Money or Love...

[b fold the truth]

Lets say that you meet the person of your dreams...and fall in love with them. The two of you get along great and love being around each other...things are going sooooo well.

BUT....

Your parent's do not approve of you being with this person because of their race or where they are from. Lets say that they sooooo do not approve that they are about to cut you off from 'the family' and disown you because you are with them...

Not a big choice yet huh?

Lets say that you are a multi-millionairre and are used to having EVERYTHING that you have ever wanted. Cars, traveling around the world, any clothes, a house of your own (at 21 and paid for completely), I mean ANYTHING that you have ever wanted...but this person that you have fallen for...is very poor. This other person is in debt a lot and struggles to get by on a day to day basis.

You say that money doesn't matter to you and that you would finally let your family disown you because you are with this person...but could you really give up being a multi-millionaire to be a poor person in love?

Seriously...think about it. Could you really give up all the money...for love.

B True

 

[jesus 2]

i would have to know for certain that it was true love. i don't know how i would do that though....


j2da2

 

[Citruscide]

It is hard to say....

On one hand, I love my family... I would think they could respect my decision to marry who I would be happy with... but if they could not... I would have to follow my heart...

I haven't had much "money" in my life... so I am probably not the best person to ask... I have come from a rough go at a childhood and now am trying to make it for myself...

For someone who has always lived with money... it woudl be and adjustment... might even cause problems and arguments... but I'd like to be romantic and think that love can conquer all... and that money is something that can be easily gained...

C-ditty

 

[OMEGA]

Love makes you rich, money alone makes you poor

 

[JohnyJuice]

I dont think the money is an issue. I know my family will always love me. I know this for a fact. Who can say if this girl actually loves me? I dont think i would choose anyone over my family. I also dont think i would ever have to make this decision, because if i truelly loved someone and that perosn loved me, my family would know and support me.

I hope you arent in this situation Clint.

 

[Lao Tzu]

money. The love will wear off in a year, but the money will still be there.


Why can't it be love for a pet or something and not love for a cavity between someone's legs (and the lumps of fat surrounding it)? why is it always romantic love? have we really been manipulated by hollywood this deeply?

 

[plornive]

money. The love will wear off in a year, but the money will still be there.


Why can't it be love for a pet or something and not love for a cavity between someone's legs (and the lumps of fat surrounding it)? why is it always romantic love? have we really been manipulated by hollywood this deeply?

I agree. The only reason I would forget the money was if I was just sick of being manipulated by my family.

I don't really believe in "true love", but I guess it would be pretty cool to marry someone whom I get along with very very well and is very intertaining. That could happen at 40, and it could be one of many people. Money would also give me leverage in the relationship. Woohoo

 

[Puddles]

Yes...I would give it all up for love. And although I wasn't rich, this is what happened to me after my husband asked me to marry him and I said yes against my mother's wishes. My mother threw me out and I gave up my schollarship and education so I could work to support myself and be with the man I loved. Everyone said we were too young, etc. but we knew it was the right thing to do. We got married and worked very hard to become successful. There were a lot of years where the money really sucked, but we were still always happy because we were together. Now...almost 19 yrs. later, I have no regrets and I'd do it all again exactly the same way.

 

[rnch]

money. The love will wear off in a year, but the money will still be there.

sad, but true.............my broly went off the deep end emotionally for a girl he had nothing in common with.......lived together, got married, pumped out kids.............she fell outta love with him, they are tied together by kids and family property and finances, sleeping in separate rooms, no nookie, HELL ON EARTH!!!!!!!!!

 

[TheProject]

I'd give up money for love. No question.

 

[Hannibal]

I've never had money..so I wouldn't miss it.

Definitely love...and then some.

 

[Rotten]

Love

I dated Bud (Wal-Mart) Walton's granddaughter for five years and I was miserable. It was alot of fun sometimes going on trips and doing stuff like that but otherwise she was a slutty bitch. I probably broke it off from her at least 10 times in the 5 years and would always go back. I even moved to Arkansas away from all my family and friends to be with her. I hated it down there. I never could figure out why until I realised it was the money I missed and not her. As soon as I figured that out I left and never looked back.

 

[sk*]

Love, if it was true.

-sk

 

[machaveli]

love......its all the riches you need!

 

[WarriorPL]

Easy question, no.

One woman cannot give me all i need. At least i haven't met one yet.

 

[biteme]

I don't know. Years ago I would have said love over money. I'd have to go with the money. Love doesn't always last. Assuming the money would last, it provides freedom. If you can handle it properly. I also have a child to love and that's the greatest love in the world to me, so I guess that fills my need for love.

 

[Big Johnson]

Flesh and blood are worth more to me than gold, but the issues with the family would be a bit of a problem.

