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" I TRUST YOU...JUST NOT HER/HIM"

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I DON'T UNDERSTAND WHAT DOES THAT MEAN, ESPECIALLY WHEN A SIGNIFICANT OTHER SAY THIS. WHEN I HEAR THIS .. I FEEL LIKE IT'S A SLAP ON THE FACE IT SHOWS THAT HE DOESN'T TRUST MY JUDGEMENT ON THE PEOPLE I HANG AROUND WITH.

THIS SHOW ME THAT THIS PERSON IS MORE INSECURE ABOUT THEMSELVES. :worried:
 
It takes two to tango. When they say "i trust you, I just don't trust him" it is like saying that you are too stupid or untrustworthy to turn down this other person's advances. It either means he doesn't trust you or thinks you are stupid, unassertive, or generally unable to say "no."

I hate it when men tell women this.

Women do the same bs, so I'm not picking on the men.
 
heatherrae said:
It takes two to tango. When they say "i trust you, I just don't trust him" it is like saying that you are too stupid or untrustworthy to turn down this other person's advances. It either means he doesn't trust you or thinks you are stupid, unassertive, or generally unable to say "no."

I hate it when men tell women this.

Women do the same bs, so I'm not picking on the men.
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Actually. I'm not unassertive, I think it's more of along the line that I feel disrespected because he forgot about that I'm not asking his permission to go and see him I'm telling him.
 
heatherrae said:
It takes two to tango. When they say "i trust you, I just don't trust him" it is like saying that you are too stupid or untrustworthy to turn down this other person's advances. It either means he doesn't trust you or thinks you are stupid, unassertive, or generally unable to say "no."

I hate it when men tell women this.

Women do the same bs, so I'm not picking on the men.
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yo hr
 
Hard-Bitten said:
Actually. I'm not unassertive, I think it's more of along the line that I feel disrespected because he forgot about that I'm not asking his permission to go and see him I'm telling him.
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I don't think you are at all. I wasn't saying this about you. I was saying that inherent in a man telling a woman that is the assertion that she is untrustworthy, stupid, or unassertive.

I wasn't saying anything bad about your character.
 
translation: "im insecure +/- dont trust you +/- threatened by this guy and im trying to control you via negative feelings ie guilt"

you should be thinking: "what a tosser why dont i live next door to golden"

thatll be 5 bucks
 
heatherrae said:
It takes two to tango. When they say "i trust you, I just don't trust him" it is like saying that you are too stupid or untrustworthy to turn down this other person's advances. It either means he doesn't trust you or thinks you are stupid, unassertive, or generally unable to say "no."
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ding ding ding!!

basically he thinks your a female
 
heatherrae said:
I don't think you are at all. I wasn't saying this about you. I was saying that inherent in a man telling a woman that is the assertion that she is untrustworthy, stupid, or unassertive.

I wasn't saying anything bad about your character.
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:)
What would be your response if he throw that at you saying he trust you but not him.
 
heatherrae said:
I don't think you are at all. I wasn't saying this about you. I was saying that inherent in a man telling a woman that is the assertion that she is untrustworthy, stupid, or unassertive.

I wasn't saying anything bad about your character.
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:) understood.


What would be your response if he throw that at you saying he trust you but not him.
 
Hard-Bitten said:
:)
What would be your response if he throw that at you saying he trust you but not him.
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I would say, "Well, you don't need to trust him if you trust me." :qt:
 
Hard-Bitten said:
I DON'T UNDERSTAND WHAT DOES THAT MEAN, ESPECIALLY WHEN A SIGNIFICANT OTHER SAY THIS. WHEN I HEAR THIS .. I FEEL LIKE IT'S A SLAP ON THE FACE IT SHOWS THAT HE DOESN'T TRUST MY JUDGEMENT ON THE PEOPLE I HANG AROUND WITH.

THIS SHOW ME THAT THIS PERSON IS MORE INSECURE ABOUT THEMSELVES. :worried:
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You, are the only person in the world that can make him feel safe.. now either do what it takes, or find someone more secure with who they are..

sorry, but that's just the way it is..
 
heatherrae said:
I would say, "Well, you don't need to trust him if you trust me." :qt:
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I did that.
He said " I don't trust him and I don't like it.. I wouldn't do something you don't like "

I said " It your choice, I wasn't asking you remember that. I told you to respect you. "
 
SpyWizard said:
You, are the only person in the world that can make him feel safe.. now either do what it takes, or find someone more secure with who they are..

sorry, but that's just the way it is..
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Don't aplogies (=

I agree with you, I will not put myself in a situation where its asking for insecurity for it to happen.
it just kinda burn when he says that ..
 
