HELP NIGHTFLY!!!! Pretty please???

[Night Fly]

if she didn't pay she would have no say.....i mean she would have say from the standpoint of being your mom and trying to put her 2 cents in but no no other say.

I understand that...but I do I go from not paying for much at all....to paying for car insurance/cell phone/house bills/rent...and stuff like that...when I go to nursing school all week? I can't fail out of school...but I do awful when I work too many hours.

 

[naturally anabolic]

oh... karma for nightfly

 

[bunnymt]

I am not really sure what kind of advice to give you but I know what I would do because I was in a similar situation myself. My parents paid for everything under the sun: when I went out with friends, my schooling, books, gym, etc.
One day I decided that I was not going to feel guilty about them paying for everything and I started to become more independent (I was about 20 at that time). Now I am 23, I have my own place, work 3 jobs, go to school (my parents still pay for my school), buy my own food, and pay for my car. Granted, it was not easy, but I had to do it.
Well, that is a lie. I did not have to do it but I wanted to do it. I am sure that if I hadn't changed my ways, my parents would still be paying for everything.

To sum it up...perhaps you can try to become independent. You wont go wrong with that. Plus then you wont have to feel any guilt for anything (except maybe spending too much of your hard-earned money).

bunny

 

[Night Fly]

Bunny...

Can you tell me how you started to do that? What did you first do to get off on the right foot?

 

[polarpixie]

Nightfly, sounds like you've got great parents. So, I'd suggest just being honest with your mom, tell her you've been visiting your bf. But also tell her that if she does not approve of that, then you will find a way to pay for your own vehicle. The trick is you must be very calm and mature and rational. Let her know that this is what you're gonna do whether she likes it or not. Tell her you appreciate her paying for your car, but not if she's using it as a way to control you.

The cell phone thing --- get a plan that's got more minutes, in the long run it'll be cheaper.

Hope that helps! I'm kind of scared to give you advice now after that whole pizza thing....

 

[Night Fly]

PP...thank you SO much, girl. I like your advice on the first thing...AND the second thing! With the cell phone...well....I have 2600 min/month...lol. That is my own stupid fault. AND, I get free long distance, no roaming, etc... I only have 600 anytime minutes, though...and that is when I use my phone the most...but of course if you up the minutes on anytime 'time' well...just my monthly bill will be out the door expensive.

haha...oh yes...the dreaded pizza thing. I thought about doing that tonight, but didn't! I'm getting better!

 

[Arioch]

Just be honest with her. Two reasons. One, you should quite simply not lie to your mother, or anyone else. Two, why give her something else to gripe about.

By way of comparison, my mother still tries to tell me what to do from time to time and I am 42. As long as she continues to be your mother, she will have the right to give you her opinion. After a while, it may change from the old "telling you what to do" to the "just trying to give you some advice, dear" attitude, but the point will remain the same.

 

[Lord_Suston]

Being independant and going to school is very tough. I have done it for the last four years and there are many things I have done just to stay afloat. You should apologize about the minutes and pay for it, but tell her you don't want to argue about it. Part 2 tell her you went on a road trip with your friends or that you went to your bf, she's gonna find out anyways if you keep going out with him, so why lie now.

 

[Night Fly]

Okay okay...not going to lie...already decided that.

I think she will be okay with it....hopefully. I think I really liked PP's idea.

Thanks for the input everyone else, though.

 

[the People's Champ]

umm yeah. someone beat me to it. I was going to suggest getting a better plan, or youcould call on your night and weekend minutes so you odnt use too much of your anytime minutes. but then again, no one is usually available during that time. oh well. so waddup NF?