How the fuck are you supposed to balance bodybuilding and a social life?

[Bigsatan13]

I had a fitness chick, but I havent heard from her since she saw me walking around with a hard on for no apparant reason.

Then she wasn't a true fitness chick!

 

[MrMuscle]

isn't this question a mood point in your case?

I dunno, it might. Or its just how my personality is. After 2 workouts and 8 meals i really dont feel like sosializing at all.

 

[vinylgroover]

I guess 'serious' is all relative. I see myself as serious, but i also think balance is important in life and have never put bodybuilding above having a full life. A 'full life' for me is going out on the weekend, having a drink, going to clubs, hanging with friends, socialising, playing other sports socially etc.

I'm 29 and have been bodybuilding for a number of years on and off, but i wouldn't trade an extra inch of muscle for any of the great times i've had in the past. As i've gotten older, i find myself cherishing those great times i had when i was younger more and more.

I have never wanted to compete or make a living out of bodybuilding. I take the attitude that if i am in a position to compete, whether it is now or in five years i'll take it, but i won't put the rest of my life on hold for it. If you're not looking to make a living or compete in bodybuilding, then having more balance in your life is important. You already indicate in your thread that you're not happy about being lonely. That suggests you don't have the balance in your life outside of bodybuilding that is making you happy.

 

[paradox]

Re: Re: Re: How the fuck are you supposed to balance bodybuilding and a social life?

Aaaaah, gotta love those whole-post quotes. Sir, your post was 2nd on this thread and first reply to Frackal's post. No need to quote, then - at least not the WHOLE post. I'm not trying to be an asshole here, by the way.

Feel better?

 

[Taps]

Vinylgroover makes an excellent point. Life is all about ballance. It's great to be dedicated to your sport, but unless it's something you're planning to do professionally, it's not worth trading all your time for.

Frack, if you're on a cycle I'd suggest remaining 100% focused on gaining muscle. No sense in spending $$ and time if you're not really dedicated. After your cycle, chill out a bit. Don't be so focused on BBing....relax, go out, party it up...meet and fuck as many girls as you can.

What I do is focus on lifting and eating right as much as I can without it interfearing in my life. Dieting is really hard for me, so I basically become a hermit for about 8 weeks....but I won't take it past that point.

 

[jennifer BFL chick]

You simply need to make it happen......

so you train 1-2 hours a day on average right? How does that take away from a social life? I know it can be a challenge to make sure you get enough sleep and eat enough if your hanging out with friends, but it can be done. And if you can't find a way to do both right now, don't stress about it.......

 

[Pamela]

You have to find someone who is interested in what you are
interested in.. BB, etc.

That will be the only way, I have found.

I taught Aerobics at a gym I and saw this good looking guy
across the room, and he had the most outstanding built I've
ever seen.

I told my friend at the time " I would love to have that!!!"

And needless to say I got it..

At the time I was with someone who wasn't into working out,
and we were not getting along very well.

So with my experience you have to have someone who likes
the same things..

 

[Japanese machine]

i hear ya bro. if im correct you are still very young right? that means you have plenty of time to juice and acheive your goals after school is over and your working a desk job er something. my point is being the age that you are, still young, you are missing out on the funnest time of your life, you should be out partying sometimes and letting loose. trust me i know what your going through, i have kept a strict schedule for the past 3 years. 7 meals a day, 8 hours sleep, and train 4x a week and cardio on offdays sometimes, i also have not eating any fast food whatsoever in the 3 years; i have forgotten what mcdonald tastes like, lol. i honestly believe that i am the most dedicated bb; to the point where i do it like a profession. and it does seperate you from all social aspects of life. Just do whatever makes you happy.

 

[The Shadow]

Seriously...how do some of you do it? Those of you that are REALLY serious about bodybuilding? Shit, with 2 hour training sessions, 9 hours of sleep per night, 6500-7000 calories to consume each day, I'm busy from fucking morning until night ... I've made some great progress so far, about a [edit] YEAR and a month 1/2 ago at this time I weighed (injured) 178. Now I'm weighing roughly 215-217 at a slightly lower bodyfat....that's nice and all of course, but to be perfectly honest I am lonely as fuck. Virtually no girl is going to put up with this schedule or accept that I cant go out with her tonight because I have to train legs tomorrow, the next day because I have to get to bed early because I have to work in the morning...etc etc... we are talking age ranges of 17-23 here... Im supposed to go out on a little date next week but I'm skeptical as to how successful it will be.

I realize that because I'm bulking right now this is the worst time for me to try to find a girl, what I really just want is a fuck buddy, but I dont really know anyone in my city anymore so I dont have a circle of friends to choose from, girls in college or girls at work as I work at GNC...

So seriously, what the fuck do I do? I guess what I already am doing but the shit can get frustrating at times...the fact that I'm on a test cycle is compounding things and making it worse..I'm getting more attention from girls than I ever have in my life, hell I got whistled at today while walking through the video store parking lot, yet the cause of the attention is the same cause of my lack of women...

I love bodybuilding, I really do, and I'm not looking to compromise my progress or anything of that nature, I just cant figure out how the hell to balance it all out... Havoc you come to mind as someone I know is very consistent, so what do you do????

You need to take yourself a little less seriously.

1 - If you are in the gym 2 hours a day every day - something is wrong with your training. Stop the chit-chat and just lift.

2 - Tell me one reason why going on a date will interfere with your nutritional regimine.

3 - You can't go out because leg day is tomorrow?? Sorry dude - that's a little whacked.


I can totally relate to being dedicated to eating, sleeping and training but you need a life.

 

[WODIN]

For real you do not need to be in the gym for 2 hours. Your weight routine should take around one hour to knock out. If it takes longer then you are resting too long between sets or your shooting the shit too much.

If you are doing 30 minutes of cardio and abs too each day then I could understand the 2 hours.