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How does one, become an adult ?
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some people never become adults. It's not an age thing. unless you're talking 'legaly'.
What The-Short-One Said.tinytank said:
What defines a man ... hmmm.
Some things that define being an adult, to me: realizing that your actions have consequences and adjusting what you do accordingly; taking the future into consideration; putting those you love before yourself; doing what has to be done when it needs to be done without pissing and moaning about it; choosing to put $40 into savings instead of buying a new video game cartridge.
For females only: Realizing that you ain't "all that;" no longer manipulating men with your sex or looks; not being catty or gossipy; letting go of the idea that cute=helpless.
For males only: Realizing that being gentle does not make you a pussy; realizing that being female does not equate to being inferior; realizing that choosing NOT to do something terribly dangerous because your wife, child or parent asks you does not make you whipped, but considerate.
That's the best I can do for now ...
your actions are what makes you an adult, IMO. The reason your considered a 'legal' adult at your age is because you should know how adults act already and have implemented said actions. 
Again - some people never act like adults, so aren't.
Again - some people never act like adults, so aren't.
awittyusername
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tinytank said:not just legally, but its kinda fucked up. i can get sentenced as an adult in court, buy a house + start a family( if i was crazy enough ) ,go to war, vote, drink, drive. but im still not an adult ???
You become an adult when you are 100% sure you got everything out of your system. (partying...drinking...banging different types of chicks...etc)
Most people get married...kid...house before they are ready. Everyone of my friends wifes busted my balls because I was immature. Now, they are doing the same things I was doing. But, they are divorced and have kids that are having to deal with it also
Just keep boozing it up and banging chicks....You have plenty of time to grow up
Oh...and keep posting pics of you and your boozed up plumpers
anabolicfreak
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there are several different ways. For me, it was when the court told me i was going to be tried as one.
the-short-one said:your actions are what makes you an adult, IMO. The reason your considered a 'legal' adult at your age is because you should know how adults act already and have implemented said actions.
Again - some people never act like adults, so aren't.
^^^^^^^^^
Another good way of looking at it is, you become an adult when you begin to accept responsibility for your actions. I know 40 year old people who I don't think are adult acting.
WhiteCastle
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I feel that EF has some very wise females 
Personally, I didn't become and 'adult' untill I was about 23! I mean, looking back on it now I realize I was still just a punk kid untill about that time...
I have since gotten married, been to war, been to school, started a business, think about the future and how the actions I take now MIGHT affect it...
Alot of it has to do with how you accept life and take responsibility for your actions and take care of your obligations.. IMO
Personally, I didn't become and 'adult' untill I was about 23! I mean, looking back on it now I realize I was still just a punk kid untill about that time...
I have since gotten married, been to war, been to school, started a business, think about the future and how the actions I take now MIGHT affect it...
Alot of it has to do with how you accept life and take responsibility for your actions and take care of your obligations.. IMO
How ya doin' Peter Pan???
tinytank
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KillerCass said:I feel that EF has some very wise females
Personally, I didn't become and 'adult' untill I was about 23! I mean, looking back on it now I realize I was still just a punk kid untill about that time...
I have since gotten married, been to war, been to school, started a business, think about the future and how the actions I take now MIGHT affect it...
Alot of it has to do with how you accept life and take responsibility for your actions and take care of your obligations.. IMO
so im getting the impression, that the point where a person, realises they cant go about spending their money , on drink , strippers, video games , ect and thinking about marrage, kids ect, and take responsibility for your actions. is when you become an adult ?................Fuck That.. ill come back in maybe 10 years with a post " TT , oldest non adult in E/F "becuase sorry to say im not ready for kids/marrage..
Being an adult doesn't have anything to do with marriage. It's about taking responsibility for yourself. Once you clear that hurdle, then you can start thinking about marriage or raising a family.
The day you can look in the mirror and say, with conviction, that you are responsible for everything that you do is the day you become an adult.
The day you can look in the mirror and say, with conviction, that you are responsible for everything that you do is the day you become an adult.
