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I just fell down and busted my ass. Think I hurt my foot.
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I just got off the phone with her. Call me weak if you want, but my voice was cracking and I was having a hard time holding back the tears. She says that I make her feel worthless and that I make her want to slit her wrists because all I do is yell at her. This is so not fair. I told her how much I loved her and that I couldn't imagine life without her, that I just wanted her to be responsible. I hope to God she is not just being manipulative. That would be awful, because I feel like shit right now.
I dont know your daughter, but from what you have said here, it certainly sounds like she is being extremely manipulative. She knows how to press your buttons. She is clearly known for manipulating you in situations like this. She continues to do it over and over and in the meantime, you are left with zero control over your teenager (whom you obviously love dearly).
If she is making threats to "slit her wrists" then tell her that, because you love her and want her to be happy and healthy, it is time to seek some help for her obvious emotional problems. I would take her to see a therapist.
If she is making threats to "slit her wrists" then tell her that, because you love her and want her to be happy and healthy, it is time to seek some help for her obvious emotional problems. I would take her to see a therapist.
I would recommend possibly having her talk to a therapist first (you could see a psychologist who treats adolescents, or a masters level therapist) as a psychiatrist does minimal therapy by trade.
She may benefit from just some therapy and maybe you could avoid her having to be on meds from the get go. In this case, I would try meds as a last resort, personally. Remember, she IS a teenager. All teenagers are fucked up (even the good ones). Some just more than others.
She may benefit from just some therapy and maybe you could avoid her having to be on meds from the get go. In this case, I would try meds as a last resort, personally. Remember, she IS a teenager. All teenagers are fucked up (even the good ones). Some just more than others.
Smurfy said:
THe thing that I don't understand is that she does a convincing job of telling me that I make her feel worthless and that she goes to her room and cries when I yell at her and that she wants to slit her wrists. Yet, she tells the owner of the skaing rink that my dad will never stick with his guns on grounding me because he loves me too much.
Exactly.biteme said:
There is some underlying issues she is dealing with. Her acting out and manipulative behaviors are a manifestation of that.
parenting is so damn hard as it is, when there are two parents in the same home working at it. but throw in being a single parent and BAM! it's like a million times harder to parent and discipline. kids learn what they can get away with at an early age. especially kids whose parents are split up. in those cases, the parents tend to let the kids get away with more, simply because we kind of feel bad for our kids and the situation we have put them in.
I hope you get things worked out with your daughter. Teenage years really suck for parents and for kids. Good thing she will eventually grow up to be a loving adult. The two of you may not get along until she';s like 24 LOL
Like my dad said:
"If, at some point in their lives, your kids don't hate you, then you've done something wrong."
Biteme, it's our job as parents to be the "bad guy".
