Man Im all alone now and stopped doing everything

[patkob2001]

Last week my girlfriend left me ,she left the appartement we built ,all the stuff we bought together ,we started from zero to having a beautiful place.3 weeks previous she started crying ,when I asked her why, she said she wasnt sure if she still believed in our relationship,that I had changed from when we first met,that I got lazy.......and became a shadow of myself.The next week I got up from my ass and changed eevrything around so much that she freaked out.I ask her for a chance to try and fix eevrything.I was still freaking out not knowing if she still loved me ....3 days after that she wrote a letter telling me she loved me and was gonna give me a chance.The sunday after that she got up started putting on her make up ,then when I asked her what she wanted to do today she said she was gonna take her brake
and was going to her friends house .I was destroyed cried all day .I called her job the following tuesday to ask her what was going on and if she was comming back ....she said no .So I have lost the girl of my life ,she said that she needed to be alone she was in a depression.I ask her if she still loved me she said yes but Im not in love with you like before.Now we must divide all the stuff rent out the place we lived together.All this all of a sudden...I didnt sleep the whole week maybe 1 hour a day ate 3 meals the whole week.The thing is I help this girl out when we started out together ....She loved me more than anyother girl Ive ever met.By the way we are both 23......................I know we are young ,she even said that we might come back together in a few years cause she knows Im a good guy ........Anyone ever go true something like this and any comments and help

 

[plifter]

Sorry to hear. I'll do some crying for you

 

[Freak Show]

Been there. Not as much was involved (i.e. apt,etc.)but I hurt the same. I feel for you, but there's nothing anyone here can say or do to improve how you feel. You need to experience all the emotions that come with breakups: anger, guilt, depression, desparation. I'm sure there's more. Do your best to keep your head up. Turn to a support system if you have one. Talk, talk,talk. Don't bottle it up. Just hurts more. Each day it gets better. Don't smother this girl otherwise you'll never get her back. If you act like a co-dependent it'll only reinforce the reason she left you. Be strong. If you have the chance, show her how strong you are. Don't break down and start sobbing your eyes out every time you see/talk to her. You'll get through this. I wish you the best.

 

[dballer]

I went throught the same thing.... excact!!!! Down to the details. We were together for two years. I kept all of the shit and just told her to get lost. That was 1 year ago... I am just starting to get over it.

I asked this old guy on the street how long heart ache lasts one time and he told me "As long as you let it"

Good luck to you my brother,
I feel for you.
DBaller

 

[Y_lifter]

Like Sand through the Hourglass,, So are the Days of Our Lives.

Find one little tiny thing that used to annoy you about her and
think about that one thing all day, every min of the day for a couple of days.

It will help you move on..

 

[Big Brother Val]

Man... that is fuckin' rough. I'm sorry to hear it.

Losing someone you truly love is very, very hard.

I wish I had great advice. Something to really help.

If I knew how to help, I wouldn't be feeling the same way myself.

Take care of yourself.

 

[the nature boy]

Wow man I feel for you. But we've all been through that kind of thing in one way or another and we move on. Dude hang out with your friends and don't be by yourself, otheriwse you'll just dwell on the situation and make yourself depressed.

I know this won't help but realize that there are people who are doing a lot worse then you right now.

 

[Sassy69]

Sorry to hear about another break up. I think as much as people want to find that Mr / Ms Right and build their lives together, especially if you haven't had a chance to find "yourself" that time will eventually come. And it may come at the expense of that relationship -- when "us" becomes "you" and "me".

The good new is that for every change in your life comes another opportunity. But I'll spare you the rest of the "happy horseshit"... the point is that there is a light at the end of the tunnel and its up to you to spend some time coming to grips with it and then you move on.

 

[polarpixie]

Stay strong, keep working out!

patkob, sorry to hear you're going thru such a rough time.

How long were you together? Not that THAT really matters, since it's still upsetting to you....

I wish I had some wise words for you, but of course I don't. Just remember though, many people DO eventually end up finding the right person for them, in your case, it may or may not be her, regardless of how you feel about her now. There is something to be said about being on your own for a while and 'finding yourself' like sassy said though, and knowing that whoever you find will only enhance and not 'make' your existence...it's easy to forget that sometimes.

Plus, just think, if it's so easy for her to bail now, just think if you guys were married!! I hate how so many people just give up on a good thing because....*whine*, they've changed....and they jump ship thinking the next person they find will not have any faults or change on them??? Everyone changes. It's a way of life. Yes, I have some issues.

