I've lost my motivation(HELP!)

[sonofsooners]

So, recently my father had a stroke and i've been running our family business while studying at night and I'm just exhausted when the day is over. Its not an excuse because I just dont feel super motivated to get in the gym anymore. You would think that the summer being here and looking good with your shirt off etc.. should be motivation enough, but its just not the case. The last 6 months i've busted my ass to look good and now i can see myself losing size and definition and im really not that concerned. Even when i do go, i find myself trying to get in and out as fast as possible. Im not enjoying the pump at all.

Thoughts? Anyone had a similar experience? I could use some help..

 

[downunder hunter]

So, recently my father had a stroke and i've been running our family business while studying at night and I'm just exhausted when the day is over. Its not an excuse because I just dont feel super motivated to get in the gym anymore. You would think that the summer being here and looking good with your shirt off etc.. should be motivation enough, but its just not the case. The last 6 months i've busted my ass to look good and now i can see myself losing size and definition and im really not that concerned. Even when i do go, i find myself trying to get in and out as fast as possible. Im not enjoying the pump at all.

Thoughts? Anyone had a similar experience? I could use some help..

Im sorry to hear that, your going to have to find the motivation within yourself, set some short/long term goals write them out and put them up on your fridge and strive to achieve them, stay focussed and keep working towards your goals. If it means enough to you you'll work threw it.

This thread has nothing to do with steroids so you shouldnt of post it here mate.

 

[stevesmi]

a study was done in a major womens magazine.

they asked women who they would rather date

a guy with a hot body + a STD
a guy with an ugly body and no STD

70% picked the guy with the STD

women dig guys who have nice bodies, and its damn true. any idiot who claims looks dont matter is plain ignorant and probably thinks they have game when they score women on their looks or score drunk hoes/hookers and think that makes them experts.

so use that as your motivation. the better your bod, the more pussy you will attract

women want to flaunt their man in front of their friends especially a guy with a nice bod. the STD part is not their first instinct. it has a lot to do with the way the female mind works and evolution. they want a guy who can protect them and who is strong and the modern women thanks to all these tv shows is very concerned about what their friends think. introduce a fat turd to her friends and she will be embarassed, introduce a guy with a nice body and she will flaunt him.

of course this is my opinion from personal experience and i use that pussy magnet as my motivation and plus I want to make my girl happy and make her friends jealous that i am with her and not them.

 

[EZ_E]

a study was done in a major womens magazine.

they asked women who they would rather date

a guy with a hot body + a STD
a guy with an ugly body and no STD

70% picked the guy with the STD

Proving that most women are braindead, superficial whores


women dig guys who have nice bodies, and its damn true. any idiot who claims looks dont matter is plain ignorant and probably thinks they have game when they score women on their looks or score drunk hoes/hookers and think that makes them experts.

so use that as your motivation. the better your bod, the more pussy you will attract

women want to flaunt their man in front of their friends especially a guy with a nice bod. the STD part is not their first instinct. it has a lot to do with the way the female mind works and evolution. they want a guy who can protect them and who is strong and the modern women thanks to all these tv shows is very concerned about what their friends think.

Proving that most women are totally braindead, ignorant, trash, & whores

introduce a fat turd to her friends and she will be embarassed, introduce a guy with a nice body and she will flaunt him.

of course this is my opinion from personal experience and i use that pussy magnet as my motivation and plus I want to make my girl happy and make her friends jealous that i am with her and not them.

~EZ

 

[Fatboy1984]

Ive had some ups and downs with family problems, and working alot of hours. I try to look at long term progress and try not to get stumbled by small set backs. If every time i lost alittle size or definition, i got discouraged. I would have gave up along time ago. Each year it seems like i have ups and downs. And somtimes think i look like shit in the gym. But when i look back a year or two im always bigger and better. Even if progress is slow and has some ups and downs. Propably one basic cycle can you you back upto par quickly or better. Just do what you can for now to maintain what you can. Maybe get a good preworkout for some energy. (or get a doc to prescribe you adderall (if so use it wisely))
Hang in there, youll be better than you ever were in the long run. Use this as an outlet, and get bigger and better than ever. Fuck problems. Everythings mental.
Hope everything works out for you man.

 

[Messor]

a study was done in a major womens magazine.

they asked women who they would rather date

a guy with a hot body + a STD
a guy with an ugly body and no STD

70% picked the guy with the STD

women dig guys who have nice bodies, and its damn true. any idiot who claims looks dont matter is plain ignorant and probably thinks they have game when they score women on their looks or score drunk hoes/hookers and think that makes them experts.

so use that as your motivation. the better your bod, the more pussy you will attract

women want to flaunt their man in front of their friends especially a guy with a nice bod. the STD part is not their first instinct. it has a lot to do with the way the female mind works and evolution. they want a guy who can protect them and who is strong and the modern women thanks to all these tv shows is very concerned about what their friends think. introduce a fat turd to her friends and she will be embarassed, introduce a guy with a nice body and she will flaunt him.

of course this is my opinion from personal experience and i use that pussy magnet as my motivation and plus I want to make my girl happy and make her friends jealous that i am with her and not them.