 

[Necrophagia]

I would keep the money. No way would I give up the ritches for the bitches. Love? No thanks I don't need none. Besides if I was a millionare I could pick and choose between women. It wouldn't be an issue.

 

[grlpwrd]

I'm in an opposite situation where I was poor growing up, but I married into money. Not that I married for that reason, of course. My mother-in-law didn't like me because I am part Asian, but has gradually grown accustomed to my presence.. In other words, she doesn't have a choice LOL. My husband has purposely made life choices to do it on his own and live without the strings attached. I really, really like it that way.

Love will always rule. We've experienced good times and bad - including surgeries which I thought I would lose my man and 4 layoffs in 4 years. The love we have for each other and the great experiences we've experienced can not be made up in $$$. I guess I like emotional rollercoaster rides, too. LOL

 

[Bikini Mod]

IF the poor man/woman was not a loser (meaning that they aren't poor because they just can't keep a job LOL) I would choose LOVE hands down....

It is EXTREMELY DIFFICULT to find someone that you can talk to for hours on end about anything and everything, someone you can laugh with even when times are VERY TOUGH, someone who will stroke your hair and tell you, "It'll be ok" no matter how desperate the situation, someone that will ALWAYS have the best interests of you as a couple in mind regardless of where they are or whom they are with, someone that is your friend before they are your lover, someone who will support you because they believe in you regardless of how many people think that you are "tetched" and waaaaay outta your league, someone that speaks words of kindness even when they are blinded by rage....

Money buys freedom, that is true. BUT, can money buy any of the things that I mentioned?

NOT

If the guy/girl is amazing enough for you to love them, money will follow regardless.

Also, remember this - a man/or woman MUST leave the family from whence they came if you are to have a truly successfull relationship. Not saying they have to cut thier parents/siblings off or anything like that. BUT they must ALWAYS put YOU as a couple, FIRST or your relationship will DEFINITELY NOT SURVIVE.

Trust me on this last one.

 

[OMEGA]

I disagree very much with the last one BM

 

[Bikini Mod]

I am not saying that you need to stop talking to the family from whence you came BUT you NEED TO PUT YOU AS THE COUPLE BEFORE THEM. Who comes first? Her family, your family or the family that you as the couple has just created?

You tell me.

 

[OMEGA]

People are the products of their family.

and if one still has roots that run deep in regards to the bonds that they have with their family, then Marriage to another be it women or man is just a extention and broadening of that family on both sides.
If one side disagrees then time and persistance will heal the breach, not a turning of ones back to the family that fostered them

Family is a unit of like people of common values and initiatives, and goodness extending their way of life, values, and sharing with others....

thats all
family first always all families involved

 

[PHATchik]

I always thought that if I had more money, that things would be better. My mother could pay off her bills. I could afford all the stuff I wanted. Sometimes, I still think along those lines. I wouldn't have worries about school bills. I could afford to go visit the people I care about. Just stuff like that. But you know what? All that money is nothing if you don't have someone to share it with. To share your life with. To call at the end of the day and say goodnight to. I would give up money anyday if it came down to it.

 

[Lao Tzu]

I don't know. Years ago I would have said love over money. I'd have to go with the money. Love doesn't always last. Assuming the money would last, it provides freedom. If you can handle it properly. I also have a child to love and that's the greatest love in the world to me, so I guess that fills my need for love.

Good for you. Even though romance is necessary to start a family, people just don't seem to recognize any type of love as existing other than romantic. My parents mean more to me than money, but some woman who i can feel the same emotions for (romantic love), and will feel the same emotions for 10 others does not.

 

[Lao Tzu]

I am not saying that you need to stop talking to the family from whence you came BUT you NEED TO PUT YOU AS THE COUPLE BEFORE THEM. Who comes first? Her family, your family or the family that you as the couple has just created?

You tell me.

Thats horrible. My brothers wife is a part of the family. She is one of my mothers closest friends, they are almost like sisters. Maybe your family & in-laws had problems or something.

Funny thing is, my brother came over to my parents today, and he spent the day with his wife and it reminded me of hte old saying 'when you have a daughter, she is a daughter for life but when you have a son he is only a son until he takes a wife'. Sad. You should be able to do both.

 

[Drunken_Weasel]

I would give up every penny I ever had to truly be in love...

 

[biteme]

I would give up every penny I ever had to truly be in love...

Would you be willing to pay the price? My ex's grandfather just lost his wife of over 60 years. He is so heart-broken that he wants to die. A lot of older people do die soon after their spouse does. They lose the will to live. There's a price for everything that we are attached to. The greater the love the greater the heartache. A sad world.

 

[vinylgroover]

But you know what? All that money is nothing if you don't have someone to share it with. To share your life with. To call at the end of the day and say goodnight to. I would give up money anyday if it came down to it.

