I need the EF ladies responses please?

[Arabian]

Why can I not find a great lady to marrry>? I am sick of dating> what am I doing wrong> I dont go to bars.. I meet plenty of women however they are afer one thing money and Im tired of that.. Where can I meet a woman that wants everthing imaginable however does not expect it.. thanks for your responses. it means alot... thanks

 

[Arabian]

Hell maybe Im fucking ugly

 

[Smurfy]

i doubt you're ugly but i'll admit I have no idea what you look like.
also, perhaps you're looking either too hard or in the wrong places?

 

[puddlemonkey]

I meet plenty of women however they are afer one thing money and Im tired of that..

Welcome to the wonderful world of dating americanized women!

 

[puddlemonkey]

Just do what I do and use them before they get a chance to use you.

 

[DBBT]

post a face shot

 

[habitualhealth]

Hell maybe Im fucking ugly

pics for consideration plz

 

[chris302001]

Maybe you should go mo....just sayin...

 

[habitualhealth]

i doubt you're ugly but i'll admit I have no idea what you look like.
also, perhaps you're looking either too hard or in the wrong places?

thanks for the recap, dork.


how about answering his question now.





ps-i get all excited and overwhelmed with anxiety when i click on your "request to approve comments" on myspace. they are the bestest. i like that you were recently stalking me too.

 

[calveless wonder]

pretend like you don't have money

not saying to look poor, but maybe you're flashy about it and it attracts the wrong wimminz

 

[calveless wonder]

or find an independent chick....

professional woman that makes her own loot.

 

[Cardinal Slin]

Things always come when there is a lack of want or need - just be patient and it will come

 

[ortiz34]

Things always come when there is a lack of want or need - just be patient and it will come

+10000
just by reading your posts I can honestly say you have to be one of the nicest guys around
Obviously these girls you are seeing aren't use to nice, they're use to getting men beer, picking up shoes and cooking and getting their self esteem shattered to the size of razorguns penis.

Act aloof when it comes to these broads
you'll shag em everytime (who gives a fvck if your buying them dinner).

Be patient bro
they smell the desperation you just posted
also don't rush
you'd be better off not married and a little upset, than married to some whack job that eventually takes ur shiat

I think you have been through the divorce ringer b4? right?
Had issues with child visitations? As I recall?

I've been and am in the same boat as you bro
Just relax, you'll be a catch for some great girl
it's just not time right now
any 4th BBQ's?
I met my wife at a cookout, a couple years after my divorce

 

[stilleto]

honestly, it doesn't really matter what you look like. Ugly guys get good women. maybe even more often than good looking/superficial ones do.

maybe take a look at your standards, and where you're looking. or what you're looking at.
do you go after the high maintenance looking women for example?

 

[silverstar1025]

Sadly a lot of women do not appreciate a good man these days. I know you seem like a great guy! I have friends that are real good people, but have boyfriends that are psycho and treat them like shit. They are in love with them because they have great chemistry. They stay with them even though they are treated like shit sometimes too. They ask me for advice all the time because they see my marriage and wonder how I am still going strong. I give them advice, but they never take it. I seriously think they just love the drama. It drives me crazy.

 

[Smurfy]

thanks for the recap, dork.


how about answering his question now.





ps-i get all excited and overwhelmed with anxiety when i click on your "request to approve comments" on myspace. they are the bestest. i like that you were recently stalking me too.

I dont know what you're talking about/

 

[bw1]

Hell maybe Im fucking ugly

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[GoldenDelicious]

it sounds like you have your professional life sorted but are fucking useless socially. (no offense)

cutting a long story short, im up to my ass in how to pick up women - i lecture groups of guys on how to do it, what women want, and when, and why, and how, and how the whole deal flips under certain circumstances.

if i were you, i would focus less on meeting women, and more on understanding how it all works. go to fastseduction.com and read for a while. then listen to a bunch of stuff by david deangelo (i like his advanced series myself) and then start digging into sexual/evolutionary psychology and after a few months of getting your head around it, youll have more women than you know what to do with.

from what i can see of your posts so far, you seem to fit firmly into the category of classic protector/nurterer with high status. thats great, but the problem is that a lot of women in the world are out to snag a man like that as a solution to their problems (social, economic, and personal) and so youre going to be flooded with women who want you for the wrong reasons. women are prone to see you as a solution to their problems, rather than someone with whom to build a meaningful relationship.

