Don't ask, don't tell....

[drgoodbody]

Sometimes it's easier to give advice than listen to your own advice. It seems that I keep stepping in this one. I've got a nasty habit of sharing too much about my past relationships with my current relation, and vice versa (her telling me previous stuff)...sometimes more than either of us should know. BAD, BAD, BAD idea. Next time you're going down on your lady, just think about all the other guys who've fucked the hell of her and banged her ass, cum in her mouth, sucked on her tits, etc... and I promise you, that unless you're a swinger or very open minded, you'll be limp in 60 seconds or less. Oh and ladies, same goes; just picture your man ramming some girls ass with the same cock that you've got in your mouth, or fingering and eating some chick with the same tongue you're sucking on, etc.... not good images to have when you're in the middle of the dirty deed yourselves.

Maybe I'm just turning prude in my old age, but I think I'd rather not know what went on before I got there....

DrG

 

[Bikini Mod]

Personally I don't have this problem. I WANT TO KNOW about a guy's past relationships to try and get a gauge for where his head is at now. I am totally open about my past as I have nothing to hide and I wouldn''t want him to hear anything from somebody else.

I don't have a jealous bone in my body. Why would I care where his dick was before as long as he is with me NOW? I am not going to lay down with a man who doesn't have affection and respect for me so what would it matter what he did to any other girl before?

If a man doesn't want to hear about me and past guys, ok I will just be silent. But me, I WANT to know about him.

 

[sniper007]

taboo subject

I hear ya on that one, If asked how many I just say not the right one yet, that usually charms the pants right off. I try not to even think about where the lady has been before, becaus theres no quicker cock deflater than that.

 

[Sinistar]

cock deflator

might as well just split it like a hotdog.

 

[vinylgroover]

I don't really care what went on before me. As long as i don't physically see any of her ex's or people she's fucked, then it doesn't worry me.

If i did see one of her ex's and he looked like a bummed out hippy with scabs and shit everywhere, then i would think twice about licking her ass out etc.

But otherwise, it doesn't worry me greatly.

 

[drgoodbody]

well...

Just to be clear on one thing--- This is NOT about jealousy, its about being very uncomfortable with the ideas planted in your mind. It's kind of like seeing a horrible image that scares the shit out of you or makes you ill, it can be very hard to get it out of your head. I don't want to have those images, so I'd really rather not know about it, except in vague terms, such as "yeah, she wasn't a virgin before she met me."

DrG

 

[Bikini Mod]

I am curious now to see if this is a "guy" thing. Men are supposed to be "experienced" while women are not so I just wonder....

Me, I have always dated men older than myself so it was never a question that he had been with others. As a matter of fact, the notion about being with a virgin turns me off BIGTIME.

I asked my last guy how many women he had had just purely out of curiosity. His reply? He honestly couldn't even begin to guess. Did that bother me? Nope.

Are you guys saying that it really bothers you THAT much that you have some sort of performance anxiety if you get a mental image in your head of another man with your girl? Me, the thought never crossed my mind and now that I am trying to visualize it (as I had an ex and actually saw his ex) it still doesn't bother me.

 

[vinylgroover]

Are you guys saying that it really bothers you THAT much that you have some sort of performance anxiety if you get a mental image in your head of another man with your girl? Me, the thought never crossed my mind and now that I am trying to visualize it (as I had an ex and actually saw his ex) it still doesn't bother me.

I think Dr Goodbody is talking about the visual aspect of previous partners.

It's not about performance anxiety or insecurity, it's more about seeing something that repulses you which then makes you nervous about being with your partner, ie how would you react if you saw one of your boyfirneds ex's and she was a street hooker with track marks on her arms and scabs on the front of her shins. Know what i mean

 

[Bikini Mod]

Well that is a little extreme, don't you think Vinyl? LOL I mean how many people have actually doinked someone like that.

Seriously, I wonder if it is a "guy" thing. Nearly every man that I have been with was disturbed to some degree if I talked about other men. Yet, I am not remotely disturbed by the thought of a man that I am intimate with having been with other women.

 

[vinylgroover]

Well that is a little extreme, don't you think Vinyl? LOL I mean how many people have actually doinked someone like that.

Seriously, I wonder if it is a "guy" thing. Nearly every man that I have been with was disturbed to some degree if I talked about other men. Yet, I am not remotely disturbed by the thought of a man that I am intimate with having been with other women.

LOL, it is extreme.

It doesn't worry me Bmom in the slightest Bmom.........most other men haven't got my moves anyway so it's not like i'd ever be jealous