Ever decide to dump a friend?

[ponyfitness]

Known this bro of mine for ten years and he's great - except when he drinks (which is every weekend). He turns into a mooch who will try to get you to buy drinks for him all night, get pissed at you when you refuse and wants you to be a wingman for all his nasty pickups.

Finally tonight I just left. I'm thinking tomorrow when he calls me to ask him what happened I'm going to tell him what an asshole he was being and see how he takes it. I really see no way he is bringing value to my life except that he is a party guy and knows everyone at every club in town so he's a good way to get into places for free.

I think I just grew up and he hasn't yet. I could care less about clubbing at this point too which probably has something to do with it.

 

[biteme]

Known this bro of mine for ten years and he's great - except when he drinks (which is every weekend). He turns into a mooch who will try to get you to buy drinks for him all night, get pissed at you when you refuse and wants you to be a wingman for all his nasty pickups.

Finally tonight I just left. I'm thinking tomorrow when he calls me to ask him what happened I'm going to tell him what an asshole he was being and see how he takes it. I really see no way he is bringing value to my life except that he is a party guy and knows everyone at every club in town so he's a good way to get into places for free.

I think I just grew up and he hasn't yet. I could care less about clubbing at this point too which probably has something to do with it.

Lay it on the line. If he can't take it, fuck him. I've had my blowouts with friends and didn't talk to each other for awhile. I kept the ones worth keeping.

 

[mountain muscle]

If you are his friend you will tell him.

If he is a friend he will understand eventually.


I have put some friends in timeout, but a true friend is worth the trouble. He may need a friend to help him out too.

 

[JarheadChiro]

It seems that is all I have is user type friends...

I even had to put my parents on timeout for using me.

I took care of my Granparents for 4 years and well...

not even a thank you from them.

 

[GoldenDelicious]

no need to dump him, just level with him point blank

and yes, i have. most of them, actually. im getting lonlier, but the people who do surround me are better

 

[megamania500]

I grew up pretty wild with some pretty close friends. Now here it is years later and I distanced my friends because they made some shitty decisions for themselves and now I hardly know them. For example, just last month I had a friend over for a few beers. I haven't seen him for over half a year because I moved away for a job. He brought his wife and one of her friends. About an hour into it, he asked if he could smoke something. I said sure, thinking he was going to light a joint. I don't smoke, but he always did since we both used to when we were teenagers.
He whipped out a glass pipe and the three of them smoked up some crystal meth. we partied that night and went out to the bar. But the next day, I didn't feel like pursuing my friendship with him any further. He'll still be my friend (knew him since we were both 6), but I prefer to distance myself with people with alcohol/drug issues. I was that way at one time, but I made the decision to get away from that years ago. (I'll still go out and have a few beers on occasion, but the heavy blackout binges are behind me)

And, no, I'm not going to intervene with his using, he's an adult and can make decisions for himself.

 

[EnderJE]

lmao...crystal meth...

I would of showed him the door right there.

 

[SoKlueles]

i have, because she was a nasty hooker

 

[morph60]

where do you draw the line. How many set of standard's do you have.Be true to yourself and him give him straight talk and things will go just how there supposta.

 

[tbolking]

lay it on the line,

best thing ive heard yet

 

[PBR]

yes i have....when their energy starts to deplete yours, its time to move on.

 

[tbolking]

yes i have....when their energy starts to deplete yours, its time to move on.

Bingo!!

lots of good avice here

 

[DannoMight]

Yep and recently. Known the guy for most my life and he never grew up. Plus the fact that he's a total suckass and backstabber at work just made me lose all respect for him. I don't care for those who try to make someone look bad to make themselves look better.

 

[nycgirl]

yes i have....when their energy starts to deplete yours, its time to move on.

Same here.

Also, when I lose respect for that person.

 

[JayC9]

Known this bro of mine for ten years and he's great - except when he drinks (which is every weekend). He turns into a mooch who will try to get you to buy drinks for him all night, get pissed at you when you refuse and wants you to be a wingman for all his nasty pickups.

Finally tonight I just left. I'm thinking tomorrow when he calls me to ask him what happened I'm going to tell him what an asshole he was being and see how he takes it. I really see no way he is bringing value to my life except that he is a party guy and knows everyone at every club in town so he's a good way to get into places for free.

I think I just grew up and he hasn't yet. I could care less about clubbing at this point too which probably has something to do with it.

Had a friend that was similar in that when he was on something he became a liability. Leveled with him but he'd constantly use the intoxication as an excuse for his behavior. Thought about it and rang him up one evening and told him 'nice knowing you but don't ever contact me again.' He was dragging me down and feeding off my energy, it was like a weight was lifted from my shoulders, no love lost.

 

[heatherrae]

I wish that I could. I have had a friend for about 6 years now who is only my frriend because he really likes me. He calls all the time and sounds very down on the phone. He writes and sends presents, etc. He is much older, and we have nothing in common. He is so kind and nice, though. There is no good way for me to sever the ties. I never call, write, etc. He always keeps in touch. If I don't take his calls, he just calls more and more, writes more, sends packages. =-( I've never had the heart to hurt anyone.

 

[Phenom78]

If he expects you to buy him drinks then you need to upgrade your relationship to FWB (friend with benefits).

 

[needtogetaas]

lol@dumping a friend.what a fagit statemint

 

[Quadsweeps Sister]

yes i have....when their energy starts to deplete yours, its time to move on.

Like an emotional vampire?

 

[thelion2005]

Known this bro of mine for ten years and he's great - except when he drinks (which is every weekend). He turns into a mooch who will try to get you to buy drinks for him all night, get pissed at you when you refuse and wants you to be a wingman for all his nasty pickups.

Finally tonight I just left. I'm thinking tomorrow when he calls me to ask him what happened I'm going to tell him what an asshole he was being and see how he takes it. I really see no way he is bringing value to my life except that he is a party guy and knows everyone at every club in town so he's a good way to get into places for free.

I think I just grew up and he hasn't yet. I could care less about clubbing at this point too which probably has something to do with it.

just quietly move away from him. No dressing down or such.

 

[Sassy69]

yes i have....when their energy starts to deplete yours, its time to move on.

When it actually costs you more to be a friend to them than you gain from the friendship, its probably time to drop them because they are now taking you for granted. Doesn't mean you have to remove them from your life, but I probably wouldn't invest mor time in them than I would an acquaintance and certainly not offer to cover expenses or whatever -- these are usually people who have figured out ways to schmooze and expect you to play the sucker.