Chaddycakes
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The point at which a boy becomes a man is when he can support himself finacially, this includes no help from mommy and daddy whatsoever, because even if the boy is away at college on his own and recieving money from his parents than he is actually still under their authority because he is being supported.
awittyusername
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tinytank said:
Good
Remember this when you have a gf that is serving you up some good sex on a daily basis. Thats how all my friends were convinced they were ready to get married, have kids, and buy a house
I was teasing you about the Peter Pan cracktinytank said:
TT, you're 19, for Christ's sake, have fun for now, okay? There's nothing wrong with that, my own son is doing it now and he's having a ball (actually he's balling just a little too much but that's another story). When you're ready you'll WANT to have a partner, a wife, children. And if you wait to WANT that, instead of doing it for any number of WRONG reasons, you will be proud of being practical, responsible, and all that boring shit. It's when you marry too young and/or for the wrong reasons, that you resent being married and it feels more like prison than a partnership, and your children are burdens instead of joys.
tinytank
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musclemom said:I was teasing you about the Peter Pan crack
When you're ready you'll WANT to have a partner, a wife, children. And if you wait to WANT that, instead of doing it for any number of WRONG reasons, you will be proud of being practical, responsible, and all that boring shit. It's when you marry too young and/or for the wrong reasons, that you resent being married and it feels more like prison than a partnership, and your children are burdens instead of joys.
how old is your son ?
awittyusername
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tinytank said:
He is too old for you...find a partner your own age bro
and I've spent more than half of my life as a married person ... funny thought, huh?
lol
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big4life said:
turned 41 this year and still not sure...try not to do anything really stupid and youll grow up fast enough...enjoy the blissfull ignorance of youth...
you can have kids, run a business and still act like a kid when you want to...thats what i do...
WhiteCastle
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No man, it doesn't have anything to do with getting married, I was just stating that particular fact about my life.... It really helps in my opinion, because then all of a sudden it is not just YOU that you are worried about.. You have someone else, that no matter how independent they are, still rely on you for support.. And I am not just speaking of financial matters.tinytank said:
You will one day wake up and realize it actually.. I mean, that you are becoming a 'man'.
You can use this analogy: Anyone can be a father, but it takes a special person to be a 'dad'.
Anyone over the age of 18 is technically an adult, but there is a big difference between being an adult, and being a man or woman.
coldblue1955
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they grow up.tinytank said:
Chaddycakes
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tinytank said:
Yes, because you are out of the house, and them giving you a present has nothing to do with supporting you.
Quadsweeps Sister
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tinytank said:
-when you go to a bar and suddenly feel old
-when someone asks how old you are and you hesitate before you say it
-when you start watching HGTV and dream about home projects
....just kidding.
I am not sure when it happens, but it does or it did. I don't know - I am of no help here.
my mom watched HGTV all the time..Her favorite words are "I'm gonna do........" Everthing she sees on there she is going to do to her house..Quadsweep's Sister said:-when you go to a bar and suddenly feel old
-when someone asks how old you are and you hesitate before you say it
-when you start watching HGTV and dream about home projects
....just kidding.
You forgot to include driving 20 mph on main roads and 45 on highway
listening to old music such as loretta lynn
needtogetaas
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yup thast how I did it.jackangel said:
Chaddycakes
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Lol I like this^^^ Very good point.
bran987
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many of the adults that are giving you advice hate their lives. we all think we get wiser as we get older, but we just deal with the same emotions differently. I'm 26 and I've been through you're situation and many girlfriends and almost to marriage and I'm really leaning back toward being 19 again because the society of get married in your early 20's and kill your dreams for the sake of the american family is not going to happen to me. There's a reason most marriages are ending in divorce now and it's people getting married too young who've been coddled their whole lives and haven't experienced enough to grow up, nooooot even close. I've been around a lot of people..... a lot of people with a lot of advice....... TinyTanky keep playing around, here is the thing....
STOP GETTING INTO FIGHTS WHEN YOU'RE DRUNK OR YOU WILL END UP DEAD OR IN JAIL. YOU HAVE TO STOP THAT.
never do anything (that'll have a long-term effect) you'll have to look back on and think, why did I get myself into this, was I pushed into this or did I really want it? I'm back on chicks again now, because I'm chiefly of the opinion that more of mens' dreams are killed by a ring and a subsequent life long guilt trip than by any other mechanism in the american existence. do this do that be home by this time don't travel you have a kid now be responsible there are more important things in life you have to change now where are your priorities money isn't everything you don't need the promotion why do you want to start your own business and put our savings in jeopardy who do you think you are???????? meanwhile you wake up and you're 45 thinking HOW DID THIS HAPPEN I HAD A PLAN!!!! the sad fact of the matter is that most women are dreamkillers.. last line stolen from leykis. btw britain is just like a weird america so you're at risk just the same.
