Ex-girlfriend rule or not?

[ponyfitness]

I got an email today from an ex-girlfriend of a good friend of mine. I knew her through him but we hung out and partied a few times together over the years. Last time I saw her was at his wedding to another woman (where I was best man). He is now married to someone else with a one year old, so he has no attachment to her. At that wedding her and I flirted big time and if she had been there alone would have definitely hooked up. We have exchanged emails before but she lives 2+ hours away so never saw each other, plus I was always with my ex.

So she emails me to see if I was available to be her date for an upcoming wedding. I know it's also an invitation to ride her like bicycle for a weekend because I would be staying at her place. Should I even bother to tell my friend that she invited me knowing that he knows that it means I'm likely to bang her? Or would you just steer clear of the whole thing and turn her down.

 

[chestmaster1]

Your friend is now married and has a kid. You have a right to have a good time and find somebody as well. definately don't steer clear of the whole thing and turn her down, i dont know why you would do that but about telling him that your going out with her, I don't think there is a need to tell him if he doesn't ask but if you do tell him i dont think its a big deal.

 

[Smurfy]

hmm kinda weird. put yourself in his shoes and them make your decision from there.

 

[calveless wonder]

he invited his ex girlfriend to his wedding? a little odd

well....depends on a lot of factors. how long ago did they date? how long did they date?

if he's married and has a kid, it's more or less open season......just because he was there at some point doesn't mean you can't be. doesn't seem like there is bitterness there either.

if it was a girl that really did something wrong to him and you were fucking her, that'd be another story.

i usually stay far away from ex girlfriends of my buddies (i've had many opportunities)...but this seems rather harmless. if you feel heavy about it, i'd talk to him

 

[ortiz34]

I think you'll be fine either way. I'd tell him personally, and I'm sure he'd have no problems with it. He did invite her to his wedding , so he must like and respect her as a friend. Which in turn, bodes well for his approval.

 

[jh1]

Pics or stfu.

That's the rules here.

 

[GoldenDelicious]

the rule is that you dont chase a girl that your friend isnt over.

this also kinda applies to your friends first ever love/sex partner. they always have a special spot in anyones heart so its best to stay away from those too.

be discreet, but do what you want, no hesitation

 

[EnderJE]

I think you'll be fine either way. I'd tell him personally, and I'm sure he'd have no problems with it. He did invite her to his wedding , so he must like and respect her as a friend. Which in turn, bodes well for his approval.

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[heavy_duty]

Did friend fuck her in the ass?

 

[Subzeero]

dude go for it!

 

[Becoming]

put yourself in his shoes and them make your decision from there.

this seems to make the most sense...

of course, maybe you should just give me her number and I will drop by and figure it all out for you...

 

[string_bean00]

that guy rule about ex-gfs is for high schoolers


a good friend would understand and high five you after you hit that shit

 

[ole farte']

what man wouldn't drive 2+hrs for some good lovin?

 

[GoldenDelicious]

what man wouldn't drive 2+hrs for some good lovin?

2 years ago i achieved my goal of picking up a stunning girl that lived so close i could walk to her house barefoot

she lived 100m away

i was still too slack sometimes LOL

 

[heatherrae]

I never go out with a friend's ex, ever. It is never worth it.

 

[rudeboyja]

Just talk with your homeboy. If he's cool with it go for it.

 

[slat1]

I believe the man rule goes as long as you show respect by asking him he has to show it by saying yes.
If he says no punch him in the face and ask again... or tell his wife he said no and you will be all set!

 

[Mr. Black]

Hopefully she hasn't turned into a fattie since last time you saw her...I'd ask for some updated pics before committing.

 

[digimon7068]

i've gone both ways with this situation (ex-girlfriend of a dood friend). . .accepted the invitation and turned down the invitation. . .i regret the invitation that i turned down. . .you can never have to many experiences in life (unless one of them kills you). . .someday you're probably gonna be getting married and then those opportiunities will be gone for good. . .if he's a real good friend, tell him about the situation and then go ahead and do whatever you want. . .if you choose to go forward with it, drop the "ride her like a bicycle" notion. . .it might happen anyway, but if it deosn't you're gonna feel like a dipshit. . .

 

[jerkbox]

i'd say if he's married, she's free game

 

[canadianhitman]

I'd never bang a chick that one of my friends banged first....no matter how much time had passed.

 

[Bikini Mod]

I'd never bang a chick that one of my friends banged first....no matter how much time had passed.

Agreed... that is like icky.

Why would you buy a used car that your friend got rid of?

 

[Dial_tone]

Agreed... that is like icky.

Why would you buy a used car that your friend got rid of?

Maybe I know he took good care of it so I got a good deal. If he rode it/her like a rented mule then maybe I'd pass.

 

[canadianhitman]

Agreed... that is like icky.

Why would you buy a used car that your friend got rid of?

Not only that....I know the kind of dirty hoes they've laid with, and with caution thrown to the wind far too many times.

So, to fit it to your analogy....that used car has been redlined many, many times...and might very well have some tricky bugs in the electrical system that you weren't counting on.