Guy hitting on my wife...

[beastboy]

My wife wants me to go out with a bunch of people from her work, but I know there is this guy that will be going that is constantly hitting on her....I don't know how to act.....? I don't want to come off as the jealous husband (which I'm not), but at the same time I want this guy to know that I'm not going to be all chummy with him, and I don't appreciate his actions when he knows she is married.......any suggestions?

 

[WODIN]

Just ask him how he would feel if he were married and someone was hitting on his wife the way he is on yours. Try to get him to see things from your perspective. Don't get angry or condescending which would lead to a confrontational attitude which blocks your point from getting across to this person.

 

[Peyote Killa]

At the first sight of him making a flirtatios move on your wife, deck him!

 

[saint808]

you could just accept the fact that your wife is attractive enough for other men to hit on... she's with you and you obviously trust her... don't let it get to you. Now if he does it in front of you then that is a different story.

 

[danielson]

At the first sight of him making a flirtatios move on your wife, deck him!

lol....got a mental pic of this guy coming up, saying hi and promptly getting layed out

 

[vixenbabe]

There is a fine line between flirting and social interaction 'tween the sexes!

If she is outgoing and freindly to ALL people, then she will attract many men/women in her life. You have to be strong enough to know she loves you and won't do anything to hurt you.

Now, if this co-worker is the type who is the touchy , feely kind...SHE NEEDS TO TELL THE JERK SHE IS UN-COMFORTABLE! Have her go to the H/R department in her office if this is the case!

If that does not work then YOU need to step in and REMIND him how to treat a lady.

 

[Peyote Killa]

lol....got a mental pic of this guy coming up, saying hi and promptly getting layed out

Exactly man, exactly!

 

[WODIN]

......when my wife and I were dating and it embarrased the hell out of her.

This is what you want to avoid doing.

I was speaking from experience as well. LOL!!!

 

[GLADIATOR351]

you could just accept the fact that your wife is attractive enough for other men to hit on... she's with you and you obviously trust her... don't let it get to you. Now if he does it in front of you then that is a different story.

good advice!

 

[beastboy]

My wife is the outgoing type, but I totally trust her and know she does not try to get this type of attention. I do want to stay calm, and I know harmless flirting is usually innocent, but it is just something about this guy that I don't like. I feel like he is flirting just to spite me.....but my wife is completely naïve to it all and feels it is harmless. I mean I've had other guys flirt with her which were mutual friends of ours and it doesn't bother me at all...am I setting a double standard?

The last think I want to do is blow and embarass my wife and myself, if it isn't justified.....