I think I've finally understood why I'm afraid to hit on women I dont know that well

[evansteve]

Since I'm a girl, I would like to give advice. There are some things I need to know first:

1) How old are you?

20, soon to be 21

2) What do you do for work?

I'm a student and work part time at the computer help desk at my college.

3) Are you the youngest child?

yes. I have an older brother.

Anyway, without those answers, I'll do the best I can...

You have to love yourself. You want someone who will love you, respect you and treat you the right way? Well, start taking care of yourself. Find something you love about yourself everyday. When you get up in the morning look in the mirror and point out something that makes you different from everybody else. I agree with everyone here who says you have a confidence problem. Girls want confident men. You don't have to be stuck up or arrogant, there is a a difference. Be happy. Smile. Do something you love everyday. Don't have anything? Find something. Make you the best You, You can be and the rest will follow. I promise you.

Oh and hygeine is soooooo important. Fresh breath and a clean body are one of the most important things in my book.

I hear about the confidence thing. I think I can be confident in myself over a lot of things, but seriously I dont think that girls will consider dating me until I am more goodlooking and more popular. Girls are screwed up like that, they require men to have more than just confidence.

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Forge:

As far as hygene goes, whats wrong with doing it for the women? I mean who does hygene only for their own benefit, wtf? If I were just doing it for me, I would be cleaning myself when I feel dirty, so maybe that would entail showering 3 times a week and brushing my teeth a couple times a week.

But I'm not doing it just for me, I'm doing it for others and the people around me. I dont want anyone to think I'm smelly regardless of whether they are male or female. And I dont want to have bad breath either.

What is wrong if

 

[jd_uk]

How much longer are you going to keep making excuses for?

How about you f*ck off til you grow some balls and not care what the girls think, what the consequences might be ....or anything else for that matter.

Oh wait, you've already tried that and it didn't work....then you're gonna be a little bitch all your life.

 

[Razorguns]

The internet was developed for guys like you without game.

just remember -- every girl you hit on, on the internet, is also being hit on by 200 other guys. Your odds don't improve much.

-= nav =-

 

[evansteve]

The internet was developed for guys like you without game.

just remember -- every girl you hit on, on the internet, is also being hit on by 200 other guys. Your odds don't improve much.

-= nav =-

Is it really that bad on the internet? I thought there were a lot of women out there who use the internet too. Do they just not sign up on those websites?

 

[Austin316]

meh its called confidence, don't expect too much from anything just think on the moment, and DO NOT put anyone on a higher pedestal then yourself.....someone wants to talk to you and what not cool, if not who cares. No one is created better then another, get rid of pedestals and be confident in yourself and its all gravy

 

[Razorguns]

Is it really that bad on the internet? I thought there were a lot of women out there who use the internet too. Do they just not sign up on those websites?

they do. but hot chicks -- just like everywhere else in life -- get leghumped by tons of horny guys. the internet doesn't change the formula.

In fact it makes it worse -- cuz the guys that she wouldn't normally be attracted to in real life, who at least would leave them alone out of intimidation in clubs -- now are chasing them unhooked on the net.

Ask any hot chick how many dorky, ugly, fat, old, etc. guys email them all day.

You do have a better chance of meeting chicks in far away places. Many women have a romantic notion of some great guy in some far away city. Very few chicks i know have an online romance with a guy who lives 5 streets down.

 

[hanselthecaretaker]

Re: I think I've finally understood why I'm afraid to hit on women I dont know that w

What I'm saying is that maybe flirting isnt the way to get off to a good start.
Or at least not until you know the person really well.

Do whatever you want. Well, since you don't want to have sex it seems, you're probably on the right track here, since girls who you want to treat as a friend will treat you that way in return, and most of them will look for sex elsewhere, and get it.

Good luck finding a girl who will wait for you.

 

[Gambino]

Re: I think I've finally understood why I'm afraid to hit on women I dont know that w

The internet was developed for guys like you without game.

just remember -- every girl you hit on, on the internet, is also being hit on by 200 other guys. Your odds don't improve much.

-= nav =-

wtf up with the "nav". seems alterish

 

[sigweed]

if u dont flirt with the hottie u like, youll forever be in the dreaded "friend zone". and shes not gonna fall head over heels right away, dont be so pretentious casanova.

exactly

 

[evansteve]

Dangit, its hard to have a social life on a Friday night when you didnt bother to make plans beforehand. Even trickier now that I'm living off campus,

Guess I'll have to wait until Monday before trying again.