EnderJE said:
It would be more honest if they said..."I'm feeling insecure".
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I think that's your personal problem that you need to deal with.
I can help you but that's your problem, not mine.

that what i would say (=
 
Hard-Bitten said:
I think that's your personal problem that you need to deal with.
I can help you but that's your problem, not mine.

that what i would say (=
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But then they could say..."yeah...don't make me call INS".

It's a no win situation.
 
Hard-Bitten said:
Oh really? You see, I thinking that but I dont' want to appear insensitive lil bitch
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if its something that bothers you then man the fuck up! its not being insensitive its being real
 
jon79 said:
if its something that bothers you then man the fuck up! its not being insensitive its being real
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shut up, you bite my word punk!

Alright, so you would like it for girl to tell you man the fuck up and stop being a lil bitch about going out with what his face.. yah I see that you're upset and you're throwing a fit but ya know what, you're grown ass man so being insecure is lame.
 
Hard-Bitten said:
shut up, you bite my word punk!

Alright, so you would like it for girl to tell you man the fuck up and stop being a lil bitch about going out with what his face.. yah I see that you're upset and you're throwing a fit but ya know what, you're grown ass man so being insecure is lame.
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what?

was just fuking around
 
Hard-Bitten said:
shut up, you bite my word punk!

Alright, so you would like it for girl to tell you man the fuck up and stop being a lil bitch about going out with what his face.. yah I see that you're upset and you're throwing a fit but ya know what, you're grown ass man so being insecure is lame.
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so i am a punk now?

i hope you are kidding
 
Why do you need anybody to tell you who you can/should hang around with?
 
chewyxrage said:
Listen, any guy who just wants to be your friend really wants to fuck you.

Sorry, it's true.
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yep.

All you women that want to stand up and defend your guys "friends" and say that they dont want to try to fuck them......you should hear how your guy "friend" talks about you when he's around the guys.

I trust my girl 1000%, because she is about the only girl I've ever met that actually has morels.

But I dont trust her guy friends for one second and I let everybody know it.
 
The person actually doesn't trust you, but this is an easy way of saying it without looking jealous\insecure\controlling.


I have learned that a person is going to cheat if they want. No amount of rules, force, guidelines, etc is going to stop it. So, do not strain the relationship with it.

If he/she cheats, then move on immediately. It's obvious it wasn't the right person for you and be glad you found this out sooner than later.
 
GoldenDelicious said:
translation: "im insecure +/- dont trust you +/- threatened by this guy and im trying to control you via negative feelings ie guilt"

you should be thinking: "what a tosser why dont i live next door to golden"

thatll be 5 bucks
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That is a great answer worth more than 5$
 
eh...it depends. it can be insecurity or it can be because he thinks you're naive.

fact is, some girls are very naive to guy's approaches...especailly if they're sly about it or try to go under the radar.
i used to see it with my ex all the time. She's super social with everybody, guy or girl, and because she's laughing and having a good time, guys act like it's a cue to fuck. She got better as time went on...i eventually learned to not intervene but i'd call out a situation before it happened, and low and behold...a person she was talking to would try to make an advance or touch her or something.

she wised up after that.

it all depends on the context...and if you've exhibited behavior that deems you naive or non trustworthy. if neither are the case, then it's probably insecurity
 
He's smart. He knows if you hang out with some dood all the time, sooner or later, you'll get drunk and end up with the guys penis in your pooper.
 
Hard-Bitten said:
I DON'T UNDERSTAND WHAT DOES THAT MEAN, ESPECIALLY WHEN A SIGNIFICANT OTHER SAY THIS. WHEN I HEAR THIS .. I FEEL LIKE IT'S A SLAP ON THE FACE IT SHOWS THAT HE DOESN'T TRUST MY JUDGEMENT ON THE PEOPLE I HANG AROUND WITH.

THIS SHOW ME THAT THIS PERSON IS MORE INSECURE ABOUT THEMSELVES. :worried:
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Maybe some of the people you hang around suck? Doesn't always mean the person is insecure.
 
heatherrae said:
It takes two to tango. When they say "i trust you, I just don't trust him" it is like saying that you are too stupid or untrustworthy to turn down this other person's advances. It either means he doesn't trust you or thinks you are stupid, unassertive, or generally unable to say "no."