so either learn what the hell is going on around you so as to be able to identify and/or filter those people, OR move to a country where it is socially acceptable for beautiful awesome women completely supplicate to a dominant high value nurturer/protector - like south america, or most parts of europe.

in greece for example, if youre a high caliber man, beautiful women will happily marry you because of your means, make their nest with you, be really happy, and accept you shagging a few young hotties here and there so long as you respect their social reputation and keep the fmily together in a really good way. try that shit in america and your girl will freak out and take half

cheerios

 

[velvett]

it sounds like you have your professional life sorted but are fucking useless socially. (no offense)

cutting a long story short, im up to my ass in how to pick up women - i lecture groups of guys on how to do it, what women want, and when, and why, and how, and how the whole deal flips under certain circumstances.

if i were you, i would focus less on meeting women, and more on understanding how it all works. go to fastseduction.com and read for a while. then listen to a bunch of stuff by david deangelo (i like his advanced series myself) and then start digging into sexual/evolutionary psychology and after a few months of getting your head around it, youll have more women than you know what to do with.

from what i can see of your posts so far, you seem to fit firmly into the category of classic protector/nurterer with high status. thats great, but the problem is that a lot of women in the world are out to snag a man like that as a solution to their problems (social, economic, and personal) and so youre going to be flooded with women who want you for the wrong reasons. women are prone to see you as a solution to their problems, rather than someone with whom to build a meaningful relationship.

so either learn what the hell is going on around you so as to be able to identify and/or filter those people, OR move to a country where it is socially acceptable for beautiful awesome women completely supplicate to a dominant high value nurturer/protector - like south america, or most parts of europe.

in greece for example, if youre a high caliber man, beautiful women will happily marry you because of your means, make their nest with you, be really happy, and accept you shagging a few young hotties here and there so long as you respect their social reputation and keep the fmily together in a really good way. try that shit in america and your girl will freak out and take half

cheerios

wait.
are you the guy out there to fuck as many little girls as possible
LOL

 

[the_alcatraz]

Why can I not find a great lady to marrry>? I am sick of dating> what am I doing wrong> I dont go to bars.. I meet plenty of women however they are afer one thing money and Im tired of that.. Where can I meet a woman that wants everthing imaginable however does not expect it.. thanks for your responses. it means alot... thanks

A buddy of mine once told me: look not for love....love will find you

I didn't know what he meant until I met my wife....

When you stop looking, the perfect woman might just drop by....everything happens for a reason and don't hate anything that happens in your life, always be thankful as what may seem to be a curse may turn to be a blessing in disguise

 

[Smurfy]

A buddy of mine once told me: look not for love....love will find you

I didn't know what he meant until I met my wife....

When you stop looking, the perfect woman might just drop by....everything happens for a reason and don't hate anything that happens in your life, always be thankful as what may seem to be a curse may turn to be a blessing in disguise

Where did you meet your wife?

 

[the_alcatraz]

Where did you meet your wife?

It was an accident. Obviously, I believe everything happens for a reason and nothing is an accident, so I worked really hard to make it happen.

I was trying to get in touch with a teacher of mine, who's last name happens to be the same last name as my wife's. When he replied to my email, my wife's email addy was on there, by accident.

I emailed her as a joke and we started talking. We met. We dated for a while. Fell in love. We got engaged. We got married. Life's good

 

[velvett]

It was an accident. Obviously, I believe everything happens for a reason and nothing is an accident, so I worked really hard to make it happen.

I was trying to get in touch with a teacher of mine, who's last name happens to be the same last name as my wife's. When he replied to my email, my wife's email addy was on there, by accident.

I emailed her as a joke and we started talking. We met. We dated for a while. Fell in love. We got engaged. We got married. Life's good

That's a nice story.

 

[Grumpy Old Man]

Hey buddy!

We already had a discussion about women. I think we need to talk again. There are so many women out there that would love to have a man like you. I think you are just looking too hard in the wrong places.

Call me we can fine tune your approach. Or at least get one that doesn't leave you without....

 

[blueta2]

I've seen you and you're a great looking dude, so it's not the looks.
You have to not tell women you have money. Most women are looking for a free ride. Like CW, you need to find an independent woman or someone who cares less about money.
Also, it may not be all about the women and about you as well.
What do you think your faults are?

 

[mrplunkey]

I'm not a big fan of the "let love find you" approach.

