Legally separated VS. Divorce

[NY Muscle]

Been having a heated discussion here at work and getting lots of different opinions.

What exactly is this legally separated in terms of adultery ? Obviously if you are divorced you can bang anyone you like but if you are legally separated, can you have sexual relations “legally” I guess the terms is and also in terms of Christianity, is that so to say “legal” or “ok”, this legal separation crap is odd and not sure what is the deal with having sexual partners if you are not divorced.

 

[vixenbabe]

Hmmm, not sure of the legal facts to the question.

I do, however, have two pals who are seperated and they have other partner's. Their divorce is NOT final nor do they really give a rat's ass who the other is banging at this point in the "marriage".

Perhaps it would matter if the one partner did not want the divorce and wanted to make the other person's life miserable.

How does one charge for adultry? I'm thinking unless you have picture's and VAILD proof - YOU are going to have a realllly hard time prooving anything.

How depressing....

 

[NY Muscle]

Thanks vix, but what about people who follow Christianity...how would the church look on this..that is what we are trying to find out....from what one woman told me "legally separated" means you can legally go on with your life and Im sure that means sex partners...but we do not know what is the "rule" so to say, for Christians.

 

[kronk]

In the eyes of the Church it is bad. They make you later annul your divorce through church paperwork. After your marriage is annuled, you can then go and get re-married.

It also depends on which state you live in. I dont know the laws in NY, but a lot of states are "no fault" states, so the issue of having sex when seperated is not relevant.

 

[velvett]

LOL

Is legal separation for Christians like birth control use before marriage?

 

[vixenbabe]

I'm Catholic...So the same "rules" are allllll 2-gether different as far as my "Christian belief's".

I'd have to go thru the Catholic Church before I could re-marry. I'd also have to have the first marriage annulled IF i wanted to marry in my church again.

I'm betting on NOT ever having to worry about such gloom to be honest!

 

[Zebo]

When my wife and I separated last fall (we're back), it was such a depressing time that neither of us even thought about sex or anyone else. Worst time of my life. Oh and we separated on Sept. 10th. Next day, 9/11 was a nightmare......I pretty much missed alot of it at the time, I was so fucked up. Sex was the last thing on my mind the entire separation.
And yes, Christianity would frown on it.....

 

[The Shadow]

LOL

Is legal separation for Christians like birth control use before marriage?

 

[NY Muscle]

lol ok let me put it in simple terms

Would God be "mad" if a guy had sex with a legally separated chic and not divorced.

I personally dont care about the laws here on Earth, most these laws are pathetic jokes and we break laws every single day of our lives..If i dont do something whether it be rape a girl..beat a girl..kill someone for no reason, etc etc..it has NOTHING to do with the fact that it is not legal..I just wouldnt do it becuase that is just me...but if I wanted to, the legality of it is meaningless to me...but for the people who follow a higher authority.....is sleeping with a separated person ok?

 

[GinNJuice]

Not that I keep track, but I thought that religions said that you could/should NOT get a divorce at all?

I also thought that you were not supposed to have sex out of wed-lock.

So, it would seem to me that NY muscle's question is moot, in regards to religion.

 

[The Shadow]

adultery under the STRICTEST definition of the word only applies to those who are married and sleep outside of the marriage......

 

[vixenbabe]

Would God be mad if he knew I took birth control? Would he be mad if he knew I masterbated? Would he be pissed if he knew I love oral sex?

I'm waiting for a knock on my door and have GOD be standing there with a crown of thorns for me someday!

I just say a few hail Mary's and I'm forgiven....

 

[Temple]

Which God are we talking about??? If you are talking strictly
Christian God it kind of depends on which denomination you are but most if not all would say that having sex with a person who was legally seperated is not okay. If you go by the literal translation I believe that the only acceptable reason for divorce according to the bible is infidelity. And if you repent all of your sins will be forgiven so.......

 

[NY Muscle]

hmmmm ok looks like it is frowned upon by the Catholic religion..that is really all I wanted to know...

mastrubation, oral sex, sex when not married is all small "crimes", but having sex with a married person and or being married and sleeping around is one "rule" I'll personally NEVER break... but hey that is just me.

Anyone who is married and sleeps with other people behind their spouses's back (i say that because swingers know when the other is doing it..not that I agree with what swingers do cause i DONT) is pure trash...

 

[WODIN]

Seperated, Divorced, Married, makes no matter which. If you are diddling someone in a different state other than the state inwhich you were married it isn't cheating....The Rules According to Jack

 

[vixenbabe]

having sex with a married person and or being married and sleeping around is one "rule" I'll personally NEVER break... but hey that is just me.

I agree 100%....but then again... I'm in a happy marriage!

People have choices...They gotta live with those choices too!

 

[Temple]

Don't mean to change the subject but do you think that a person who fools around, get caught and then says they have seen the error of their ways and will never cheat again is being honest or will they cheat again???
I know a guy who messed around on his wife with anything he could get his hands on for 10 or their 13 year marriage, she finally found out, divorced him and now he wants her back. He has used everything from "it would be best for their kids" to "he never realized how much he loved her" to get her to take him back. Personally I think that right now he probably means what he is saying or thinks that he does but if she takes him back two years from now he will be back to screwing around on her. What do y'all think????

 

[The Shadow]

um......tough question.

I think for every 20 incidents of sleeping around there is one that will be a one time thing and will never happen again...

 

[NY Muscle]

but if she takes him back two years from now he will be back to screwing around on her.

most likely.. but who knows..based on his past..the probability is high...and once she takes him back..he KNOWS he has her...cause she’s too weak and let him come back...she should stand her ground and tell the pussy to fuck off.

Incase you havent noticed I HATE "boys" who take advantage of girls (rape/abuse) and HATE cheaters.

 

[Temple]

Oh my God, NYM and I agree on something!!!! The sky really is falling isn't it!!!! BTW his first marriage ended because of his messing around...

 

[vixenbabe]

Temp1....I NEVER understood the concept of cheating..Ever!

Here's my stance: Your friend has MAJOR issues with NOT being able to express himself with ANY partner!

Let's face it..cheating stems from lack of communication in ANY marriage. If he is not getting what he "needs" and CAN NOT express that with a person..HE WILL NEVER CHANGE! He will cheat until he finds what is lacking in his marriage.

Just my thoughts on what I have seen happen to my cheating pals!

 

[Temple]

Vix - he is not my friend, LOL he was married to someone who is very close to me. I personally think he is the Anti-Christ. I think he is seeking what he is lacking in himself.

 

[Formula]

I say;

MARRIAGE IS THE START OF A DIVORCE

 

[vinylgroover]

Does the church view only cheating to be adultery, or is it the physical act of sex with another person that is viewed as adultery.

To explain, there are many married couples who will have threesomes and swap partners, does the church not see this as a form of adultery? No one is cheating per se, but it is having sex outside of the marriage nonetheless.

Is it the physical act or is it the intent of the act that is seen as adultery. Whether it's church mantra or not, at the end of the day it comes down to individual interpretation.