I hate it when men tell women this.

Women do the same bs, so I'm not picking on the men.
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Most women are too stupid to accept the fact their male "friends" want to bang them. :)
 
JavaGuru said:
Most women are too stupid to accept the fact their male "friends" want to bang them. :)
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Do you really think they are stupid, or simply enjoy it?
 
JavaGuru said:
Most women are too stupid to accept the fact their male "friends" want to bang them. :)
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I think this is often the case, although I think they do know it often and pretend they don't because they like the power, control, and attention.
 
Hard-Bitten said:
I DON'T UNDERSTAND WHAT DOES THAT MEAN, ESPECIALLY WHEN A SIGNIFICANT OTHER SAY THIS. WHEN I HEAR THIS .. I FEEL LIKE IT'S A SLAP ON THE FACE IT SHOWS THAT HE DOESN'T TRUST MY JUDGEMENT ON THE PEOPLE I HANG AROUND WITH.

THIS SHOW ME THAT THIS PERSON IS MORE INSECURE ABOUT THEMSELVES. :worried:
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Here is what he is saying.
Any guy that hangs out with you would have sex with you.
He is also letting you know he is a bit insecure.
Story over!
 
I wonder how she would feel if he was hanging around with hot chicks who were "just friends." Most of my female "friends" have propositioned me for sex or admitted they wanted to date me.
 
fact, guys and girls can never be just friends. i dont know if u dont realize this yet, but if theres a guy friend of yours thats close enough to you to warrant jealousy from your signifigant other, this guy friend wants to fist you pretty fucking bad.

try this:

go up to ur guy friend and be like "hey u want to be more than just friends? "
he will most definately go "holyshit ya! ive been waiting forever for u to ask me that. ive dreamt of this night for so long. u have no idea how many times i masturbated after that time u gentley touched my arm. i always knew we had this intimate thing that.."
"just kidding, i just wanted to test out a theory. toodles!"
 
blueta2 said:
trust me, my best friend is a male and he don't want to bang me....ugh!
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the only way that is possible is if

hes gay
youre horribly grotesque
 
heatherrae said:
It takes two to tango. When they say "i trust you, I just don't trust him" it is like saying that you are too stupid or untrustworthy to turn down this other person's advances. It either means he doesn't trust you or thinks you are stupid, unassertive, or generally unable to say "no."

I hate it when men tell women this.

Women do the same bs, so I'm not picking on the men.
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Tab has said it to me TONS.

Maybe she's got a guilty conscience?
 
anthrax said:
Why do you need anybody to tell you who you can/should hang around with?
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I let him know to out of respect so incase one of this buddies see him with some dude. At least he knows that I was out with a guy so he won't look like a dumbass without knwoing..
 
calveless wonder said:
eh...it depends. it can be insecurity or it can be because he thinks you're naive.

fact is, some girls are very naive to guy's approaches...especailly if they're sly about it or try to go under the radar.
i used to see it with my ex all the time. She's super social with everybody, guy or girl, and because she's laughing and having a good time, guys act like it's a cue to fuck. She got better as time went on...i eventually learned to not intervene but i'd call out a situation before it happened, and low and behold...a person she was talking to would try to make an advance or touch her or something.

she wised up after that.

it all depends on the context...and if you've exhibited behavior that deems you naive or non trustworthy. if neither are the case, then it's probably insecurity
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Thanks!
You make a lot of sense (=
 
Hard-Bitten said:
I DON'T UNDERSTAND WHAT DOES THAT MEAN, ESPECIALLY WHEN A SIGNIFICANT OTHER SAY THIS. WHEN I HEAR THIS .. I FEEL LIKE IT'S A SLAP ON THE FACE IT SHOWS THAT HE DOESN'T TRUST MY JUDGEMENT ON THE PEOPLE I HANG AROUND WITH.

