Female situation, Opinions needed!

[DIVISION]

A few months in to the semester, Psychology of Sexuality class, there's a female that is interested in me and has been for some time.

She's a blonde, blue-eyed, tan.......very curvaceous, c-cup, thick full ass, manicured toenails......She's attractive, very much so, that I was thinking to myself that just about any other guy would absolutely jump on her given the chance, the opening that she's given me several times. The problem is that I don't go for that look; I like pale women (ie. Rose McGowan). Any of you who know me understand my taste in women, so I won't go further in to that.

The very first day of class, waiting outside, she came up to me and stood literally a couple feet from me and just stared.....didn't say anything, which I thought was strange, but she stared. She had sunglasses on so I couldn't make out what her eyes were looking at or what expression they had. I didn't pay it much attention at the time.....just whatever. Then it started happening every class that, she'd do the typical "girl flirting behaviour" that's just so easy to pick up on: ie. quick glancing looks back at me, looking directly at me when I speak in class, getting up close to me at every opportunity. She made every attempt to make eye contact with me and I knew she was doing it, but I've seen this all before I didn't want to give her the attention she was looking for. I just don't play other people's games, and it seemed that she was trying to draw me in to hers.

I realized she wanted more than attention when she literally followed me between classes and when I stopped to talk with someone she passed right next to me...glancing my shoulder. Now in class, she literally stares at me and tried to make eye contact with me, it's almost like she waiting for that opening to jump on me!


The Question: Do you guys think I should take her aside after a class and just break it down to her that I'm not interested; that she's just not my "type" physically?

-or-

Just keep on with the non-verbal and hope she gets the "hint" that I'm not interested?


Normally, I'd be str8up and just come and tell a girl that I'm not interested and give her the reason, but it seems too harsh and I really don't have anything against the girl, she's just not my flavor. Also, other women I've asked have said it would be easier on the girl if I just waited 'till she got the "hint", less traumatic. Despite the fact that it's not my way, I'm fine with that, but it's mid-March and she's persistent.....

What do you guys think?

I appreciate any serious replies.....





DIV

 

[*MissFit*]

be up frotn and honest..

Sorry but evne though u think u might not be sending vibe.. you might be..

We're not mind readers.. sometiems i like to think im sending ahint.. but im not.. better to be up front and honest...

might hurt their feeling at first but in the long run saves misintepretation...

 

[DIVISION]

be up frotn and honest..

Sorry but evne though u think u might not be sending vibe.. you might be..

We're not mind readers.. sometiems i like to think im sending ahint.. but im not.. better to be up front and honest...

might hurt their feeling at first but in the long run saves misintepretation...

I thought about that, but if I broke it down for her, she might end up hating me simply because I don't find her attractive like all the other guys she encounters do.

Basically, I'm torn between staying true to what I do and how I deal with people, and her perceived feelings in the situation.

I know how women are, if I tell her that she's not my type, she'll be all hurt and self-conscious for the rest of the semester......




DIV

 

[BUBBLES]

Are you sexually starved? If yes then tell her you are only interested in her for sex and go sleep with her after she understood the conditions. If not then tell her the truth that you are not interested.

 

[DIVISION]

Are you sexually starved? If yes then tell her you are only interested in her for sex and go sleep with her after she understood the conditions. If not then tell her the truth that you are not interested.

yes, yes I know......Yasmina.....

Most guys would dog her out and use her for sex.......that's not me.

I don't have sex with women I don't intend to have a relationship with.

I'm not sexually starved.......





DIV

 

[*MissFit*]

Well if a guy did that to me i would be able to deal.. if she can't that is her issue.. not yours.. sorry

 

[DIVISION]

Well if a guy did that to me i would be able to deal.. if she can't that is her issue.. not yours.. sorry

Thank you.

That's the type of advice I was looking for.




DIV

 

[BUBBLES]

yes, yes I know......Yasmina.....

Most guys would dog her out and use her for sex.......that's not me.

I don't have sex with women I don't intend to have a relationship with.

I'm not sexually starved.......


DIV

Tell her the truth then if you have no intention of being with her and if you are not attracted to her.

Tell us how you did it and what the end result was.

 

[from zero]

If you're worried about hurting the girl's feeling, make something up. Say you're involved with another girl or something.

 

[Meantime1]

WELL WELL WELL

This is a tricky situation because u will get to see her everyday in or between class, soo how you deal with it, will change the dynamics forever,

If she is NOT your type, you can be a gentle man and tell her, that you've just come out of a long term relationship and your not looking for anything right now, but thanks for showing an interest, but i needed to tell you this, so you would not be wasting your time. that way she will get to keep her dignity

OR

You could try something different, there was a time I NEVER DID BLONDE'S and all i did were dark head until i met my ex and now i seem to attract blonde's and i am open to the possibility of finding the beauty within from everyone

 

[Growth&Courage]

I think CC's point about your non-verbal cues that you are displaying outside your awareness which may in turn be interpreted by the blonde bombshell as positive reciprocation is a good point. One I always stress in any given social circumstances.