The ugly guy would have won that study if he were wealthy.

 

[iron asylum]

The ugly guy would have won that study if he were wealthy.

So True...........But she'd be fuckin the other guy on the side.

 

[instant.muscle]

stick to it, dont settle for less, DO NOT accept failure, keep at it bro im with u!

 

[C0LUMB0]

Write up a new program and diet for yourself and Stick with it even if you dont feel like it....Most people go through a phase like this ,your motivation will return after a while.

Good luck.

 

[stevesmi]

also having a dick that works is important with women. and a healthier guy (one that exercises and eats right) has a better working dick. you better be able to get hard and stay hard. and have endurance in the bedroom. none of this 5 minute crap then dick goes soft. I once met a great Mormon chick, took her to my place. and i was a bit drunk and we fucked and I couldn't stay hard (wish I had some unleashed or hcgenerate back then) totally fucked things up. so i said i would never let that happen again. alcohol did me in on this day and cost me a great girl.

the money thing helps, but isn't as important atleast with the suburban type chicks i meet. they already have rich daddies who spoil them so they dont need the money. I think the bottom line is it comes down to performance both how you look and in the bedroom which ties into you having the motivation to make yourself PERFORM better and look better then the other guy she is interested in.

 

[C0LUMB0]

also having a dick that works is important with women. and a healthier guy (one that exercises and eats right) has a better working dick. you better be able to get hard and stay hard. and have endurance in the bedroom. none of this 5 minute crap then dick goes soft. I once met a great Mormon chick, took her to my place. and i was a bit drunk and we fucked and I couldn't stay hard (wish I had some unleashed or hcgenerate back then) totally fucked things up. so i said i would never let that happen again. alcohol did me in on this day and cost me a great girl.

the money thing helps, but isn't as important atleast with the suburban type chicks i meet. they already have rich daddies who spoil them so they dont need the money. I think the bottom line is it comes down to performance both how you look and in the bedroom which ties into you having the motivation to make yourself PERFORM better and look better then the other guy she is interested in.

I think it was Bill Clinton that said that..... .........

 

[jaybois]

Guess I'm set I've got money and muscle!

 

[stevesmi]

Quote posted by Messor
The ugly guy would have won that study if he were wealthy.
response: So True...........But she'd be fuckin the other guy on the side.


I agree because if the rich guy is 350 pounds and has a 3 inch dick when hard she is gonna go somewhere else. trust me, sexual appeal is way more important to women than money... . the younger fellas on here chasing young girls dont see it yet but they will when they get older.

if life was about bangin chicks I would take being poor and living in a 1 bedroom apt with 3 roomies and looking like a young Arnold vs. being a millionaire wrinkly fat guy in a 10 bedroom house. the arnold guy would get laid way more and doesn't even have to spend a dime on her (maybe a drink at a bar tops), but the 2nd guy would be paying up the butt to get laid and probably have to buy escorts

 

[jaybois]

No excuse for being fat and rich.

 

[AFeedz]

Don't look good for women, look good for yourself. If you just force yourself to work out through these feelings your having, it'll help you in the long run. It will produce endorphins, which will help you release stress and depression. Forcing yourself to go can also help you renew your interest in it, because if you put in the proper effort you'll actually be gaining energy by going, which it sounds like you need, not losing it.

I'd lost all my interest in the gym for a while too; it was like a chore, but after a couple months of pushing through it, I look forward to going again. So it'll come back, don't worry about it.

Plus, going to the gym regularly will keep you feeling great about yourself. If you let it slide and completely stop, one day you'll wake up and realize how drastic the physical change has been and be unhappy with yourself, which a stress you don't need on top of the others. Then things will get REALLY tough, because then you'll really never get your motivation back, realizing that you need to start from scratch and how much more work that is than maintaining whatever you have now.

Now, on to ez_e's comment about women being ignorant, brain dead whores:

First, I'd like to say that I'd choose the hot guy with the STD but only depending on the STD. Many STD's are bacterial (i.e. Syphilis, Chlamydia, etc.), which means they can be completely cured w/ meds to the point the person who had the STD would no longer even be a carrier. If it was a viral STD (HPV, HIV, etc.), I'm almost positive no girl in their right mind would get with any guy, no matter how good looking, if they had the chance at contracting a more serious STD.

Second, yes, most women want a man with a nice, strong body, but that has to do more with nature than being "ignorant, brain dead whores," as ex_e so nicely put it. All female animals in nature look for a mate that will give her the healthiest offspring as well as a mate that can help protect them, a mate who's altruistic. It's no different for us. It's not shallow, it's a natural want and need to find a mate that I can have good children with, though a women probably wouldn't know this is their natural, subconscious thought.

So yeah, if I see a guy in great shape who's healthy, I'm going to want to be with him over a guy who clearly doesn't take care of himself. If a man doesn't take care of himself, he's not going to take care of me or our future children either. It's survival of the fittest, and women want the best chance possible for their offspring to live long, happy lives.