I think the key is the throw a big net. Befriend a lot of different groups of girls -- it won't be one of those girls you end-up with, it will be one of their friends. Girls trade guy friends around like bubble gum cards. If you're wired-into three different groups of "just friends" girls, they'll probably know 5-8 girls each you should meet. Shoot for meeting 2-3 of their friends/week (go through them slowly...).

 

[Bikini Mod]

It isn't all THAT complicated.

Ortiz's advice was very good... Desperation is bad. And I know that you don't put yourself out there as some whack job, but rather as a really NICE MAN that would LOVE to meet and love a REALLY NICE WOMAN.

Decide for yourself what it is that you REALLY NEED from a woman in order for you to be happy with her. Prioritize these needs and don't stray. Then you have to decide what it is that you are willing to provide to make your woman happy. If you come across a woman that has unrealistic or simply expectations that you personally dont WANT to meet then you eliminate them and move on to the next - it is THAT simple.

Know yourself. <--- THAT IS KEY.

As far as *dressing down your wealth or social status*... that is ridiculous and won't get you any closer to meeting a woman who will cherish YOU for YOU. Look at me and the Old Grump... What you need to do is find the way to ask the questions from a perspective mate that will help you to identify very quickly what type of person she is so you won't waste your time with the *physical attraction* aspect.

 

[ortiz34]

Ortiz's advice was very good...

spank me
I'm so good

 

[calveless wonder]

i'm gonna leave part of BM's post alone

don't feel like arguing in circles today

 

[Bikini Mod]

i'm gonna leave part of BM's post alone

don't feel like arguing in circles today

No need to argue... different strokes for different folks.

There is no ONE right way to go about finding a suitable partner. But there are definitely WRONG ways to go about it. The key to find what works for YOU.

 

[calveless wonder]

I've seen you and you're a great looking dude, so it's not the looks.
You have to not tell women you have money. Most women are looking for a free ride. Like CW, you need to find an independent woman or someone who cares less about money.
Also, it may not be all about the women and about you as well.
What do you think your faults are?

like me? or like what i said?

 

[Bikini Mod]

You know it IS possible to find a woman whose ONLY priority is NOT money without having to conceal the fact that you are successfull. This works for BOTH genders, BTW.

 

[blueta2]

like me? or like what i said?

like what you said

 

[heatherrae]

move to ky. i would date you.

 

[Bikini Mod]

I've seen pics of Arabian and both the Old Grump and I have spoken to him about all sorts of things. He is an attractive man with a lot to offer the right lady. He just needs to find the right lady FOR HIM.

 

[Captain FT]

When I found my wife I wasn't even looking.

Back when I was dating around I would go to bars and clubs but just to have fun, trying to find a girlfriend was the last thing on my mind.

After 9/11 I organized a charitable event at the bar I worked at where the Baltimore Ravens came and "guest bar tended" All the tips they made we donated to the Red Cross. Anyway one of the Ravens cheerleaders that I was friends with brought her friend to the event and we hit it off. Five years later we got married.

We made almost $10,000 in tips that night and some of the guys made matching donations, it was a great event too.

Anyway, my point is, don't look, just go out with friends and have fun, it will find you. You will know when its right, it just feels different than when you have been with anyone else in the past

 

[heatherrae]

Don't do it Arabian. It's a trick.

trix are for kids

 

[velvett]

Do you have any friends that could hook you up on a date?
Sometimes friends can pick better than we can for ourselves.

 

[Scotsman]

Or why not just stay single? It's not like some horrid plague that has to be avoided at all costs.

Cheers,
Scotsman

 

[Bikini Mod]

Do you have any friends that could hook you up on a date?
Sometimes friends can pick better than we can for ourselves.

That is because our friends aren't usually *just* trying to get us laid if they bother going to the trouble of setting us up.

When looking for a perspective mate we should first look with our mind's eye (to surmise intelligence and compatibility), then with our heart's eye (to determine strength of character, kindness and integrity) and LASTLY with our physical eye for if the first two eyes are full then how could we possibly *see* another?

Although men are very visual creatures and need to feel a strong physical attraction to a woman in order to want a committed relationship this is NOT something that women should take offense to. HOWEVER, when a man is looking for a life partner then he needs to put that physical third eye waaaaay on the back burner. Initially, he needs to find her to be attractive but he should also be able to eliminate very quickly all those women who do NOT MEET the specifications of the first two eyes.

It really isn't all that complicated.

 

[Bikini Mod]

Or why not just stay single? It's not like some horrid plague that has to be avoided at all costs.

