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silverbackn

silverbackn

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I was supposed to be getting married in May to a woman I had been with for over a year. We aren't together now, she's moving away. I gave every ounce of myself for a year and now I'm getting tossed away like trash. It hurts because I gave everything. I am probably gonna move too because my job isn't going well. Everything that I thought was established in my life isn't. I'm just having a down day. I feel completely alone. I'm just being a whinebag. I have alot to be thankful for, but this shit hurts.
 
Go ahead and whine all you want. This is a place you can get your thoughts out and be relatively anonymous. It may be cathartic. Others have done it.

Im sorry youre having a hard time.
 
Awww sorry to hear that and that you're depressed!! Feel free to vent - always helps me.....

:rose:
 
Smurfy said:
Go ahead and whine all you want. This is a place you can get your thoughts out and be relatively anonymous. It may be cathartic. Others have done it.

Im sorry youre having a hard time.
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I guess I just need to get it out. I blew up on her today because she didn't understand why I wasn't a ray of sunshine everytime she called me. It's the same kind of stuff that we all go through, I'm just really having a hard time facing it.
 
Make sure you learn some things from all of this. Once the hurt goes away (AND IT ALWAYS DOES), you should be a better person. Then it's time to move to the next level.

Good luck bor.
 
KillahBee said:
Make sure you learn some things from all of this. Once the hurt goes away (AND IT ALWAYS DOES), you should be a better person. Then it's time to move to the next level.

Good luck bor.
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Thanks KB, you are right about everything you said. I have definitely learned from what I have gone through, you can almost always find a positive.
 
silverbackn said:
Thanks KB, you are right about everything you said. I have definitely learned from what I have gone through, you can almost always find a positive.
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EVERYTHING is a positive if you react to it correctly. It hurts, I know. Let it hurt, don't repress those feelings. Then develop a plan to learn from all these things and live your life the way you want.

Everything is in your control.
 
What is your current job? What would you like to do?

Channel your pain into doing something constructive for you.
 
nycgirl said:
What is your current job? What would you like to do?

Channel your pain into doing something constructive for you.
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I'm a personal trainer in the wrong area. I'm too threatening looking to do well here. I am the only competitive bb'er at my gym, people think I am a hardass I guess. I love being a trainer, but I feel like my potential isn't being tapped.
 
silverbackn said:
I'm a personal trainer in the wrong area. I'm too threatening looking to do well here. I am the only competitive bb'er at my gym, people think I am a hardass I guess. I love being a trainer, but I feel like my potential isn't being tapped.
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Oh, yes, you live in Arkansas.

Have you looked into other areas?
 
nycgirl said:
Oh, yes, you live in Arkansas.

Have you looked into other areas?
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I may be taking a management job at a Powerhouse that is in the works. It is in Missouri, not a big change in demographics, but my income wouldn't be totally based on personal training either.
 
silverbackn said:
I may be taking a management job at a Powerhouse that is in the works. It is in Missouri, not a big change in demographics, but my income wouldn't be totally based on personal training either.
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Don't think too much. Looks like a new opportunity to start a new life.
 
nycgirl said:
Don't think too much. Looks like a new opportunity to start a new life.
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Agreed! I have lived there before so I'm not crazy about moving back there, but I need to get out of here and take the opportunity to be part of something.
 
silverbackn said:
Agreed! I have lived there before so I'm not crazy about moving back there, but I need to get out of here and take the opportunity to be part of something.
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You don't have to stay there too long (more than a year or two). Use the management experience to take you some place else or open your own gym.

How old are you?
 
Darlin - I know it hurts. Believe me. But it is for the best.

Take this as an opportunity to do WHATEVER THE HELL PLEASES YOU!!! Go wherever you want and do whatever you want.

Eventually the hurt will fade and you will see things that were there all along that you just never saw before.

I'm so sorry for your hurt. You seem like such a wonderful man.

There will be a lovely lady and a great new job op somewhere else and happiness that you never could have even imagined. Trust me on this one!!! :)
 
nycgirl said:
You don't have to stay there too long (more than a year or two). Use the management experience to take you some place else or open your own gym.

How old are you?
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That is true, I'm looking forward to the experience and getting a change. I will hate leaving all of my bro's here, but I won't be too far away (bout an hour). I am 25.
 
BIKINIMOM said:
Darlin - I know it hurts. Believe me. But it is for the best.

