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bren565

bren565

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I lost my girlfriend.

I lost my job.

I lost my athletic prowess (have had a labral tear for over a year and just got stitched up)

I lost most of my business,

the list goes on,

I really need some motivation to show my father I am not a failure, he really has no faith in me, and does not love me.

I would love if anyone could help get me pumped, or show me some motivational material, its hard to sac up, for round 2, when round one was already a long shot.
 
Hey brother - sorry you're going through a rough patch. It sounds like you already have your motivation as you want to make your father proud. All you can do is take it one day at a time and concentrate on what you CAN do to make things better. Injuries suck - I broke my hip several years back, but the good news is that it will heal.

Has there ever been something you've wanted to learn or try that just didn't seem like it was "you"? But you didn't allow yourself to explore because you put yourself in a box?

Also - do you read books, or listen to audio books? Check out Daniel Pink's "Drive - the Surprising Truth about What Motivates Us". Are you pretty tech -savvy and into social media? Try Gary Vaynerchuk's "Crush It", which is a really great and motivating read (I listed to it driving) about ways to start and enhance your business using social media. Another favorite is Malcolm Gladwell's the Outlier's which may give you at least a different perspective on what it is that actually makes people successful and could help boost your confidence a bit, and is truly interesting.

Good luck getting through this - day at a time!
 
If your Dad doesn't love you, fuck him and fuck proving him wrong. Prove yourself wrong. Cause you are the one with the shitty attitude. Life is what you make of it.. if you've got a piss poor outlook you're going to weild piss poor results. Set a goal and achieve it rather than whine on an internet forum.
 
Hey man I have been through a lot of the same shit and I know it can feel like there is no fucking end to it however it does get better. I am about a year in now since my life fucking melted to shit. I am nowhere near where I was at financially... and may not have as much going for me yet but just because the fact that people look down on me is enough to push me to try even harder and prove them wrong so I can shove it in their fucking face one day. I still get hit with my share of adversity (i.e just was audited by the IRS) but its all small apples anymore. You can come out of this stronger if you want. Best of luck.
 
He's young...fuck your father. Worry about getting your life together for yourself.
I love my family, but if they are going to hold me back in anyway they can take a walk like anyone else.
Just do your best to get a new job and things will turn around.
 
Pick a future goal to look forward to.

Keep pushing.

Remember that most positive outcomes have a huge amount of luck associated with them. But chance favors the prepared mind. So the key is to keep pushing, even when you don't know if you're going to get the weight.

I get asked by a ton of want-to-be entrepreneurs. I always tell them the same thing. Succeeding is a lot like getting hit by lightening. It's a low probability to begin with. But you'll never get hit of you don't hang-out in a lot of thunderstorms.

HTH.
 
And look at this as an opportunity.
Your GF was no good and neither was your job.
You are young and things will work out as long as you are persistent.
 
Rachel...lol said:
Chris that is not very nice.
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chris is a fuckin twat who thinks he knows everything because he is a doctor. lmao @ believeing what the government teaches you, pwnd

and fuck redshirt too. He gets mad at someone earlier for not caring about the japan people, but then says to the OP to not come on here and whine? Then shit you might as well have the same attitude toward the japanese people that were hit by the tsunami. I dont wanna hear them fuckin whine AT ALL. Life is how you make of it. so fuck them if they have problems right? theyre just fuckin whining

Bren - Get back in the gym hard. Just make yourself go. Get an ipod and put your favorite songs on there. Doesnt matter what kind they are, fuck Ill listen to Mozart while im workin out. Ppl laugh but then see me do weighted dips with 4 45lb plates attached to me and then they shut the fuck up

as far as your ex, it will take time to get over her. just time. You can speed up that time by getting a new girl ;) Like rach said, keep yourself busy.

i wouldnt agree with people that say "fuck your father" , we dont even know the whole story. And he is your FATHER. give him a chance, he prob just wants to see u succeed but is frustrated with what happened to you. Dont let him bring you down. I bet you will look at this thread in 6 months and laugh bro. Take some NTBM supps and kill that shit!

