Interracial marriage

[Vicious cycle]

Who here is interracially married? Any mixed kids also?

What, if any, problems or circumstances have you have to deal with because of it? (I am white but g/f is black, wanted to know what to expect if we decide to get married)

I remember one time when I was a kid, a friend of my Mom brought a white lady over who was about marry a black man. The lady wanted to know the same thing you are asking; what she could expect. There came a knock on the door and Mom answered it. Moms friend walked in first. The lady that she was bringing over smiled at my Mom and said, "Hi, my name is..." and WHAM!!!! My Mom slams the door in her face! Mom waited for a few seconds and then opened the door. When the lady turned around my Mom said, "If you are willing to put up with the feeling you have right now from time to time for the rest of your life, then marry the man." She invited the lady in and they all had a long conversation. To this day I have no idea what about or if the lady ever married the guy.

Another memory I have on this is at my babysitters’ house when I was a child. Big "Aunt Jemima" looking black lady, Miss Ade I called her. I loved her to death, truly a great lady. Anyway, my Mom comes to pick me up one day and Miss Ade was looking very annoyed. Mom says, “What’s wrong Miss Ade”? She looks at Mom and says, “My niece is going to marry a white man”. Mom says, “So, I thought you liked white people?” Miss Ade says, “O’honey, I do like you’ all. I just don’t think we should marry you.”

Point is Dave, some white people might not like it and some black people might not like it. Where you live matters only in the frequency of the prejudice you will face. Rest assured you will face it. Not only you and your wife, but your kids will face it as well. It will be much tougher on them.

But, I’m a firm believer that if you do what is in your heart; you and your miss will be just fine.

Best of luck
-VC-

 

[NJjuice22]

my ex is black/white , I have a kid with her...we are probably gonna get back together and she will probably be the woman I marry. I have a daugther with her so my daughter is 1/4 white, 1/4 italian, 1/4 cuban, 1/4 black....it was never a racial issue family wise as both our families arent the racist type...very open minded.

 

[HiDnGoD]

I weep that this thread is even necessary.
I greatly admire any biracial couple with the guts to follow their love. One at a time, through their example, they are changing this world for the better.

 

[stilleto]

1/4 white, 1/4 italian.

that would be 1/2 white, no?
white is a color- italian is a nationality, most of whom are white.
congrats on the future plans though- thats very cool.

 

[NJjuice22]

that would be 1/2 white, no?
white is a color- italian is a nationality, most of whom are white.

nah, italians can dance/have rythmn and we dont have little pee-pees ...so i say its not white. but technically you are correct...although I usually think of white as anglo saxon type/irish/english type.

 

[stilleto]

nah, italians can dance/have rythmn and we dont have little pee-pees ...so i say its not white.

i think if you just said that italians are closer to black than white, you're gonna have some annoyed italians posting.

 

[NJjuice22]

i think if you just said that italians are closer to black than white, you're gonna have some annoyed italians posting.

i didnt say italians are closer to black, i said they are italian. I think Italians fall into a slightly different racial category than your standard white person.

 

[nycgirl]

I agree with VC, where you live will only affect the amount of prejudice you experience. As far the public goes, the stares and, if applicable, comments will continue. If you made it this far without letting that affect you, then don't worry about that.

I find with family, they are cool with when you are just having sex or dating (they think it is phase and you will grow out of it). When things get serious and has the possibly to lead to marrige, then that is when there is a shift in attitude. This is when the strength of your relationship is tested. If this is the woman you want to spend the rest of YOUR life with, then go with your heart and do what makes you happy.

 

[SlickB]

fuck buddy

i was thinking "former biatch" ?

 

[nycgirl]

i didnt say italians are closer to black, i said they are italian. I think Italians fall into a slightly different racial category than your standard white person.

I think what he is saying is that Italians (as well as other European cultures along the Mediterranean Sea) are not WASPs.