Take this as an opportunity to do WHATEVER THE HELL PLEASES YOU!!! Go wherever you want and do whatever you want.

Eventually the hurt will fade and you will see things that were there all along that you just never saw before.

I'm so sorry for your hurt. You seem like such a wonderful man.

There will be a lovely lady and a great new job op somewhere else and happiness that you never could have even imagined. Trust me on this one!!! :)
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Thank you! That is sweet of you to say. I have already reallized a lot of things from looking back at what I went through with her. It is now the "Summer of Cody" (hopefully it works out better than the "summer of George"). I have hurt so much over her and what she has done to me. I'm tired of it, I deserve better than what she was willing to give. Thanks again for the kind words.
 
silverbackn said:
That is true, I'm looking forward to the experience and getting a change. I will hate leaving all of my bro's here, but I won't be too far away (bout an hour). I am 25.
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There's no excuse for you not to go.

You are young. No kids. Not married (which is a blessing; things happen for a reason). Only 60 min. from your friends - makes the move & staying a lot easier.

Have they officially offered you the job?

Btw, I'm big on taking chances. I hope I'm not being too pushy.
 
nycgirl said:
There's no excuse for you not to go.

You are young. No kids. Not married (which is a blessing; things happen for a reason). Only 60 min. from your friends - makes the move & staying a lot easier.

Have they officially offered you the job?

Btw, I'm big on taking chances. I hope I'm not being too pushy.
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No, you're not being too pushy. You could say anything to me, you have my utmost respect. It is one of my best friends who is offering me the job. I am driving up tonight to meet him when I get off of work.
 
2dagym said:
Sorry to hear about your break-up. Could she be having cold feet about the marriage?
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Thanks sweetie, that could definitely have something to do with. There have been more ups and downs then I could count which should have told me something, I just loved her so much that I would do anything for her and I kept making excuses for her.
 
silverbackn said:
I'm 90% sure that I'm going to, just have to establish the pay and my commission percentages.
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Well that is logical....good luck!!
 
Well I'm sorry to hear that you are so down..like KB said you will begin to feel better and there are plenty of good women out there! So keep your head up!
 
I wasn't expecting this kind of response, I really appreciate everyone of you who took the time to post. It really does mean alot to me. It's nice to know that so many people are supportive of me, even if we have never met!
 
silverbackn said:
I was supposed to be getting married in May to a woman I had been with for over a year. We aren't together now, she's moving away. I gave every ounce of myself for a year and now I'm getting tossed away like trash. It hurts because I gave everything. I am probably gonna move too because my job isn't going well. Everything that I thought was established in my life isn't. I'm just having a down day. I feel completely alone. I'm just being a whinebag. I have alot to be thankful for, but this shit hurts.
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I am sorry to hear about this.
Keep in mind. There are more fish in the sea!
 
mightymouse69 said:
sorry bro, but there will be others...trust me, someday you will look back at this and say "blessing in disguise"!
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I have a feeling you are right, there were too many things that weren't right in our relationship and I tried to glaze them over. I will be happier in the end with someone else.
 
silverbackn said:
I was supposed to be getting married in May to a woman I had been with for over a year. We aren't together now, she's moving away. I gave every ounce of myself for a year and now I'm getting tossed away like trash. It hurts because I gave everything. I am probably gonna move too because my job isn't going well. Everything that I thought was established in my life isn't. I'm just having a down day. I feel completely alone. I'm just being a whinebag. I have alot to be thankful for, but this shit hurts.
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Sorry to hear my good man. You will overcome, but it helps to talk it out. Better things are on the horizon. Never give up!! We are warriors. Can't keep a good man down.
 
biteme said:
Sorry to hear my good man. You will overcome, but it helps to talk it out. Better things are on the horizon. Never give up!! We are warriors. Can't keep a good man down.
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Thanks for the words big man. I am feeling pretty good about where things are headed for me. Gotta keep grinding!!!!!
 
KillahBee said:
Make sure you learn some things from all of this. Once the hurt goes away (AND IT ALWAYS DOES), you should be a better person. Then it's time to move to the next level.