As far as business, what did you used to do?
 
the.gladiator1987 said:
chris is a fuckin twat who thinks he knows everything because he is a doctor. lmao @ believeing what the government teaches you, pwnd

and fuck redshirt too. He gets mad at someone earlier for not caring about the japan people, but then says to the OP to not come on here and whine? Then shit you might as well have the same attitude toward the japanese people that were hit by the tsunami. I dont wanna hear them fuckin whine AT ALL. Life is how you make of it. so fuck them if they have problems right? theyre just fuckin whining

Bren - Get back in the gym hard. Just make yourself go. Get an ipod and put your favorite songs on there. Doesnt matter what kind they are, fuck Ill listen to Mozart while im workin out. Ppl laugh but then see me do weighted dips with 4 45lb plates attached to me and then they shut the fuck up

as far as your ex, it will take time to get over her. just time. You can speed up that time by getting a new girl ;) Like rach said, keep yourself busy.

i wouldnt agree with people that say "fuck your father" , we dont even know the whole story. And he is your FATHER. give him a chance, he prob just wants to see u succeed but is frustrated with what happened to you. Dont let him bring you down. I bet you will look at this thread in 6 months and laugh bro. Take some NTBM supps and kill that shit!

As far as business, what did you used to do?
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Are you serious, Glad? Are you too stupid to see the point I was making? He asked for motivation, not someone to hold his hand. All the other posts in this thread just echoed the same thought as mine, focus on YOURSELF and set a GOAL. He doesn't need to be coddled, he needs to man up. I thought my post was pretty sincere, so fuck you for doubting it.
 
redshirt27se said:
Are you serious, Glad? Are you too stupid to see the point I was making? He asked for motivation, not someone to hold his hand. All the other posts in this thread just echoed the same thought as mine, focus on YOURSELF and set a GOAL. He doesn't need to be coddled, he needs to man up. I thought my post was pretty sincere, so fuck you for doubting it.
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Hey guys / girls

I wanted to make a comprehensive response to encompass what the multiple messages had me thinking,
First of all thanks or the reply.
Redshirt:
Gotcha, I understand where you are coming from, and i get what you ment, it wasn’t whining, in my opinion, i didn’t have a ‘bad day at kindergarten’. I get what u mean, u are implying for me to just sac up, and i get it, for example, last year I was fine, and i lost my job, went out, found another in 1 week, lost 1 week of work. I didn’t whine then, or have any cause for concern, the reason I am having trouble getting stuff done is the lack of physical capabilities, makes it difficult to just ‘go to work’ and self motivate, thats all, and its a multitude of problems all collaborating, haha, I wouldn’t cry if i spilled my milk, and I get it, youd rather see me go get stuff done then asking for some ‘motivay’ and i appreciate the good intentions.
Rachel: Yeah, its rough when you cannot get things done you used to, waiting is the worst part of it, thanks for the book suggestions, i think ill be able to get to a chapters sometime soon, possibly get a few of those and see if they can offer any aid.
Cutthroat: yeah I know, people not expecting you to succeed is a definite motivator, its just difficult when ur alittle disabled physically, its hard not to think about your limitations, thanks for that. Sorry to hear you have gone through the same, thing, don’t think id wish this on anyone ahah
Chew: 22, goals, i have plenty haha.
Larts: thanks buddy, Apprecaite that, Yeah i can see where its not necessarily about what he wants, and i gotcha, its just strange to have that support avenue and then its gone, lol i really. Really. Don’t like him. I just don’t think its that normal to actually dislike ur procreator as a person. Thanks man. Losing the job and gf are an opportunity to get new ones eh, lol now thats the way to think isn’t it
PLunkey: so... try try again? (increase probability?)
Ebony: so not longterm goals then, something small and short term?
Ceo: its been done, I think.
Chris: at another point in time, i would have found this funny.
Gladiator: Yeah i didn’t take his words that well either but i think redshirt did have good intentions, but i appreciate the defense regardless, yeah, getting back in the gym is hard its been over 1 year since i stopped going and in the next 2 months is when ill be able to go (so says the orthopaedist) so im quite excited to do that, I feel ya on finding another girl, the problem with that is, its tough to go out slumming when u have zero dollars and no physical mobility ( u understand how depressing that is ? haha)
My dads a dick pal. I am not saying nepotism is correct, or morally infallible, however when i cant really walk that well or lift heavy things, if he could get me a job in a bank doing absolutely nothing or tons of bitch work for someone else, at least i would have a source of income, or some valuable experiencing maybe i could learn from some people, and no currently i do not have the ‘recognizable’ skill set to attain such employment myself, i can do labor, but since im physically uncapable at the moment this makes it impossible to find employment.
Business, I was a factory worker, made good money, and i actually had an online business that would redistribute chemical products online, much like ntbm. (in Canada ALSO I AM NOT ADVERTISING ANYTHING) I did both simulteanously
Jigga: I hear ya, its just more difficult than it used to be haha.
 