THAT's the science behind women's attraction to in shape men, not a women's magazine study. It's not some shallow obsession with staring at a guys abs, while he's on top of her.

 

[stevesmi]

Don't look good for women, look good for yourself. If you just force yourself to work out through these feelings your having, it'll help you in the long run. It will produce endorphins, which will help you release stress and depression. Forcing yourself to go can also help you renew your interest in it, because if you put in the proper effort you'll actually be gaining energy by going, which it sounds like you need, not losing it.

I'd lost all my interest in the gym for a while too; it was like a chore, but after a couple months of pushing through it, I look forward to going again. So it'll come back, don't worry about it.

Plus, going to the gym regularly will keep you feeling great about yourself. If you let it slide and completely stop, one day you'll wake up and realize how drastic the physical change has been and be unhappy with yourself, which a stress you don't need on top of the others. Then things will get REALLY tough, because then you'll really never get your motivation back, realizing that you need to start from scratch and how much more work that is than maintaining whatever you have now.

Now, on to ez_e's comment about women being ignorant, brain dead whores:

First, I'd like to say that I'd choose the hot guy with the STD but only depending on the STD. Many STD's are bacterial (i.e. Syphilis, Chlamydia, etc.), which means they can be completely cured w/ meds to the point the person who had the STD would no longer even be a carrier. If it was a viral STD (HPV, HIV, etc.), I'm almost positive no girl in their right mind would get with any guy, no matter how good looking, if they had the chance at contracting a more serious STD.

Second, yes, most women want a man with a nice, strong body, but that has to do more with nature than being "ignorant, brain dead whores," as ex_e so nicely put it. All female animals in nature look for a mate that will give her the healthiest offspring as well as a mate that can help protect them, a mate who's altruistic. It's no different for us. It's not shallow, it's a natural want and need to find a mate that I can have good children with, though a women probably wouldn't know this is their natural, subconscious thought.

So yeah, if I see a guy in great shape who's healthy, I'm going to want to be with him over a guy who clearly doesn't take care of himself. If a man doesn't take care of himself, he's not going to take care of me or our future children either. It's survival of the fittest, and women want the best chance possible for their offspring to live long, happy lives.

THAT's the science behind women's attraction to in shape men, not a women's magazine study. It's not some shallow obsession with staring at a guys abs, while he's on top of her.

+1. karma headed your way

wish more ladies would comment on stuff like this

 

[iron asylum]

So True...........But she'd be fuckin the other guy on the side.

A more serious answer from me now. I am going through the same thing believe it or not. After my show last December I set my sites on doing it again this coming December. I have been full bore for the last 6 months but the last month or so I can only think about how I have another 3 months of busting ass and eating every 2 hours (which believe it or not is realy hard) before I start the real chore of dieting down. My training partner who I have had for ten years just had a baby and I never see him anymore which throws off my workouts. My trainer is opening up his powerhouse and until its doors open i wont be seeing him which means I am totally on my own with no one to motivate me. So my answer for all of this is to take a 2 week break and am leaving for Sedona for two weeks of relaxation and spa treatments along with spiritual retreats during the days to the vortexes in the area. No gym no diet no stress for two weeks. Once I get back the Powerhouse gym will be open with new faces and new music and new energy. I am hoping this pulls me out of my slump. A few people have said something totally true and I am going to repeat it. It has to come from the inside. Once I get back I'm going to picture myself winning my event and doing photo shoots afterwards. My goal is to look bigger and better this event adn I have put alot of effert into it. My mind is telling me I need this break though so i am going to take it.

 

[EZ_E]

Gotta go back and read what I wrote a little more carefully, I said MOST women.....and the ignorant part comes from steve’s post about TV and from our uneducated society believing what they see on “reality shows”


~EZ

 

[guayacan07]

Try listening to the music that gets you pumped up or watching videos of guys benching 500 lbs that should motivate you

 

[stevesmi]

Gotta go back and read what I wrote a little more carefully, I said MOST women.....and the ignorant part comes from steve’s post about TV and from our uneducated society believing what they see on “reality shows”


~EZ

we know bro. its all good. guys and girls are both guilty of being equally shameful a lot of times.

i have friends who only date anorexic type girls who treat them like dirt, yet a nice brunette with just a hint of meat they throw to the curb even though she treats them good. it works both ways.

 

[EZ_E]

we know bro. its all good. guys and girls are both guilty of being equally shameful a lot of times.

i have friends who only date anorexic type girls who treat them like dirt, yet a nice brunette with just a hint of meat they throw to the curb even though she treats them good. it works both ways.

Ya, dead on brotha....it's a society thing not male/female

~EZ

 

[sonofsooners]

Thank you for all the respones. I've taken a little time off and I'm gonna find some new music, a new cycle and read some uplifting articles on motivation. I've never had a problem getting ass, for some reason i just dont have the same want to as before. I used to get excited about the idea of going to the gym lately I could give a shit less. Hopefully, this will be a small bump in the road, I should be fine.

All the best....