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Is my girl a cheater?
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I didn't say that I wasn't allowed to hang out with chicks; she just doesn't like it when I do. I am supposed to not be worried whenever she is with guys. I know some of these guys, and most of them are losers that would do anything to get a piece of her, but are too scared to ever try anything. She knows she could fuck anyone at any time, and she really isn't the type to do that. I just get nervous sometimes because she is so worried about me hanging around girls, it make me think she is up to no good herself.
I agree with someones earlier post on this thread about the trust and relationship thing. If I wanted to fuck other girls, I would. I would simply not be with my chick, and I would fuck all these other girls that I supposedly want to fuck now. I think she may be finally starting to grasp that concept, we talked about it last night.
My chick definitely is naive, we have been in more than a few arguments about morons that want to fuck her, who she thinks are "being nice to her".
I talked to a couple of my friends that live in her apartment complex, and apparantely there were about 10 people in and out of this study guy's apartment. Apparantly he is some nerd that helps out everyone with their homework.
I agree with someones earlier post on this thread about the trust and relationship thing. If I wanted to fuck other girls, I would. I would simply not be with my chick, and I would fuck all these other girls that I supposedly want to fuck now. I think she may be finally starting to grasp that concept, we talked about it last night.
My chick definitely is naive, we have been in more than a few arguments about morons that want to fuck her, who she thinks are "being nice to her".
I talked to a couple of my friends that live in her apartment complex, and apparantely there were about 10 people in and out of this study guy's apartment. Apparantly he is some nerd that helps out everyone with their homework.
onerepmaximum
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I'll tell ya what I know from experience. If you don't or can't trust the person that you are in a relationship with, it's gonna fail. I'm not saying that is the case in this situation. Just a general observation.
Generic MALE
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I would enjoy seeing you pull some 007 on her. Get one of your guy friends she does not know to hit on her, see what happens.
B-fold, I think its great you show that respect to your woman, and expect the same in return
B-fold, I think its great you show that respect to your woman, and expect the same in return
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anabolicmd
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Man, if I had a nickel...
THeMaCHinE
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First of all, I'm of the opine that men and women in committed relationships should not spend significant time with members of the opposite sex without their significant other.
Say whatever you want about trust, and "I would never... she would never..." blah, blah, but until you understand how people are really wired, you will ignore your common-sense gut feeling that tells you the truth about letting your SO do this and tell yourself that it's OK behavior to avoid a blow-out fight (and the possible repurcussions). Read about a concept called the "love bank" in my sig below to understand more. I don't have time to go through it all right now. And ultimately, it has as much, if not more, to do with RESPECT than trust.
Particularly since she's not cool with you doing it, and assuming you've made it *crystal* clear that you're not comfortable with her doing it -- then look at what's happening: you hold up your end of the deal and she doesn't -- yet you don't do anything about it. So why would she give up things she likes if there's no repurcussions?
Ultimately, it's your weakness enabling her to act the way she is. Never mind respect and fairness, you two laid out the rules together, she's not following the rules, and you're not doing anything about it. Quid pro quo.
Now, with all that said, if you are hanging out with chicks, then you got no room to talk.
Assuming you're not hanging out with chicks, do what you need to do to become comfortable with the situation. You guys need to develop respect for one another, and you need to develop the respect for yourself to stand up for what is right for your relationship. If you are hanging out with chicks, then lead by example and don't ask for unfair things out of her if you're not willing to do the same.
Good luck.
Say whatever you want about trust, and "I would never... she would never..." blah, blah, but until you understand how people are really wired, you will ignore your common-sense gut feeling that tells you the truth about letting your SO do this and tell yourself that it's OK behavior to avoid a blow-out fight (and the possible repurcussions). Read about a concept called the "love bank" in my sig below to understand more. I don't have time to go through it all right now. And ultimately, it has as much, if not more, to do with RESPECT than trust.
Particularly since she's not cool with you doing it, and assuming you've made it *crystal* clear that you're not comfortable with her doing it -- then look at what's happening: you hold up your end of the deal and she doesn't -- yet you don't do anything about it. So why would she give up things she likes if there's no repurcussions?
Ultimately, it's your weakness enabling her to act the way she is. Never mind respect and fairness, you two laid out the rules together, she's not following the rules, and you're not doing anything about it. Quid pro quo.
Now, with all that said, if you are hanging out with chicks, then you got no room to talk.
Assuming you're not hanging out with chicks, do what you need to do to become comfortable with the situation. You guys need to develop respect for one another, and you need to develop the respect for yourself to stand up for what is right for your relationship. If you are hanging out with chicks, then lead by example and don't ask for unfair things out of her if you're not willing to do the same.
Good luck.
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W$R[/i] [B]blah blah blah blah blah......[/B][/QUOTE] Dude you are just rationalizing now.... [QUOTE][i]Originally posted by Generic MALE said:
Yep- get her on the board, one of these horny bastards here will be all over that $hit in no time.... then you will find out the truth and be done with it....
