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gorillahung

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It just hit me that my father turned 70 last month. The average life expectancy for a man is about 76. It made me realize that my parents are not going to be here forever. I don't know what I will do when one of them goes. I don't think I will handle it well at all. I've battled depression all of my life and losing a parent will probably kick me back into hard core depression. My dad and I are tight. We're like best friends. :(

I feel bad for anyone who has lost a parent.
 
I am super close to my parents, and I fear that...how will I deal with it. At least you value your time with them like I do, and I never leave w/out saying I love you. I still have all of my grandparents so thats comforting. Try not to think about it :hug:
 
you man up and deal with it. death is a part of life. no one wants their parents to die, but when it happens you can either move forward or dwell on it and let it consume your life. i'm sure if you ask him, your dad will tell you to move on.
 
losing a parent unexpectedly is the worst I assume. If they go later and cant live a good quality of life, it may be easier to deal knowing they are not suffering anymore with old and broken bodies. You have time to prepare. Dont worry, the most important thing to do is to feel the pain and not try and shove it aside. Its just like physical pain, you have to feel it, focus on it and work with it. :hug:
 
I've lost 3 grandparents in the last 5 years. I sort of wasn't even thinking of my parents dying when I still had living grandparents. Then my last grandparent died last month. At least I make an effort to spend time with both my parents. I have dinner with them every Sunday and sometimes I visit them twice a week. My father and I have a tradition of traveling to a Cincinnatti Reds game once a year (that's the closest major league team and its about 200 miles away). I know some people have bad relationships with their parents and that is very sad.
 
yea i've thought about this too...pops is 66, his dad died at 73, figure my dad lives 7 yrs longer
that's not a lot of yrs left
:(
 
just value the time you may have left, go out with him, make memories... losing a parent is hard, I lost my dad 5 years ago, still sucks... but as I say most of the time.... you pick yourself up, dust yourself off and you keep walking....
 
I just tell myself lies by telling myself that they're preparing my place in the next life.
 
My mom died at 70, my dad died at 84. That was in 1994 and 2007, respectively. It blew then, and still blows now.
 
My dad died in May of 2009. He was 91. The last couple years were pretty rough on him. He had CHF, and was in and out of the hospital a few times with different complications. We were there to see him with my son who was not quite yet 1 yr. old just 3 days before he was admitted to the hospital from a fall (broken hip). He died a week later. I wish he was still around. I wish I would have spent more time with him (and I spent quite a bit of time with him). I wish he could have been around to see my son grow up and that my son would know him. Writing this makes me miss him even more and makes me feel quite sad now.

Mom will be 80 soon. She's alive and well. She is coming for a visit for 3 weeks the beginning of October. I hope she stays around long enough for my son to get to know her and she can see him grow and be a part of his life.

I was 36 when dad died. My oldest brother was 55. Dad was 54 when I was born, mom was 42. My parents were always the same age as my friends' grandparents, while I never met my grandparents. There were times when I was quite young that I felt embarassed that my parents were so much older. But I am thankful for it in so many ways now (and have been for many years). I still miss him dearly though.

Take advantage of every moment.
 
Here's another way to look at it. You say you recently lost 3 of your grandparents, I'm assuming they were in their 80's and 90's. so longer life genes probably run in your family. Your dad could have another 15-20 years +.:) My paternal grandad was a drunken lech who lived to 91...lots to be said for genes superseding some of the effects of lifestyle choices.
 
My dad is 68. He's already outlived his parents. Sometimes I think about how much time he might have left, but I try not to think about it.
 
Rachel...lol said:
did you dream about some unicorns or somethin too last night bor?
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unicorns and double rainbows, yes. OMEGA was there too, of course. We were admiring the forms of several wimminz...non-seckshually obviously.
 
i fuckin love my dad. hes prob the best person i know in the world. and not that typical "oh my dads better than your dad i suck his dick" nonsense. like my dad is actually better than all your dads
 
I can tell you why you have depression issues - you worry about things you can do absolutely nothing about.

Chill out. Ever try Gin and Tonic?
 
billfred said:
I can tell you why you have depression issues - you worry about things you can do absolutely nothing about.

Chill out. Ever try Gin and Tonic?
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It's weird because you are correct in a way. However for some reason there is something in my mind that makes me think that I somehow CAN do something about it. I'm not talking about Jesus performing miracles, I'm thinking along the lines of practical stuff like giving him bottles of vitamins that are supposed to shrink the ole prostate gland and telling him of medicines to ask his doctor about. He did have high cholesterol and so did I. The medicine his doctor prescribed was not helping. I told my dad the results I got from Crestor and now his doctor prescribes that for him. BTW, in 3 months of taking crestor every other day, my total cholesterol dropped from over 250 down to 100 and my triglycerides went from 325 down to the 120's. At least the old man quit smoking about 21 years ago and he started working out at the same time too. He's 5'9" and only weighs about 155 so obesity is not a problem. He still goes to the gym in the morning 6 times per week. He really doesn't look 70. He could tell people that he's 55 and I don't think anyone would question him.