Stay strong! Keep working out, that always helps! Feel better soon!

 

[patkob2001]

Guys iM feeling abit better now .........still down but and depressed abit..........atleast I worked out and slept the last two days ........eating is still tuff but Im forcing itr down.I went from 233 to 220 in a week ....Not sure if its fat or muscle but I was on a anavar 40mg a day the whole time I lost the weight.Anyway maybe it wsnt right but I work a s a doorman at a club here in Montreal ........And yesterday I picked up 3 chicks(yes a foursome) and brought them back to theyre place ....Yes I feel guilty but hell It made me feel like I was a worthy man .I still cant believe that I went from no sex the last 3 weeks with my ex then next thing u know 3 girls are drooling over my body and face.I guess god exists!Thanks guys 1 day at a time

 

[HamHock]

Bro, when a chick dogs you, use that shit for motivation. Get angry and know your best revenge is to make yourself better than you were with her. Make her regret dumping you by becoming a better person; better yourself professionally, spiritually, look better, whatever. Fuck her for doing what she did to you and let it be a catalyst for making your life better.

 

[satanic goatslayer]

Hello.

Your situation is far from uncommon. So much so, that me and my esteemed group of associates have built a program suited to this exact problem.

For a nominal fee (your liver, or brain matter) we will send a henchman over to beat your girlfriend's head into a bloody, unrecognizable slop of mush. This shall, in effect, make your life 10x plus better than it was 10 minutes ago.

Info @: [email protected]

 

[manny78]

Sorry for you bro...this shit sucks. Really. Especially when the girl is just lying about giving you another chance. Some people just dont understand that good relationship are based on mutual communication. She has probably be brain washed by some no life bitch. Take a look at her friends and there you'll probably find the answer. She's gone ? too bad for her.

 

[patkob2001]

I will survive............hey to the women out there do you think that by telling her Im fucking chicks she will get mad

 

[TxLonghorn]

I will survive............hey to the women out there do you think that by telling her Im fucking chicks she will get mad

Well, there is only one way for you to find out. Let us know what she thinks. Also, be sure to compare their abilities with hers. That way, you show your (ex)girlfriend your ability to contrast and compare. That is a very nice ability to show off to females.

For any other advice, I would defer to Johnny Zampon.

 

[Johnny Zampon]

first off, you should not have called her at her work that tuesday. when she told you that she wanted some time, you should have said ok and acted happy. your problem seems to be that you were in this relationship so long that you forgot to keep playing mind games. i am a firm believer that mind games should never cease in a relationship. the day your girl becomes so comfortable that she knows you would never ever cheat on her or even think about being with another girl is the day you should start preparing for her inevitable walk away from you. sounds to me like you dont need this bitch anyways. shes doing what all women do and that is that she is telling you that you have changed, basically telling you that it is your fault that you guys are breaking up. fuck that. you should have smacked her mouth right when she said that. about the 'getting back together in a couple years', do i even have to tell you that is bullshit? this is one lesson of very many that you will learn about women. about the 'fucking chicks' thing, do not tell her yourself that you are fucking chicks. if she has a brain in her head she will know that you are saying it out of spite. you need someone else to tell her that your fuckin chicks. she may come back to you cus of it, but it wont last long. as soon as she sees you in that comfortable mode, she will jet again. advice to get over it: take up a sport, get back into the groove with your friends, go out every weekend pussy hunting and have a lot of meaningless sex.

 

[manny78]

are you gonna start singing?

Oh God not another remix of this song lol

 

[patkob2001]

Yes Im singing in a shower with get this a balerina
I meet a freakin balerina ...........guys these are women directly from god ........split open wide bend over lick my balls while im fuckin u from behind...........the last one couldnt do that

 

[velvett]

Well.

I can tell you this - the pain will stop.

It always does.

You will mourn, you will get angry, you may even consider getting even, hate the opposite sex for a while (sometimes longer than others may) and one day it all changes.

POOF!

You'll be free on the pain, the sadness, anger and you'll grow as person and start to feel again.

It happens to all of us.


I bought plants (I needed something to nurture) and one survived. For me that is a good thing - I can kill a cactus.

Keep yourself busy and find or continue a hobby.

You may even want to move - and that's not a bad thing.


So let me repeat myself.

That knot in your chest that's making it horribly difficult to breathe will go away - not quickly - but it will.

I promise.