THIS SHOW ME THAT THIS PERSON IS MORE INSECURE ABOUT THEMSELVES. :worried:
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LOL It means that your significant other is an ass and you should drop them like a bad habit.
 
calveless wonder said:
eh...it depends. it can be insecurity or it can be because he thinks you're naive.

fact is, some girls are very naive to guy's approaches...especailly if they're sly about it or try to go under the radar.
i used to see it with my ex all the time. She's super social with everybody, guy or girl, and because she's laughing and having a good time, guys act like it's a cue to fuck. She got better as time went on...i eventually learned to not intervene but i'd call out a situation before it happened, and low and behold...a person she was talking to would try to make an advance or touch her or something.

she wised up after that.

it all depends on the context...and if you've exhibited behavior that deems you naive or non trustworthy. if neither are the case, then it's probably insecurity
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I beg to differ.

By your estimation then women should not make eye contact with men so as not "to make him think that she wants him"..... right? :rolleyes:

I should be able to laugh, smile, joke - whatever with WHOMEVER I want as there is NO WAY IN HELL that I will have sex or ANY sort of contact that could be construed as sexual (for those of you who accept Bill Clinton's definition of sex LOL) with that man unless he drugs me or beats me first which would mean that I was the victim of a violent crime and not just "some naive girl".

What difference does it make whether I trust other women or not if there is NO WAY that my husband will stick his tongue, dick, or any other appendage into or near any part of that woman's body? <---- think about that.
 
BIKINIMOM said:
I beg to differ.

By your estimation then women should not make eye contact with men so as not "to make him think that she wants him"..... right? :rolleyes:

I should be able to laugh, smile, joke - whatever with WHOMEVER I want as there is NO WAY IN HELL that I will have sex or ANY sort of contact that could be construed as sexual (for those of you who accept Bill Clinton's definition of sex LOL) with that man unless he drugs me or beats me first which would mean that I was the victim of a violent crime and not just "some naive girl".

What difference does it make whether I trust other women or not if there is NO WAY that my husband will stick his tongue, dick, or any other appendage into or near any part of that woman's body? <---- think about that.
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KUDOS!! (=

I learn that you can be bitter, sweet etc, whatever you can't control how the other person feel about you though you can always change your behaviour.
 
Hard-Bitten said:
I DON'T UNDERSTAND WHAT DOES THAT MEAN, ESPECIALLY WHEN A SIGNIFICANT OTHER SAY THIS. WHEN I HEAR THIS .. I FEEL LIKE IT'S A SLAP ON THE FACE IT SHOWS THAT HE DOESN'T TRUST MY JUDGEMENT ON THE PEOPLE I HANG AROUND WITH.

THIS SHOW ME THAT THIS PERSON IS MORE INSECURE ABOUT THEMSELVES. :worried:
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Let me break down for you since I recently said this myself. My friend had somebody from work come on her pretty hard for about a month. She made pretty clear she wasn't interested but he persisted. I don't believe she'd do anything in a right frame of mind. Recently she was out drinking with some girls and he showed up after she was pretty plastered. Her friends basically carried her back to their car where he took the opportunity to sneak a kiss. I trust her. I trust him about as far as I can throw him thru a plate glass window....which I fully intend to do someday.
 
Dial_tone said:
Let me break down for you since I recently said this myself. My friend had somebody from work come on her pretty hard for about a month. She made pretty clear she wasn't interested but he persisted. I don't believe she'd do anything in a right frame of mind. Recently she was out drinking with some girls and he showed up after she was pretty plastered. Her friends basically carried her back to their car where he took the opportunity to sneak a kiss. I trust her. I trust him about as far as I can throw him thru a plate glass window....which I fully intend to do someday.
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So, you're saying still nobody can be trusted?
 
Dial_tone said:
Let me break down for you since I recently said this myself. My friend had somebody from work come on her pretty hard for about a month. She made pretty clear she wasn't interested but he persisted. I don't believe she'd do anything in a right frame of mind. Recently she was out drinking with some girls and he showed up after she was pretty plastered. Her friends basically carried her back to their car where he took the opportunity to sneak a kiss. I trust her. I trust him about as far as I can throw him thru a plate glass window....which I fully intend to do someday.
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She was drunk silly. And "he snuck a kiss".... he didn't "sneak a fuck"... and even if he did. If she was so drunk she had to be carried, how is it her fault?

Come on...

No need to get physical with a guy who is THAT MUCH of a loser. Chances are you will end up getting sued or in jail from some low-life ASSHOLE that deserved the beatdown he got...
 
Hard-Bitten said:
So, you're saying still nobody can be trusted?
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When a girl is drunk and a guy that wants her (but othewise isn't a friend) isn't....no. The situation cannot be trusted. He cannot be trusted. She isn't in a position to do squat.
 
