasp an ideal way to cope with this everyday part of life... My life has become a blur with nothing of importance anymore, my training is all messed up.. he has not even passed yet and everything I see reminds me of him

 

[blackhat]

Black - so sorry to hear about this. Please remember to take the time to check yourself often as well.

they wanted to profile my genome to see if I may have it in the future; I didnt do it.

 

[billfred]

they wanted to profile my genome to see if I may have it in the future; I didnt do it.

Please do. I have a friend who lost his father to this and has just recenlty gone through the whole program as well. Lost both breast, full chemo but now in remission.

One of the really great thing that can come out of your Father's situation is raising your level of awareness.

 

[Scotsman]

Blackhat- Seriously spend time with him. Don't look at him and think of his condition look at him and think about who he is. Use the strength he has taught to you to just be there for him. Stand up straight look him in the eyes and just talk to him, he will thank you for it even if he doesn't say it outloud.

Best of wishes in this endeavor.

Cheers,
Scotsman