Is It Possible To Be Friends With An Ex?

[Meantime1]

Is it possible to be friends with an ex
I just want to make sure i am doing the right thing
My ex and i broke up a yr ago and it was very painful for me since he was the one who ended it,
I took me almost a yr to get over him,
The thing is every time i went out, he was just happened to be at the same club as me

We ran into each other on New Years Eve and he was with his New Partner, we had ignored each other for almost a yr, each time we ran into each other, But this time i decided to be the adult said hi made small chat and went on my way

Now been 2005, i thought to myself maybe it time we try and be friends, since alot has happened to the both of us in 12 months, So i emailed him this morning and He emailed me back and said he would really like that alot.

Now i just want to know what you guys think, is it possible to be friends with an ex, I have gotten over the heartache and seen him with someone new and all that,

Sometimes i feel a bit sad but i guess only because of what i thought could have been, but overall i am perfectly fine

I know, i too can be in a relationship if i want, since i have others in the queue but i am being patient for once in my life and will not settle for whatever comes along, and i am a great believer that when u meet that someone who u feel u can really build a connection with, you just know, it feels right etc

So what do you guys think and PLEASE FOR ONCE, no RUDE MESSAGES BACK ETC, lets be adults, I Consider elite to be a part of my 3rd family, soo that is why i write

X Meantime1

 

[from zero]

More often than not, it's not possible, because both people will resent one another, or one will still have feelings, and the other won't, and that's just awkward for everyone.

It can happen though. One of my best friends is my ex gf.

 

[Dial_tone]

I am great friends with my ex-gf. Over a year later and we still live together, seperate bedrooms.

 

[*MissFit*]

I have tried to be friends with an ex.. an although i do think it is possible.. i think there is always the chance one side might redevelop those special feelings... and in the end this might cause more harm then good.

If you do deicde to be friend with an ex, make sure enough time has passed for both sides to resolve any feelings.

Personally. I won't ever try it again.. well at least not a close friendship.. occasional emails are alright

 

[Meantime1]

THANKS GUYS
This means alot to me that you have all responded, i just wanted to make sure,
I dont think i can be the kind of friend where we all go out together as a group chatting away and all that, But i do agree the occasional emails and running into each other and making small talk, now that i can do,
Since i have never been a rude person and my mum always say the best way to really get under someone skin is to treat them with kindness,
This will be a big test for me since i am on the path of spiritual growth and self love, loving myself no matter what happens but most of all respecting myself

Thanks
I will keep you guys updated
Meantime1

 

[The Shadow]

Yep

 

[ChefWide]

sure...

they haven't found mine yet.. maybe come thaw...

 

[Sebastionv]

sure, I remember Brandon and Kelly and Dillon and Steve and Valerie made it through 5 seasons with each other. Nothing wrong with a drunken boody call when your mojo is flickering.

peace

 

[Big Rick Rock]

Is it possible to be friends with an ex
I just want to make sure i am doing the right thing
My ex and i broke up a yr ago and it was very painful for me since he was the one who ended it,
I took me almost a yr to get over him,
The thing is every time i went out, he was just happened to be at the same club as me

We ran into each other on New Years Eve and he was with his New Partner, we had ignored each other for almost a yr, each time we ran into each other, But this time i decided to be the adult said hi made small chat and went on my way

Now been 2005, i thought to myself maybe it time we try and be friends, since alot has happened to the both of us in 12 months, So i emailed him this morning and He emailed me back and said he would really like that alot.

Now i just want to know what you guys think, is it possible to be friends with an ex, I have gotten over the heartache and seen him with someone new and all that,

Sometimes i feel a bit sad but i guess only because of what i thought could have been, but overall i am perfectly fine

I know, i too can be in a relationship if i want, since i have others in the queue but i am being patient for once in my life and will not settle for whatever comes along, and i am a great believer that when u meet that someone who u feel u can really build a connection with, you just know, it feels right etc

So what do you guys think and PLEASE FOR ONCE, no RUDE MESSAGES BACK ETC, lets be adults, I Consider elite to be a part of my 3rd family, soo that is why i write

X Meantime1

Q: What can you get out of this relationship?

Do you have plans to make your move at some point and get back together? Maybe some casual sex?

What?

Ask yourself these quesrions before you invest time and energy into cultivating a friendship with somebody whom was not compatible with you as a mate.

I feel that friends take up time, I only maintain friendships with people I feel are worth the time. Fuck everybody else.

 

[Evil_Frisky]

I am social with my boyfriend from the younger days...

Its hard to befriend my X, though I try... he sometimes interprets friendly gestures as being a step tword reconciling our marriage. We have our UP's and out DOWN's ... So much baggage, but we also have kids and IMO we need to be cordial when we are around each other.. suck it up and do it for our kids.