Dial_tone said:
When a girl is drunk and a guy that wants her (but othewise isn't a friend) isn't....no. The situation cannot be trusted. He cannot be trusted. She isn't in a position to do squat.
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And it would do a woman well to not drink to the point where she puts herself in harm's way by being in such a state when in the company of people that she can not trust to respect her <---- with this I do agree.

Perhaps if the lady in question engages in this sort of behavior often enough then one would question if that lady is better left alone? Meaning, if she doesn't value her own safety enough to NOT get that drunk with peeps that MIGHT harm her, then how can she possibly value YOU?
 
Dial_tone said:
When a girl is drunk and a guy that wants her (but othewise isn't a friend) isn't....no. The situation cannot be trusted. He cannot be trusted. She isn't in a position to do squat.
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Ohkay, I will not go drinking with that guy.
I don't drink, so to your story that's irelevant..
 
BIKINIMOM said:
And it would do a woman well to not drink to the point where she puts herself in harm's way by being in such a state when in the company of people that she can not trust to respect her <---- with this I do agree.

Perhaps if the lady in question engages in this sort of behavior often enough then one would question if that lady is better left alone? Meaning, if she doesn't value her own safety enough to NOT get that drunk with peeps that MIGHT harm her, then how can she possibly value YOU?
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1. it was a public bar, she can't stop him from showing up
2. she went with female friends and he was coworker, there was no reason for safety to be questioned.
3. he wasn't supposed to be there anyway.
 
honestly its soo fcking true. if you have a guy friend, he wants to fuck you. i have many girlfriends and i want to fuck ALL of them. even the fat ones cuz their personalities are so cool!!

besides why else would a guy have a friend thats a girl unless he wants to fuck them.

its not like you guys drink beer, fart, chase women, make fun of cripples, know the stats of every player in the NBA western conference, anyways!
 
GoldenDelicious said:
translation: "im insecure +/- dont trust you +/- threatened by this guy and im trying to control you via negative feelings ie guilt"

you should be thinking: "what a tosser why dont i live next door to golden"

thatll be 5 bucks
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:FRlol:
 
Yarg! said:
honestly its soo fcking true. if you have a guy friend, he wants to fuck you. i have many girlfriends and i want to fuck ALL of them. even the fat ones cuz their personalities are so cool!!

besides why else would a guy have a friend thats a girl unless he wants to fuck them.

its not like you guys drink beer, fart, chase women, make fun of cripples, know the stats of every player in the NBA western conference, anyways!
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I know the stats of 89percent of NHL players (=
andddddddd if a women who do love drink beer, fart, and chase women..(lol), make fun of the cripples knows sports.. you would still fuck her! because it makes her that more appealing.


.................so MEN THINK WITH THEIR DICKS.
 
Yarg! said:
honestly its soo fcking true. if you have a guy friend, he wants to fuck you. i have many girlfriends and i want to fuck ALL of them. even the fat ones cuz their personalities are so cool!!

besides why else would a guy have a friend thats a girl unless he wants to fuck them.

its not like you guys drink beer, fart, chase women, make fun of cripples, know the stats of every player in the NBA western conference, anyways!
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Exactly, why have a female friend when guys are way cooler. Why do you think women prefer to hang out with guys as opposed to women? Generally speaking, women are terrible friends which is why most girls have more "guy friends" than female friends.
 
calveless wonder said:
eh...it depends. it can be insecurity or it can be because he thinks you're naive.

fact is, some girls are very naive to guy's approaches...especailly if they're sly about it or try to go under the radar.
i used to see it with my ex all the time. She's super social with everybody, guy or girl, and because she's laughing and having a good time, guys act like it's a cue to fuck. She got better as time went on...i eventually learned to not intervene but i'd call out a situation before it happened, and low and behold...a person she was talking to would try to make an advance or touch her or something.

she wised up after that.

it all depends on the context...and if you've exhibited behavior that deems you naive or non trustworthy. if neither are the case, then it's probably insecurity
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I agree with this^^^. My wife used to be the same way. Nothing wrong with it, but to the wrong person, it could be misinterpreted. Then the guy will start with the "Hey, that girl wants me blah blah" crap, and all hell would break loose.



Here's a sample conversation...

The teo bump into each other by accident...