Good luck bor.
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Exactly what I would say

Silver, I guarantee you will look back at this as a blessing. (I know it's hard now)

You are only 25...Enjoy being single!!!!!!!!!!!!!
 
awittyusername said:
Exactly what I would say

Silver, I guarantee you will look back at this as a blessing. (I know it's hard now)

You are only 25...Enjoy being single!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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You're a very much right about that. I can already look back and see a lot of things that were missing, or things that were a problem repeatedly. More than a few bad patterns that she admitted had always been that way. I kind of feel like a weight has been lifted off my shoulders.
 
silverbackn said:
You're a very much right about that. I can already look back and see a lot of things that were missing, or things that were a problem repeatedly. More than a few bad patterns that she admitted had always been that way. I kind of feel like a weight has been lifted off my shoulders.
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I give you props on how maturely you are handeling this. You will look back and see even more things as the yrs go on.



Also, you will be happier in a few yrs when you see how fat she got
 
Take a vacation. Seriously, drop some coin on yourself ang go to Vegas, south beach, Aruba or somewhere. Guarentee you won't be down after that. My homeboy just got seperated a few months back & I took him to Vegas. Cured everything.
 
a woman is like a suit that fits perfect......just keep trying them on...sooner or later you will fing the one that fits perfect...
 
Angel said:
There are more fish in the sea!
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Actually, there are better fish in Missouri than in Arkansas. Hit up Table Rock Lake for some quality bass.

Where in Missouri are you headed?

I'll hit you for 50,000 karmas if you stop in Ridgedale and crack an egg on the head of a girl who screwed me over.
 
swolenole said:
a woman is like a suit that fits perfect......just keep trying them on...sooner or later you will fing the one that fits perfect...
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I have to disagree.

It is better to think of women as a you would a Tux.

Pick out the one you want...Pay up front...Return after that evening's use...





:wodin:
 
gotmilk said:
Actually, there are better fish in Missouri than in Arkansas. Hit up Table Rock Lake for some quality bass.

Where in Missouri are you headed?

I'll hit you for 50,000 karmas if you stop in Ridgedale and crack an egg on the head of a girl who screwed me over.
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I love it. I'm gonna be in Joplin. I have lived there before. I will make a special trip to Ridgedale for you bro, i'll smoke her with a bass from Table Rock :splat:
 
She pulled the same crap on me.

I might have the all time record for crossing the Chesapeake Bay Bridge. I drove 800 miles to catch her cheating on me. I blew across the bridge at about 85 mph at 4 am.

The dude in the first tower was frantically waving his arms at me to slow down.

I caught her....and received a nasty letter in the mail from the Virginia State Police a week later.
 
gotmilk said:
She pulled the same crap on me.

I might have the all time record for crossing the Chesapeake Bay Bridge. I drove 800 miles to catch her cheating on me. I blew across the bridge at about 85 mph at 4 am.

The dude in the first tower was frantically waving his arms at me to slow down.

I caught her....and received a nasty letter in the mail from the Virginia State Police a week later.
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That poor guy in the tower :evil:
 
silverbackn said:
I was supposed to be getting married in May to a woman I had been with for over a year. We aren't together now, she's moving away. I gave every ounce of myself for a year and now I'm getting tossed away like trash. It hurts because I gave everything. I am probably gonna move too because my job isn't going well. Everything that I thought was established in my life isn't. I'm just having a down day. I feel completely alone. I'm just being a whinebag. I have alot to be thankful for, but this shit hurts.
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when you're down, you're down. Billions throughout time have felt the way you have before. Also billions have gotten through it.

The next day gets better, then the next day. In 5 years, u won't even think about this on your worst day.

Just pick yourself up ogether and dust yourself off and move on. There is no other choice if u value yourself.
 
awittyusername said:
I have to disagree.

It is better to think of women as a you would a Tux.

Pick out the one you want...Pay up front...Return after that evening's use...





:wodin:
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you forgot to add the part about returning it with a few stains too !
 
silverbackn said:
I guess I just need to get it out. I blew up on her today because she didn't understand why I wasn't a ray of sunshine everytime she called me. It's the same kind of stuff that we all go through, I'm just really having a hard time facing it.
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whys she still calling u if shes leaving u
 
Razorguns said:
when you're down, you're down. Billions throughout time have felt the way you have before. Also billions have gotten through it.

The next day gets better, then the next day. In 5 years, u won't even think about this on your worst day.

Just pick yourself up ogether and dust yourself off and move on. There is no other choice if u value yourself.
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You're absolutely right. I have found a new resolve in myself. It feels good.
 
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