My wife and I of 10 years are now starting to get our sex life back on track after our children have finally reached an age where we have "time" and work schedules allow for more play. So, we find ourselves having to do the act quicker due to the fact that we still have young children at home, we have to wake up very earlly for work etc... Im in my late 30's my wife is in her early 40's. When we mess around my wife has made comments as to why Im not aroused right away. To put in prospective, we finally hear the kids are asleep, she rolls over and asks...so you wannna? Thats the extent of foreplay. Am I off the wall in telling her I need some oral or manual stimulation to get excited?? How could she possibly expect me to get rock hard by her simply voicing that she wants to do it. She has mentioned its difficult for her to get excited when she sees me not standing at attentiion. Any advice??