Chick: "Oh, I'm so sorry. Are you OK?"
Asshole guy: "Yes, wanna banged me?"
Chick: "Ummm, NO!" **runs away**


Asshole guy says "She wants me."




OK None of that made sense. Here's a true story. My wife had a stalker a few years ago. a real life wait by her work parking space in the morning, stalker. and He didn't even work there! I saw it coming because I knew she was "nice" to everybody. What was I going to tell her? "Don't be nice to people" lol I loved that about her, but I still knew it would be a problem somehow. Well, it was. Stalker. Sure the guy was an asshole, but if she wasn't "nice" to him, he probably wouldn't have done that.

Wait, am I digging myself into a bigger hole here? oh shit.

Can I delete this somehow? Mods!
 
gonelifting said:
I agree with this^^^. My wife used to be the same way. Nothing wrong with it, but to the wrong person, it could be misinterpreted. Then the guy will start with the "Hey, that girl wants me blah blah" crap, and all hell would break loose.



Here's a sample conversation...

The teo bump into each other by accident...

Chick: "Oh, I'm so sorry. Are you OK?"
Asshole guy: "Yes, wanna banged me?"
Chick: "Ummm, NO!" **runs away**


Asshole guy says "She wants me."




OK None of that made sense. Here's a true story. My wife had a stalker a few years ago. a real life wait by her work parking space in the morning, stalker. and He didn't even work there! I saw it coming because I knew she was "nice" to everybody. What was I going to tell her? "Don't be nice to people" lol I loved that about her, but I still knew it would be a problem somehow. Well, it was. Stalker. Sure the guy was an asshole, but if she wasn't "nice" to him, he probably wouldn't have done that.

Wait, am I digging myself into a bigger hole here? oh shit.

Can I delete this somehow? Mods!
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No, but come back online!
 
Hard-Bitten said:
No, but come back online!
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What?

So let me add to my post... What if I were to tell my wife "You know honey, that guy seems like bad news. I have a bad feeling about him. It's definately not you, it's him that worries me" Should she think I'm jealous or have low self esteem because I said that? Just like women know women, men know what other men think too. I don't see the problem if the situation calls for it.



Having said all that, I think every relationship is different. I'm sure you know your SO much more than we know him. i don't know how we can say "dump him" for just that comment. Do you not know if he is truly concerned for you or if this is just another comment of his 100 daily that he uses to ridicule or put you down? If he is a good guy in every other respect and wishes you wellness and safety and all that valentine's day crap, then why is this ONE comment which CAN be taken the right way, so offensive?

Maybe, just maybe he didn't use good judgement as well. We're not perfect in our quest to love our SO's. We are not damnit!
 
gonelifting said:
What?

So let me add to my post... What if I were to tell my wife "You know honey, that guy seems like bad news. I have a bad feeling about him. It's definately not you, it's him that worries me" Should she think I'm jealous or have low self esteem because I said that? Just like women know women, men know what other men think too. I don't see the problem if the situation calls for it.



Having said all that, I think every relationship is different. I'm sure you know your SO much more than we know him. i don't know how we can say "dump him" for just that comment. Do you not know if he is truly concerned for you or if this is just another comment of his 100 daily that he uses to ridicule or put you down? If he is a good guy in every other respect and wishes you wellness and safety and all that valentine's day crap, then why is this ONE comment which CAN be taken the right way, so offensive?

Maybe, just maybe he didn't use good judgement as well. We're not perfect in our quest to love our SO's. We are not damnit!
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Thank you (=
and about coming back online.. your status stated " offline" thats why I said come back online.. :/

I think he should of said that instead of what he said it made me feel that he didn't trusted me.
 
Hard-Bitten said:
Thank you (=
and about coming back online.. your status stated " offline" thats why I said come back online.. :/

I think he should of said that instead of what he said it made me feel that he didn't trusted me.
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OK Good luck with that. I think you two should sit down and explain to him exactly how you feel about it. Be as specific as you can. Men need that. Trust me.


Also, I close the page after every post. Yep, crazy and wild, I am.
 
gonelifting said:
OK Good luck with that. I think you two should sit down and explain to him exactly how you feel about it. Be as specific as you can. Men need that. Trust me.


Also, I close the page after every post. Yep, crazy and wild, I am.
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Yah, I guess we said that to me. I retort back saying " I was asking for you permission, I'm telling you." I guess I made seem that I was picking favourites?