Thanks for the responses. I realize it's something that I will probably have to face unless I should go first. The game plan for me is to just spend enough time with both my parents and enjoy them while they are here.
 
gorillahung said:
It's weird because you are correct in a way. However for some reason there is something in my mind that makes me think that I somehow CAN do something about it. I'm not talking about Jesus performing miracles, I'm thinking along the lines of practical stuff like giving him bottles of vitamins that are supposed to shrink the ole prostate gland and telling him of medicines to ask his doctor about. He did have high cholesterol and so did I. The medicine his doctor prescribed was not helping. I told my dad the results I got from Crestor and now his doctor prescribes that for him. BTW, in 3 months of taking crestor every other day, my total cholesterol dropped from over 250 down to 100 and my triglycerides went from 325 down to the 120's. At least the old man quit smoking about 21 years ago and he started working out at the same time too. He's 5'9" and only weighs about 155 so obesity is not a problem. He still goes to the gym in the morning 6 times per week. He really doesn't look 70. He could tell people that he's 55 and I don't think anyone would question him.

Thanks for the responses. I realize it's something that I will probably have to face unless I should go first. The game plan for me is to just spend enough time with both my parents and enjoy them while they are here.
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My father is 81 and mother is 82. I don't ever worry about their mortality. Just happy for the time I have had with them and hope when they go, it is quickly not some drawn out cancer fight or Alzheimers.
 
billfred said:
My father is 81 and mother is 82. I don't ever worry about their mortality. Just happy for the time I have had with them and hope when they go, it is quickly not some drawn out cancer fight or Alzheimers.
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My dad has said he'd rather have a quick heart attack with no warning than go through a long illness. The only benefit to a terminal illness is that you get to say goodbye to your loved ones before going. It also gives loved ones some time to prepare for it mentally.

Off topic but could you imagine having a death sentence? That would have to be the worst way to die. You could be young and healthy and still going to die. Imagine the anxiety leading up to the time you are executed.
 
gorillahung said:
My dad has said he'd rather have a quick heart attack with no warning than go through a long illness. The only benefit to a terminal illness is that you get to say goodbye to your loved ones before going. It also gives loved ones some time to prepare for it mentally.

Off topic but could you imagine having a death sentence? That would have to be the worst way to die. You could be young and healthy and still going to die. Imagine the anxiety leading up to the time you are executed.
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Terminal illness doesnt really prepare you, it's actually worse because they are in the hospital and miserable, sick, sometimes in pain, scared and you cant do shit to comfort them... and hurts just as bad when they die....
 
nangiggles said:
Terminal illness doesnt really prepare you, it's actually worse because they are in the hospital and miserable, sick, sometimes in pain, scared and you cant do shit to comfort them... and hurts just as bad when they die....
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I think sudden unexpected death is easier to take. With a long illness, you may find yourself actually wishing for their death to come so that it'll just be over. Then feel guilty when they die.
 
billfred said:
I can tell you why you have depression issues - you worry about things you can do absolutely nothing about.
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Seriously. The sooner people in general grasp this the better for them. I only get "worked up" about issues that I have some bearing on.

Mr. dB said:
I think sudden unexpected death is easier to take. With a long illness, you may find yourself actually wishing for their death to come so that it'll just be over. Then feel guilty when they die.
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Agreed. Took my gran 2-3 years to die from senile dementia & a few other things. Was horrible to see the toll it took on my mum who visited her twice daily for virtually those years. I didn't feel guilty when she died though, she had zero quality of life (heck she didn't even know who she was anymore or any of her kids & gran kids. Pity euthanasia is illegal here, I wouldn't let my own folks suffer like that).
 
redshirt27se said:
you man up and deal with it. death is a part of life. no one wants their parents to die, but when it happens you can either move forward or dwell on it and let it consume your life. i'm sure if you ask him, your dad will tell you to move on.
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this.
jeez rob, you're like 35 or something. everybody dies. who cares? what is life anyway? what's our purpose of being here? we don't know...... but life is what you make it. so don't make your life worrying about stupid shit you'll never be able to figure out or bad shit you'll dwell upon.
I can think of 10,000 better things you could think about.

maybe take up some yoga?
 
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