the.gladiator1987 said:
chris is a fuckin twat who thinks he knows everything because he is a doctor. lmao @ believeing what the government teaches you, pwnd

and fuck redshirt too. He gets mad at someone earlier for not caring about the japan people, but then says to the OP to not come on here and whine? Then shit you might as well have the same attitude toward the japanese people that were hit by the tsunami. I dont wanna hear them fuckin whine AT ALL. Life is how you make of it. so fuck them if they have problems right? theyre just fuckin whining

Bren - Get back in the gym hard. Just make yourself go. Get an ipod and put your favorite songs on there. Doesnt matter what kind they are, fuck Ill listen to Mozart while im workin out. Ppl laugh but then see me do weighted dips with 4 45lb plates attached to me and then they shut the fuck up

as far as your ex, it will take time to get over her. just time. You can speed up that time by getting a new girl ;) Like rach said, keep yourself busy.

i wouldnt agree with people that say "fuck your father" , we dont even know the whole story. And he is your FATHER. give him a chance, he prob just wants to see u succeed but is frustrated with what happened to you. Dont let him bring you down. I bet you will look at this thread in 6 months and laugh bro. Take some NTBM supps and kill that shit!

As far as business, what did you used to do?
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You really *are* a fucking idiot.

don't even know where to begin. Between not understanding his post and comparing a life crisis to a natural disaster and death, there really is no hope for you.
 
(my html is fucked up, and i seriously thought this was Bran)

Bren.......what just happened to you, happened to me 4 years ago.

Exact same thing, except my girlfriend screwed me over in a super cunty fashion.


It's going to take time. You're probably going to feel like shit for awhile.

Eventually defiance will take over, and you won't let the situation win. If you made it once, you can do it again. You just need to start somewhere, doing something proactive.

I read stacks of self help books to try and better myself. I was out of shape when all that happened, and rededicated myself to the gym. Slowly but surely each segment of my life came together.

There's no overnight fix for this. it'll probably be one of the most significant crisis' you'll have in your life. but how you respond to it, will ultimately define you. Outer things....they're just life situations. Money comes and goes, and so do women. Embrace when things are good, and do the best you can when things are bad. Nothing lasts forever, and that applies both ways. That doesn't dictate your self worth, you do.

as far as the injury, you may not be able to go crazy with lifting, but you can rehab your shoulder and still be active and fit.
 
CW last post is very true. Takes time to get through these things, so just keep your head up.
Glad's answer was pretty funny. He disagreed with me and then Bren told him he was wrong, lol.
Glad is always entertaining though for sure. I would like to see a whole thread where people give Glad questions about their life and he answers them.
He could have a whole section of a magazine.
 
calveless wonder said:
You really *are* a fucking idiot.

don't even know where to begin. Between not understanding his post and comparing a life crisis to a natural disaster and death, there really is no hope for you.
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i know bro, you are always right, i forgot that anytime someone needed advice people on this board became experts in that field.
 
redshirt27se said:
Are you serious, Glad? Are you too stupid to see the point I was making? He asked for motivation, not someone to hold his hand. All the other posts in this thread just echoed the same thought as mine, focus on YOURSELF and set a GOAL. He doesn't need to be coddled, he needs to man up. I thought my post was pretty sincere, so fuck you for doubting it.
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nah it really wasnt but i agree u had good intentions
 
I see someone else picked a country song...buy Vibrams, an Android phone, and a cat.

Or travel to get a different perspective on how shitty others have it. :)
 
EnderJE said:
I see someone else picked a country song...buy Vibrams, an Android phone, and a cat.

Or travel to get a different perspective on how shitty others have it. :)
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not a bad plan, however i have no money to travel and my parents do not believe in 'vacation'.

but i guess the point is not necessarily putting things in perspective but improving the situation at hand, which is getting slightly better, i must say,

i took some of glads advice and started listening to motzart, no idea how this will help, but i do feel slightly up beat.
 
mrplunkey said:
Pick a future goal to look forward to..
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You are using the present moment (Now) as a means to get to the future. The present moment really doesn’t even exist for you. You are not enjoying the present moment, but only want to escape it to an imaginary point in the future, where you think things will be better for you.

~Eckhart Tolle, The Power of Now~


"He who has a Why to livefor can bear almost any How."

~Friedrich Nietzsche~
 
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