Ive been with my wife for a little over 10 years. We have only been married for about 15 months now.
I hid my use from her up until very recently.
The reasons behind me telling her were, A) I got tired of hiding things from my wife... going into the bathroom and hurrying through injections... hiding gear etc, and B) I had to explain the reason(s) why I was feeling a certain way.
Recently I went from a big bulker of 550Test/500Deca for about 15 weeks... and shortly after that went into a LONG cutter with Test/EQ/Winny, and I got my first gyno symptoms ever from that cutting cycle. I jumped on some letro, and it DESTROYED my sex drive. I dont know if the winny shut me down hard also, but I could care less about sex at that point.
Well my wife started making comments about how she didnt think I found her attractive anymore etc. So I felt like I needed to clear the air, because it got really bad there for a while.
I sat her down and I told her something like "Look baby, I never lie to you about anything, but there is something that I have NEVER told ANYONE, that I am tired of keeping from you and I feel that you really need to know".
Then I told her how many cycles I had done, and when... and explained to her why my sex drive was rediculasly low etc and made her feel a lot more comfortable about HERSELF. She also knows that I am a very smart individual and if I am going to do something like that, she knows I am going to be very safe about it. So she was really cool with it.
Now, my wife is bi-polar. We've had tons of problems in the past, which is really why I didnt ever want to tell her. Since I told her, we have gotten in a few verbal confrontations and she has thrown my use in my face 3 times. Each time I told her that my mood is not affected by what I am putting in my body, and that she will not throw it in my face again if she respects me and respects the fact that I told her something that NO ONE else knows. The 3rd time it happened I told her again, and I told her that I was "on" all last year and she never said ANYTHING about my mood or anything like that, so what she was saying now was rediculas and she needed to quit.
Since then she hasnt brought it up again, but she has made so many comments about my body. I get the feeling shes really happy now, and happy with what I am doing with myself. So I am not concerned with the fact that I told her.
I dont recommend telling a girl that you are JUST getting involved in, for reasons stated in previous posts. ALL women are fucking crazy. They will twist shit and use information against you if they feel the urge. So I would wait until a GOOD amount of time passes and you are both comitted to each other before i even CONSIDERED telling her. In short, make fucking SURE you can trust her...