Your numbness and indecisiveness into actually making a bold move (whether option 1 or 2) is probably seen as a sign of neutrality.
I think her persistence in pursuing you will be more and more overt and blantant if you continue to be neutral & hesitate any direct approach resolution.
I don't believe that she has any clue that you're not interested in what is commonly perceived to be a total hot blonde bombshell...seeing that you have a more uniquely attributed taste, this I think you'll need to communicate to her thus option 2 ceases to be fruitful.

Option 1 yields a more positive result based on the conditions that

(i) You communicate it to her that she is (objectively speaking) HOT - curvaceous, thick full ass, hot c-cup tits, literally a babe.

(ii) That you are interested in other types of women and is nothing personal.


The outcome is contingent upon so many other variables that it would be insane to even think of it, however I think my recommendation offers a solution to your part as well as departing from her in complimentary and impersonal ways.


Hope I've offered some thinking materials.


G&C
I am always serious with my opinions.

 

[alien amp pharm]

I sometimes have to tell women I'm not interested

but they are always ugly, fat, and smell. Thus making it easy to do.

 

[Gymgurl]

Just tell her you are not interested in a relationship but would like to be friends

 

[BileStew]

How about incorporating your phony *gangsta, pretending to know everything about everyone and everything* persona from here into real life and tell her you're not interested instead of asking for advice?

Nah, that's too easy to do.

 

[SoKlueles]

How about incorporating your phony *gangsta, pretending to know everything about everyone and everything* persona from here into real life and tell her you're not interested instead of asking for advice?

Nah, that's too easy to do.

um excuse me
who the hell are u?

 

[Raina]

I don't think you have to be blunt with her unless she's blunt with you and actually asks you our or something instead of just being a flirt.

 

[Y_lifter]

Enjoy the attention until she turns Psycho..

 

[GoldenDelicious]

telling her that youre not interested will probably hurt her ego, as well as runs the risk of making her want you more than ever.

sometimes a little deception is the way to go. leak the idea that an old flame has come back into your life and youre not available because of that, or that youve been hurt in the past and so arent really up for a relationship...basically make yourself less attractive in a way that is fairly solid and wont impact on her self esteem.

 

[Whiskey]

DOn't say a word, this can help you... maybe. In my experience, when a girl would try to get with me, others always seemed to follow. I say ride it out until she either gets the hint, or you let her ride you a time or two but you keep on ignoring her ;-)

Whiskey

 

[Gymgurl]

why for the love of God is this in BTS

 

[The Shadow]

nope......



dont take her aside...no words...kepp doing what you are doing


when you reject her,she will pull the old " Im not into you, what a conceited prick" routine


ignoring saves face for both of you

 

[DIVISION]

why for the love of God is this in BTS

Sugarplum moved it.........I have no idea why.




DIV

 

[rudeboyja]

Kind of ridiculous. You worried about hurting her feelings and don't even know for sure she digs you. Maybe it's real, maybe it's in your head. Until she says anything why are even taking time to concern yourself with it?

 

[Bikini Mod]

How about incorporating your phony *gangsta, pretending to know everything about everyone and everything* persona from here into real life and tell her you're not interested instead of asking for advice?

Nah, that's too easy to do.

ouch.

 

[Dekaxx]

Well if a guy did that to me i would be able to deal.. if she can't that is her issue.. not yours.. sorry

I agree with CC, im sure you can tell her in a polite way your not interested no worries

 

[Bikini Mod]

Not to be a dick, but do you realize how much of a dick your original post makes you sound like?

"This uberhotty" - but not to me - keeps throwing herself at me shamelessly. How do I "spare her more humiliation" without REALLY hurting her feelings by telling her that I dont find "her type" physically appealing?

Did the thought ever occur to you that maybe she is just as disinterested in you as you are her but she finds you a sort of challenge and just wants to get you to show interest in her so that she can "dis" you the way that you have been "dissing" her?

OR

Did the thought ever occur to you that it is ALL IN YOUR HEAD?

You can't possibly start out a thread sounding like such a self-righteous prick and have us believe that you actually give a shit about this chick's feelings... do you?

 

[Dekaxx]

Thinking more about this Bro, unless you have someone else why not just have fun with it? I mean what could be bad about some flirting and being chased by some hot female, ill try real hard to feel for ya but no promises

I myself love being the one doing the chasing but being chased is alot of fun too, i say have fun and roll with it!