Good night babe

 

[Drunken_Weasel]

Would you be willing to pay the price? My ex's grandfather just lost his wife of over 60 years. He is so heart-broken that he wants to die. A lot of older people do die soon after their spouse does. They lose the will to live. There's a price for everything that we are attached to. The greater the love the greater the heartache. A sad world.

If and when I ever have a loved one.. if its a true loved one.. they die.. I will die...

 

[KnoXville]

I seriously couldn’t care less as regards to my family approving whatever fuck buddy is up to bat on my roster. I also wouldn’t take silver kickbacks or handouts from them, even if they were millionaires. So if its a choice between there approval bling and my dating decisions, I would take the meat. On the other hand if the money was mine in the first place, earned and made, I would go for the green and just buy me a couple primed poon partners off the black market or something.

 

[biteme]

If and when I ever have a loved one.. if its a true loved one.. they die.. I will die...

I hear you. If my daughter died, I don't think I would want to live here without her. It would just be too painful to endure. And if there is an afterlife, I would want to be right there with her.

 

[Drunken_Weasel]

I hear you. If my daughter died, I don't think I would want to live here without her. It would just be too painful to endure. And if there is an afterlife, I would want to be right there with her.

thats right...

It's just to bad I won't be getting a "loved one" anytime soon.... if ever...

 

[biteme]

thats right...

It's just to bad I won't be getting a "loved one" anytime soon.... if ever...

I thought the same thing, but it happened. My marriage failed, but it was worth it. I have the best thing that came out of it. I sometimes wish that I could fall in love with someone too, but for me it's a lot less likely than it is for you.

 

[plornive]

I am not saying that you need to stop talking to the family from whence you came BUT you NEED TO PUT YOU AS THE COUPLE BEFORE THEM. Who comes first? Her family, your family or the family that you as the couple has just created?

You tell me.

Yeah I don't like guys with their nuts in their moms' purses. Usually they are married to masochistic or conformist women. If not, they get divorced.

 

[Bikini Mod]

Thats horrible. My brothers wife is a part of the family. She is one of my mothers closest friends, they are almost like sisters. Maybe your family & in-laws had problems or something.

Funny thing is, my brother came over to my parents today, and he spent the day with his wife and it reminded me of hte old saying 'when you have a daughter, she is a daughter for life but when you have a son he is only a son until he takes a wife'. Sad. You should be able to do both.

You misunderstand. There is not one horrible thing about what I said. When there are so many individuals involved undoubtedly there will be times when you can not please everyone. It is at these times when YOUR FAMILY comes first and that goes BOTH WAYS. For a woman, she should always keep the wishes of her husband in mind before she looks at what would please the family from whence she came. And for the man - DITTO.

I don't have ANY problems with my sister's husband or his family. Why? Because I respect the sanctity of THIER FAMILY FIRST. My sister is HIS WIFE before she is my sister. PERIOD. I would never EVER make her choose my needs or THIER needs. Do you follow what I am trying to say?

Too many people pull that blood is thicker than water bullshit and I don't care how "best friends" you are with any one - there will be times when decisions will have to be made where someone's feelings may potentially get hurt. If these people ever MAKE you choose then that is fucked up. Unfortunately it happens all too often. If this is not the case with any of your extended family consider yourself extremely blessed.

 

[theoak01]

I would give anything for love,and shared happiness with another.

money is a luxury and I dont buy into superficial bullshit,sure its nice to have things you want all the time,but so not needed

 

[The Architect]

I guess it's a question of what makes you happier. You live your life for you first- so, If the girl brings you happiness and being poor doesn't bother you choose love. If the wealth and security makes you happier than choose that route. You will most likely find someone else that you will fall in love with.

 

[got big?]

if you were truly in love i dont think youd have to ask what to do..

 

[Sinistar]

bros before hos, money before honeys.

 

[vixenbabe]

Kinda reminds me of the movie " My Big Fat Greek Wedding".

I took love over money! I'd take love over money again IF I ever had too as well!

 

[Taps]

If my family ever disaproved of who I was dating, they'd never tell me -- they know better. I'd tell them to fuck right off.

As for the original question, I'd really, really, really, REALLY want to go for the money. But I'd probably do the love thing.

 

[biteme]

I don't know. Years ago I would have said love over money. I'd have to go with the money. Love doesn't always last. Assuming the money would last, it provides freedom. If you can handle it properly. I also have a child to love and that's the greatest love in the world to me, so I guess that fills my need for love.

I don't know myself. My mind changes like the weather. I saw a girl tonight at the college that I fell in deep lust with. I would choose that lust over the money. No amount of money could bring me the possible pleasure that women could.