Is this f**ked up or is it just me?

[all the whey]

She went through your things... bottom line! Then she took it? No reason would be a good enough reason for me. If someone needs or wants something from me and I had the means or the desire to give it to them then I would, but I don't like people making their way with my things. I would change the lock on that door to a key'd lock. If the SO gets offended try to explain to him in a real easy manner. (not like I would... I think i would have gone nuts... lol ) I've had things taken from me and I didn't like it very much... even though it may have been in the corner of my closet for years, when I go for it I want it to be there. You are not out of line at all... I would be a tad bit upset also.

WTF?

Why explain to SO in a "real easy manner"?

If it comes to a point where you think you need to lock a closet. That is the time to get rid of the people you are living with.

 

[Dial_tone]

Yes, Mom stole your bags... now post some boobies.

 

[Sub-Zero]

Re: Is the f**ked up or is it just me?

That would REALLY bother me. Like, a LOT. In your shoes I would speak to my "other half" and we would talk to her directly but gently about it, together. But I most certainly would not just let it slide. There are boundary issues there.

lol...if i were married and the wife says "we are sitting your mother down and talking about this to her..together" i would laugh so hard and say EFFF NO!

 

[all the whey]

Re: Is the f**ked up or is it just me?

Well, it is a kind of violation.

I'm really taken aside about whole thing.

I mean it is easy to be mad at someone for their actions, I can accept that and I can rationalize my feelings but the bigger picture asks what damage has it or will it do with my ability to trust either of them.

Props to you to not being blind like the other women are.

He has a large share of the guilt to. No matter how it happened.

 

[ceo]

Re: Is the f**ked up or is it just me?

Props to you to not being blind like the other women are.

He has a large share of the guilt to. No matter how it happened.

That's what my initial thought is...unless he's just really oblivious (he's not a Forrest Gump is he?).

 

[velvett]

Re: Is the f**ked up or is it just me?

has she done anything similar to make you think this the case? have you discussed such scandals with your life partner?

ever confronted her about it?

it may be time for a catfight

She does it all the time.
This Christmas was the first time she did it right in front of us.
(gave her other son and his girlfriend things that we bought for her)
I tried to talk to him about it but he always makes up excuses for her.

If I go forward with this I have to decided wether not I'm ready to end a relationship over it. (hence my bouncing this around with people that don't know either of us as a couple)

 

[velvett]

Re: Is the f**ked up or is it just me?

That's what my initial thought is...unless he's just really oblivious (he's not a Forrest Gump is he?).

He's oblivious to what is in the closet and where because I like it that way he likes to be handed what to where but he is not oblivious as to what his mother does.

 

[velvett]

Re: Is the f**ked up or is it just me?

WTF?

He is just as/or more guilty. .

I know.
Actually it is worse because it just opens up a whole other list of issues.

 

[all the whey]

Re: Is the f**ked up or is it just me?

That's what my initial thought is...unless he's just really oblivious (he's not a Forrest Gump is he?).

lol

I was going to tell the girls that he is guilty or he is fucking stupid.

And, we know he is not stupid.

Because, vel would never go out with a stupid fuck.

 

[all the whey]

Re: Is the f**ked up or is it just me?

I know.
Actually it is worse because it just opens up a whole other list of issues.

You are exactly right.

If this type of shenanigans is going. Who knows what else?