hello!!! need some advice

[Bikini Mod]

Those numbers mean nothing!!!


Why? Because a very low percentage of men report abuse from a woman. I've been abused by a woman, an ex g/f kicked me so hard in the shin it left a bruise the size of a baseball. It hurt for over a week. I have never hit a woman. My mother has hit my father, my father has never struck my mother, both of my parents will openly admit this. Those male/female abuse numbers are too skewed to mean shit.

Statistics are only as accurate as the people are willing to come forward, that is true.

Bottom line is - IT IS WRONG REGARDLESS OF WHO IS DOING IT.

If there are children involved A LOT of men will stay and take the abuse so they can be part of their kids lives.

The Family Place helps EVERYONE escape, regardless of their gender or sexual orientation, or even if they have substance abuse/alcohol abuse problems.

Did ya'll know that MOST SHELTERS will turn folks away if they have problems with substance/alcohol abuse?

 

[puddlemonkey]

Statistics are only as accurate as the people are willing to come forward, that is true.

Bottom line is - IT IS WRONG REGARDLESS OF WHO IS DOING IT.

If there are children involved A LOT of men will stay and take the abuse so they can be part of their kids lives.

The Family Place helps EVERYONE escape, regardless of their gender or sexual orientation, or even if they have substance abuse/alcohol abuse problems.

Did ya'll know that MOST SHELTERS will turn folks away if they have problems with substance/alcohol abuse?

I'm only telling you this to help you. I don't have a dog in this fight. You're pushing for public awareness with your own personal case and others around you. I think you'll be able to reach a lot more people if you didn't come across as a sexist lunatic. Not saying you are, but you do get extremely worked up over things you're deeply passionate about. I think if you were to choose your words a little more wisely and put a governor on all that passion of yours you'll find a lot more people are willing to listen.

 

[puddlemonkey]

oh, and for those not mechanically inclined...

governor:

4. a contrivance applied to steam engines, water wheels, and other machinery, to maintain nearly uniform speed when the resistances and motive force are variable.

 

[jackangel]

I don't know where puddlemonkey got all this crazy talk from.

 

[Bikini Mod]

I'm only telling you this to help you. I don't have a dog in this fight. You're pushing for public awareness with your own personal case and others around you. I think you'll be able to reach a lot more people if you didn't come across as a sexist lunatic. Not saying you are, but you do get extremely worked up over things you're deeply passionate about. I think if you were to choose your words a little more wisely and put a governor on all that passion of yours you'll find a lot more people are willing to listen.

Sexist lunatic?

And what does my husband sound like?

I appreciate what you are saying. Thanks for your help.

Bottom line is abuse is wrong no matter who is doing it. I've said that a thousand times.

Am I a lunatic? Yes, I am. When it comes to people beating those they are supposed to love to death, often times in front of their kids then yea, I tend to get a bit worked up over it.

 

[puddlemonkey]

*sigh*

 

[chris302001]

lotta bold caps in here....just sayin

 

[puddlemonkey]

Sexist lunatic?

And what does my husband sound like?

According to those that have spoke to him he sounds like one of those squeaky dog toys.

 

[Bikini Mod]

lotta bold caps in here....just sayin

Ya'll are right. People being murdered by those that claim to love and care about them is nothing to get worked up about.

Point well taken.

No one has told me yet the origins of the expression "rule of thumb."

Ya, it's relevant to the topic at hand.

Or we can all just put our heads in the sand and pretend that this isn't happening. Hey, let's make jokes about it. That will certainly change things for the better.

Yea, let's do that.

 

[puddlemonkey]

Ya'll are right. People being murdered by those that claim to love and care about them is nothing to get worked up about.

Point well taken.

You know damn well my reply was directed at your quest to get your kids back, I even said that. Now you're just twisting words.