Haha.. yes you're wild and all that too!
 
BIKINIMOM said:
I beg to differ.

By your estimation then women should not make eye contact with men so as not "to make him think that she wants him"..... right? :rolleyes:

I should be able to laugh, smile, joke - whatever with WHOMEVER I want as there is NO WAY IN HELL that I will have sex or ANY sort of contact that could be construed as sexual (for those of you who accept Bill Clinton's definition of sex LOL) with that man unless he drugs me or beats me first which would mean that I was the victim of a violent crime and not just "some naive girl".

What difference does it make whether I trust other women or not if there is NO WAY that my husband will stick his tongue, dick, or any other appendage into or near any part of that woman's body? <---- think about that.
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Way to make assumptions and completely twist what i said into your own distorted perceptions, as it seems is often teh case..
Jesus christ....everytime i read your posts about man hating or your constant chatter about your ex husband (you always find a way to slip it in), i become physically ill. And i don't even post here much anymore!

A woman shouldn't stop being herself..if she's social, she should understand the consequences AS A WOMAN, and usually as an attractive one(as in the case of my ex's who exhibited this behavior)..that go along with the behavior she exhibits. Most women are generally cold to someone if they perceive them as hitting on them.....so men misinterpret signals if someone's nice to them (especially drunk ones). They may even go to great extents to fly under the radar as a friend (which often can work...if it's done in a certain way)

And by the way, your comparison with men and women doesn't fly. If a man has female friends, he will almost always dictate the pace. A woman can show signs, but rarely will they ever do something that could be considered dangerous or sexually intrusive. It's usually up to the man whether to accept these signals or not. That's society, face the facts. The game of courtship is NOT equal...in 99% of the cases.
Men are very capable of overstepping their boundaries(and often do) and will do so because they are THE AGGRESSOR, most often...especially to a woman that can't detect signals. It's not everyone, but it's certain girls
 
calveless wonder said:
Way to make assumptions and completely twist what i said into your own distorted perceptions, as it seems is often teh case..
Jesus christ....everytime i read your posts about man hating or your constant chatter about your ex husband (you always find a way to slip it in), i become physically ill. And i don't even post here much anymore!
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haha just wait until you start having to see the vomit inducing posts her and her newly acquired sugar daddy make on here. They are equally as shitty as her exhusband posts were/are.
 
calveless wonder said:
Way to make assumptions and completely twist what i said into your own distorted perceptions, as it seems is often teh case..
Jesus christ....everytime i read your posts about man hating or your constant chatter about your ex husband (you always find a way to slip it in), i become physically ill. And i don't even post here much anymore!

A woman shouldn't stop being herself..if she's social, she should understand the consequences AS A WOMAN, and usually as an attractive one(as in the case of my ex's who exhibited this behavior)..that go along with the behavior she exhibits. Most women are generally cold to someone if they perceive them as hitting on them.....so men misinterpret signals if someone's nice to them (especially drunk ones). They may even go to great extents to fly under the radar as a friend (which often can work...if it's done in a certain way)

And by the way, your comparison with men and women doesn't fly. If a man has female friends, he will almost always dictate the pace. A woman can show signs, but rarely will they ever do something that could be considered dangerous or sexually intrusive. It's usually up to the man whether to accept these signals or not. That's society, face the facts. The game of courtship is NOT equal...in 99% of the cases.
Men are very capable of overstepping their boundaries(and often do) and will do so because they are THE AGGRESSOR, most often...especially to a woman that can't detect signals. It's not everyone, but it's certain girls
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LOL

Man-hating? I am happily married. Matter of fact, I sing my husband's praises both publicly and privately ad nauseum, but thanks for noticing. :qt:

I know that men are agressors. duh. So IF a man all but rapes me then how would my husband's trusting or not trusting any other man apply here?.... or even need to be stated by my s/o?
 
Dial_tone said:
1. it was a public bar, she can't stop him from showing up
2. she went with female friends and he was coworker, there was no reason for safety to be questioned.
3. he wasn't supposed to be there anyway.
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1. Any woman who drinks to THAT point of intoxication in a PUBLIC BAR cares very little for her own safety. period.

2. See number one

3. This one asshole who "stole" a kiss should be THE LEAST of who you should worry about the lady's presence. No one ever died or otherwise became psychologically damaged from a stolen kiss from an ass.
 
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