STOP GETTING INTO FIGHTS WHEN YOU'RE DRUNK OR YOU WILL END UP DEAD OR IN JAIL. YOU HAVE TO STOP THAT.
never do anything (that'll have a long-term effect) you'll have to look back on and think, why did I get myself into this, was I pushed into this or did I really want it? I'm back on chicks again now, because I'm chiefly of the opinion that more of mens' dreams are killed by a ring and a subsequent life long guilt trip than by any other mechanism in the american existence. do this do that be home by this time don't travel you have a kid now be responsible there are more important things in life you have to change now where are your priorities money isn't everything you don't need the promotion why do you want to start your own business and put our savings in jeopardy who do you think you are???????? meanwhile you wake up and you're 45 thinking HOW DID THIS HAPPEN I HAD A PLAN!!!! the sad fact of the matter is that most women are dreamkillers.. last line stolen from leykis. btw britain is just like a weird america so you're at risk just the same.
awittyusername
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bran987 said:
Best post on Elite in a very long time
I have nothing to add, but say I agree 100% on everything bran said
GoldenDelicious
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bunch of faggots in this thread
youre biologically an adult when you reach sexual maturity.
youre legally an adult whenever your age meets whatever arbitrary minimum requirement your government imposes.
theres lots of crossover in this thread because of the different meanings of "adult", "man" as well as different concepts of family units/independance.
all the people saying that youre a man when you are financially independant blablabla...what a load of shit. learn the difference between being "a" man and simply being socioeconomically viable. all the people correlating adulthood with responsibility, shut up as well. there are such things as irresponsible, non-viable adults. also, there are some cultures in which living with parents until marriage etc etc are normal, acceptable practices. this shit is so subjective as to be virtually meaningless.
for fucks sake people we have this great big beautiful english language to use but noooooo, we have to use different inflections of the same word instead of actually quantifying what the fuck we are talking about. "im a man" "no youre not" "well your man is different to my man" "yeah well my man will beat up your man" "oh be an adult" "oh but im 19, i am" ffs
TT stop jumping through the hoops that society teaches you to, make up your own mind about things, and make your way in the world however you see fit - regardless of wealth, partners, status, or a broken bottle to the jugular. youre just you and thats all youre ever going to be.
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youre biologically an adult when you reach sexual maturity.
youre legally an adult whenever your age meets whatever arbitrary minimum requirement your government imposes.
theres lots of crossover in this thread because of the different meanings of "adult", "man" as well as different concepts of family units/independance.
all the people saying that youre a man when you are financially independant blablabla...what a load of shit. learn the difference between being "a" man and simply being socioeconomically viable. all the people correlating adulthood with responsibility, shut up as well. there are such things as irresponsible, non-viable adults. also, there are some cultures in which living with parents until marriage etc etc are normal, acceptable practices. this shit is so subjective as to be virtually meaningless.
for fucks sake people we have this great big beautiful english language to use but noooooo, we have to use different inflections of the same word instead of actually quantifying what the fuck we are talking about. "im a man" "no youre not" "well your man is different to my man" "yeah well my man will beat up your man" "oh be an adult" "oh but im 19, i am" ffs
TT stop jumping through the hoops that society teaches you to, make up your own mind about things, and make your way in the world however you see fit - regardless of wealth, partners, status, or a broken bottle to the jugular. youre just you and thats all youre ever going to be.
this sagacious post was brought ot you by GoldenDelicious, fortune cookie collector extraordinairre
GoldenDelicious
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my point preciselyMr. dB said:
sif you called it hogwash lol fuck you deebs
I recently saw something on TV, & read a book called The Primal Teen. They describe a condition whereby a certain part of the brain does not develop until age 20ish. I'm being very general here, but basically you cannot make well thought out pragmatic decisions (to your potential) until this process has been completed. This is where you do things & your parents say "Oh, where did I go wrong?", & "What the hell is that little turd thinking?".
Don't worry, you'll grow out of it, but in the mean time, act according to how you know you should. If you're being an ass, you can't just blame this condition as "Oh, I got herpes because my hypothalamcortocampus hasn't finshed developing."
Don't worry, you'll grow out of it, but in the mean time, act according to how you know you should. If you're being an ass, you can't just blame this condition as "Oh, I got herpes because my hypothalamcortocampus hasn't finshed developing."
bran987 said:
this post is funny in the sense how much has bran changed..i rmember him 2 years ago complaining how old he was gettin and how his ole lady was holding him back etc.... i remmebr u saying @ 24 how old u were getting/felt..... so remember that good post
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