Is this f**ked up or is it just me?

[ceo]

Re:

Yeah I saw that, but I can't go back to edit it.

I can.

 

[velvett]

Re: Is the f**ked up or is it just me?

That would REALLY bother me. Like, a LOT. In your shoes I would speak to my "other half" and we would talk to her directly but gently about it, together. But I most certainly would not just let it slide. There are boundary issues there.

It's so weird, it give my that queasy pitt in my stomach kind of feel.

I mean if he truly knows nothing about it wouldn't he be thinking that same thing as me? And why would he tell me to thank her? And if you believe that I had misplaced it wouldn't you tell me where it was found?

I don't know if I can confront her or him about this with out seriously loosing my cool right now. I don't take this sort of thing well, I never have.

 

[velvett]

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I can.

That would be very kind of you.

 

[Smurfy]

For the holidays I wanted to use a specific handbag that was given to me last year for my birthday by my "other half" and on Christmas Day when I wanted to use it but it was no where to be found.

Pre story - I took a bedroom and made it into a walk in closet earlier this year so every would have a place and I remember going through every piece of clothing, every shoe and every bag before putting them into the new closet. Most of my better bags have silk or cotton sac to protect them.

So back to the bag - it's MIA and of course I really annoyed because I've been noticing things missing and all the while I'm wondering if I'm just starting to loose it.

On the way to dinner we're in the car picking up his mom and we go back by the house to get a camera and when I got back into the car his mother says to me, "my son tells me you can't find one of your bags" and I say yes and how I'm really disappointed because it was a bag that I purposely did not want to get dirty because it was suede and a limited edition. So she says, "well you have so many". At the time I didn't even think about the comment but later that night I was like what a fucked up thing to say.

So while working the day before last he calls me and says that they looked in all the closets and could not find it anywhere and that I should try the basement. What they didn't know is that I Christmas night I was so upset about it that I had already checked all the closets and basement because I couldn't sleep. So I just said, yah I'll do that.

So today my "other half" comes to my office with a Christmas Bag and says that his mom forgot to give me part of my xmas gifts. I gave him the WTF are you talking about look and inside the bag was my bag with the silk cover over it and he said that his mother won't say where she found it. Dumbfounded I thanked him and he said no to thank his mother.

Call me crazy but that just confirmed all my suspicious as to where the disappearing items go to and the only reason I got it back is because she didn't think I'd notice it missing and she decided to give it back.

Please be honest - if you think I'm crazy to think what I am think tell me if you agree tell me or if something completely different say it - don't sugar coat it

that right there means she's guilty

 

[Frisky]

She went through your things... bottom line! Then she took it? No reason would be a good enough reason for me. If someone needs or wants something from me and I had the means or the desire to give it to them then I would, but I don't like people making their way with my things. I would change the lock on that door to a key'd lock. If the SO gets offended try to explain to him in a real easy manner. (not like I would... I think i would have gone nuts... lol ) I've had things taken from me and I didn't like it very much... even though it may have been in the corner of my closet for years, when I go for it I want it to be there. You are not out of line at all... I would be a tad bit upset also.

 

[captainahole]

I think it should be addressed this is not right no matter which way you look at it.
On the other hand you should really check out and be sure she hasn't taken your thongs or toys.
Sorry just had to add that.

 

[velvett]

Re: Is the f**ked up or is it just me?

strange, I'd feel kinda raped in that situation. Deranged woman indeed.

Well, it is a kind of violation.

I'm really taken aside about whole thing.

I mean it is easy to be mad at someone for their actions, I can accept that and I can rationalize my feelings but the bigger picture asks what damage has it or will it do with my ability to trust either of them.

 

[velvett]

I think it should be addressed this is not right no matter which way you look at it.
On the other hand you should really check out and be sure she hasn't taken your thongs or toys.
Sorry just had to add that.

LOL

Thanks for making me laugh.

And they are already under lock and key.

 

[Sub-Zero]

Re: Is the f**ked up or is it just me?

She doesn't live with us but she's over a lot.

I don't think she was borrowing it, she either took it for herself or to give to someone else.

I was just going to change the door to a privacy handle from a passage so I can lock it.

That bag may have been the last straw for me.

has she done anything similar to make you think this the case? have you discussed such scandals with your life partner?

ever confronted her about it?

it may be time for a catfight

 

[all the whey]

Re: Is the f**ked up or is it just me?

That would REALLY bother me. Like, a LOT. In your shoes I would speak to my "other half" and we would talk to her directly but gently about it, together. But I most certainly would not just let it slide. There are boundary issues there.

WTF?

He is just as/or more guilty. He took it. Or, at the very least is covering for her.

He is not a member here. You don't have to look out for his interests. So, ease up mizz serios Omnibudsman.