Cheers,
Scotsman

Agreed... it is far better to stay single than to settle for someone that is less than a spectacular mate for YOU.

 

[drsketch]

Why can I not find a great lady to marrry>?

Because women dont like lames.. haha j/k

 

[Captain FT]

That is because our friends aren't usually *just* trying to get us laid if they bother going to the trouble of setting us up.

When looking for a perspective mate we should first look with our mind's eye (to surmise intelligence and compatibility), then with our heart's eye (to determine strength of character, kindness and integrity) and LASTLY with our physical eye for if the first two eyes are full then how could we possibly *see* another?

Although men are very visual creatures and need to feel a strong physical attraction to a woman in order to want a committed relationship this is NOT something that women should take offense to. HOWEVER, when a man is looking for a life partner then he needs to put that physical third eye waaaaay on the back burner. Initially, he needs to find her to be attractive but he should also be able to eliminate very quickly all those women who do NOT MEET the specifications of the first two eyes.

It really isn't all that complicated.

True, when looking for a perspective mate, men are usually looking with
Ol' One Eye

 

[mrplunkey]

Do you have any friends that could hook you up on a date?
Sometimes friends can pick better than we can for ourselves.

+1

Befriend a few girls and let them be your introduction service. Works like a charm.

 

[velvett]

That is because our friends aren't usually *just* trying to get us laid if they bother going to the trouble of setting us up.

When looking for a perspective mate we should first look with our mind's eye (to surmise intelligence and compatibility), then with our heart's eye (to determine strength of character, kindness and integrity) and LASTLY with our physical eye for if the first two eyes are full then how could we possibly *see* another?

Although men are very visual creatures and need to feel a strong physical attraction to a woman in order to want a committed relationship this is NOT something that women should take offense to. HOWEVER, when a man is looking for a life partner then he needs to put that physical third eye waaaaay on the back burner. Initially, he needs to find her to be attractive but he should also be able to eliminate very quickly all those women who do NOT MEET the specifications of the first two eyes.

It really isn't all that complicated.

I like when gys complain that the girl they are involved with makes them pay for everything, takes three hours to prim their hair, make up and decide what to wear, can't cook, can't clean, can't iron and spends their entire paycheck on a pair of shoes and yet can't figure out why they can't find the a woman worthy of marriage.

 

[Arabian]

i doubt you're ugly but i'll admit I have no idea what you look like.
also, perhaps you're looking either too hard or in the wrong places?

My picture is in my profile Smurf

 

[Bikini Mod]

True, when looking for a perspective mate, men are usually looking with
Ol' One Eye

Any man who does this gets exactly what he deserves just as any woman who is merely sizing up a man's portfolio deserves to be treated like the drain that she is.

Men value beauty and women value security, all else stems from this. <--- this does NOT MEAN that this is ALL there is, people.

If a woman is totally independent then why on earth would she NEED or WANT a man? That does not mean that she CANT or WONT take care of herself. It only means that yes, she can but she will trust a man enough to allow him to take care of her/mentor her/improve her life in any way he can and vice versa, if a man won't allow himself to ever be vulnerable and trust that *this woman* isn't there *just to bleed him dry* then what is the point of "seeking a mate"?

Lotta people are emotionally unavailable and just fail to be honest with themselves about this. When the seeker is emotionally unavailable, so shall those be that they attract to themselves.

Ahhhhhh the irony of it all.

 

[Bikini Mod]

+1

Befriend a few girls and let them be your introduction service. Works like a charm.

This is actually good advice but it only guarantees the number of introductions (as in internet dating) however, this won't mean necessarily that one will find that person that they are seeking.

People should first understand that part of the *problem* with looking for love is the fact that they are looking for love in the first place. Love is NOT a criteria when looking for a compatible life mate but only what happens along the way when two people have found one another based on criteria OTHER than love.

LIKE, RESPECT and COMMON LIFE GOALS

It really isn't that hard. And once this *clicks* in a party's head then the search for a suitable mate becomes much less frustrating.

 

[GoldenDelicious]

wait.
are you the guy out there to fuck as many little girls as possible
LOL

if you must know, the reason that im shagging ltos and lots of girls instead of finding one is because as i shag more and more girls, the quality of the girl seems to be going up, and so im going to keep going until i hit the top

when i either get there or get bored, ill stop

anyway, the horse has been led to water. he can drink or sing kumbaya, i dont care