 

[Checkmatebloated]

Been there. Not as much was involved (i.e. apt,etc.)but I hurt the same. I feel for you, but there's nothing anyone here can say or do to improve how you feel. You need to experience all the emotions that come with breakups: anger, guilt, depression, desparation. I'm sure there's more. Do your best to keep your head up. Turn to a support system if you have one. Talk, talk,talk. Don't bottle it up. Just hurts more. Each day it gets better. Don't smother this girl otherwise you'll never get her back. If you act like a co-dependent it'll only reinforce the reason she left you. Be strong. If you have the chance, show her how strong you are. Don't break down and start sobbing your eyes out every time you see/talk to her. You'll get through this. I wish you the best.

This is right. It sounds like shit, but time is the only thing that will help.

 

[THE STEEL BEAST]

IS THE APARTMENT IN YOUR NAME.IF SO ID PUT A PROTECTIVE ORDER UPON TO WHERE SHE CANNOT ENTER.



SHE MAY BE ABLE TO DECLARE SOME POSSESSIONS,AND WHAT NOT BUT YOU WILL COME AWAY AHEAD......


SHE MAY NOT EVEN PURSUE IT.



ALWAYS REMEBER THESE TWO THINGS.



LIVING WELL IS THE BEST REVENGE.

REVENGE IS A DISH BEST EATEN COLD.

 

[Honeynut]

Don't tell her you're fucking other chicks, she'll know you're saying so to make her jealous and she won't respect you for it. HamHock was totally right when he told you to let this be the catalyst for making your life better. Nothing will make her realize what she's missing more than seeing you rise above this.
You will hurt for a long time, no matter how many chicks you take home to bang in your shower. If they distract you, then greart - whatever helps keep you from wallowing in sadness. I strongly suggest you don't jump straight into another relationshiop however, because you'll just fuck your head up even more. Guys have a tendency to do that after a breakup, I don't know why but many men find it impossible to be alone. Stick close to your friends, go out with them, tell them how you feel, get it out even if you're repeating the same things over and over.
One day you will be going to bed after a long day, and realize you haven't thought about her once. One day you'll think about her and realize it's been a week since you thought about your breakup. After months of good days, you'll have one out of nowhere that wallops you in the heart like a big iron spike and you'l cry like you did the first day. This is just the way it goes. But I promise you, you will get over this.

 

[patkob2001]

Yes Im singing in a shower with get this a balerina
I meet a freakin balerina ...........guys these are women directly from god ........split open wide bend over lick my balls while im fuckin u from behind...........the last one couldnt do that

 

[Honeynut]

Wise words...

My boyfriend says: "Few things piss off an ex girlfriend more than her seeing you be happy and doing well without her, being nice to her when you run into one another. She doesn't get to say how you went to shit after she left you."

 

[Draggon]

Man I know exactly how you feel. A few weeks ago the guy I was dating for 2 yrs decide that "It wasn't going to work". What is that? We had everything in common. And what was the worst thing was that he was my workout partner. So I have not really been working out except for my martial arts. And then he started seeing another chick 5 days later. We had everything together. yes even a dog. Planned on getting married and then poof it's over. So I know exactly how you feel. I lost 16lbs and am still trying to get my appetite back. It really sucks. And going out banging every girl isn't going to cure the pain but, I guess it can help you to get passed it. If she really loved you she wouldn't have left like that. You find the right one for you. As for me I trying to find a gym and a workout partner. Good luck !!

 

[manny78]

DOnt forget what Funkdoobiest and Snoop Dogg once said:

"Pussy ain't shit but lips and clits"

"Bitches ain't shit but hoes and tricks".......

Bro have fun, life is so short.

 

[theoak01]

i am no alone to,women are nuts,this girl is liek i really like u but im confused,fuck this shit

 

[Draggon]

Hey Canadian Oak. Men are just as nuts as women. Everyone loves to give an excuse. Just give it to me straight and don't wait years later to do it. I doesn't take that long to realize if you want to be with someone or not.

 

[Ingram]

i am no alone to,women are nuts,this girl is liek i really like u but im confused,fuck this shit

Does anybody understand this gibberish?

 

[theoak01]

you obvisouly need to return to school to learn to read,it says she told me she really likes me but is confused

and i dont think im like other guys,most guys treat women like shit and i cant do that

 

[Ingram]

you obvisouly need to return to school to learn to read

You’re telling me I need to go back to school so I can read a post that resembles the writing of a child? <Ingram shakes his head>

 

[theoak01]

shut your mouth pig fuker,it is puncuated where it should be,im not in the mood for this petty bullshit so grow up or join teh grammer police