Let's talk Sex!!! Sub or Dom??

[nydj66]

lol indeed. People can desire things they don't actually want, but will compartmentalize things into places where it is safe and acceptable. If you get pleasure from pain, humiliation or domination what are you supposed to do until you've dealt with it? Lol. You invite the sadists in...that's exactly what happens.

So if the act of hurting someone brings me no pleasure, but a masochist's reaction to pain does, am I a sadist?

Like the first time a girl asked me to spank her, and I said, "yeah, sure, whatever" Then I spanked her and she winced in pain and moaned at the same time, and I got very aroused.

Does that make me a sadist or just a pervert?

 

[mistaballoonhands]

Cindy = Ruth?

 

[cindylou]

So if the act of hurting someone brings me no pleasure, but a masochist's reaction to pain does, am I a sadist?

Like the first time a girl asked me to spank her, and I said, "yeah, sure, whatever" Then I spanked her and she winced in pain and moaned at the same time, and I got very aroused.

Does that make me a sadist or just a pervert?

Both! hahahaha. In my opinion no it does not; maybe a little but not totally. I think what you're saying is that anything goes...even pain if it serves her pleasure because her pleasure brings you pleasure.

If you said you actively like and seek out causing pain, domination, or humiliation because that is what brings YOU pleasure then you'd be a sadist. This is just what I think about this, too. I have no real valid opinion that should hold any real weight...lol.

We are all perverted and perverts to some degree. Since pervert means to lead away in my opinion when we use sex to distract from something using physical pain or domination and the pleasure we get from it, yeah we are perverts. Lol. But not a pervert where it would be outside social norms or anything.

 

[cindylou]

Cindy = Ruth?

If it's the Ruth I'm thinking (probably not)

THANKS!

 

[mistaballoonhands]

the old Ruth with the vibrators?

 

[cindylou]

the old Ruth with the vibrators?

Lol.

 

[zwhit]

Cindy you think too much

 

[zwhit]

Sub for sure, but I do initiate things here and there...but even when I do, I usually don't take the dominant role after it's started.

Once and a while I do, but it's more to change things up than me liking or wanting that role.

If I don't initiate, I'm submitting?

 

[cindylou]

Cindy you think too much

I know.

 

[uamaverick]

I jackhammer my girl. Feels good man, feels good.